What would you say if a relative asked if you're upset not to have daughters?

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Anonymous wrote:I am still trying to wrap my head around the fact that you live on the same street and she is saying she is not that close to her son. I would be tempted to reply something along the lines of you hope she’s right because she’s you want your kids to grow up to be independent.

+1 How much closer can you get??!

Seriously. Tell her to move to the same block as her daughter then.

+1 I'm confused too. OP so where do her daughters live? In the same house?

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Anonymous wrote:That is not true. Girls can be just as distant with their grown-up moms as boys.

So, love your sons. Ignore your MIL. And maybe move.

Yup, I'm not close to my mom.
My DH and his mom talk every day for at least 30 min. Her other son is her handy man. Both her sons stayed in the area and help out.

Not about the gender but the relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, she's not wrong . . .

I've heard this a lot, too. I believe it. It's also a strong assumption in many many cultures all over the world.

Not in China and India, the two most populated countries on the planet.

It's the girls that go away. The boys stay.

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OP - this is not true for my family. Both my brothers visit and talk with my mom regularly.

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It sounds like she is intentionally trying to get under your skin. I would try to laugh it off and not show that you are bothered by it. Often people make these types of comments due to their own insecurities as a parent, mother, etc.

I also have all boys and I get these comments (although mostly from strangers). I respond with some variation of “I do think it would be neat to have a daughter but, when I look at my sons and how happy I am with our family, I can’t even imagine feeling disappointed!” Thats the truth for me and I certainty don’t need anyone trying to talk me down from my own happiness.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, she's not wrong . . .

I've heard this a lot, too. I believe it. It's also a strong assumption in many many cultures all over the world.

You are always going to get weird old fashioned stereotypes and assumptions like these. People are just insecure about their own situations and are often trying to feel better about their own parenting or life circumstances. Don’t project things onto your kids like this. You don’t know what any of your kids will be like as adults until they are adults.

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Tell her you’re lucky you have kids? I went through hell and back to have a baby and was unsuccessful. I would give my right arm to have a son (or daughter).

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you listening to her? Just laugh and say "Nope, I'm thrilled with my sons." If she continued on, "All relationships are different - there are no guarantees."

Absolutely.
I LOVE having my two sweet sons!!

We all have different experiences in life.

If she asks if you are sad just happily say no!

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you’re lucky you have kids? I went through hell and back to have a baby and was unsuccessful. I would give my right arm to have a son (or daughter).

xox

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Anonymous wrote:I tell people " no, I always only wanted boys. Never wanted a girl."
Usually shuts them up and it's pretty much the truth.

That's sad too. What if you have granddaughters? Why hate on one sex?

Wouldn't bother me. Grandkids are not kids. I just preferred boys.