ECNL and GA Friendly Scrimmages this weekend

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verb: humble-brag

make an ostensibly modest or self-deprecating statement with the actual intention of drawing attention to something of which one is proud.

"she humblebragged about how “awful” she looks without any makeup"

This is what most “modest and rational” parents do

No, modest people do not brag. That is what modest people do.

Most people aren’t modest. They pretend to be. Most people are competitive. Even Betas are competitive when it come to their kids. This isn’t new. Parents are always trying to gain an advantage for their kid. This is why the landscape looks like it does. We, the parents, created this

I think a rational person can look at the landscape, see a pathway, utilize it without feeling compelled to brag about it every step of the way.

The truth is, you’re bragging to the choir. I love sports, I enjoy watching sports and I enjoy watching my kid play sports. Winning offers a sense of accomplishment and is a reward for hard work. So is an A on a report card. Neither would I find necessary to post about. I can be happy, proud, etc without the need to brag about.

Does anyone but those involved in the game care about the score? No, other than overly invested strangers on a website.

But people do care. Thats why they ask. If you don’t care, that’s fine. If you think it’s stupid for people to care, that’s fine too.

As far as strangers.....you’re posting on a forum. In theory, you’re talking to everyone who is a stranger. So what makes you think that any of the strangers care about what you are saying?

The fact is, you don’t care if anyone like what your saying. You’re saying it anyways.

Just remember, the same rules apply for everyone else.

So, if you don’t like it, don’t respond to it....unless of course, your trying to WIN the argument.

I can almost guarantee someone will start a thread tomorrow for people to post friendly scores and you will be posting on it

The main point is a scrimmage score doesn’t matter.

Overly invested parents believe it does matter.

Overly invested parents in this thread have claimed the importance because of things like, bragging rights, revenge, the “parents are competitive”.

Not one of these parents view the scrimmages as simple opportunities for their kids to improve. Not a single parent has mentioned that scrimmages, because they don’t count and don’t matter that they offer their player an opportunity to play more freely without the fear of negative consequences. Players have a chance to attempt things at game speed they otherwise wouldn’t do in a real game.

But, since all you parents are so competitive, and feel the need to ask and to report the scores the opportunities are wasted on your kids. They won’t attempt to grow, in short they will do what they always do and not risk getting better because you, the competitive parent, want the “win” because of your investment and because you’re their “biggest fan”.

You believe it is the same as a regular game and sadly, that is exactly what you’ll get.

Here you go with the lectures. You going to set us straight? Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Drive by any park, field, or court this weekend and watch the kids and adults play. They’re competing.

Keep posting your 10 paragraph response tho

[Anonymous]

Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drive by any park, field, or court this weekend and watch the kids and adults play. They’re competing.

Keep posting your 10 paragraph response tho

And yet no scores will ever be reported. You seem to believe if a score isn’t reported that competition didn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

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Either great or maybe they have a lot of work to do. You always pull for your kids team to win but also want to see your kid improve every time out. they still compete as they should every time the take the pitch.

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Anonymous wrote:Let FCV play Loudoun in a friendly. Then you’ll see how much people care about a scrimmage

I can't speak for all the teams across all age groups at FCV and Loudoun but re: 07G, neither coach wants that! Both sides see it as "nothing to gain" because if they win, "well, of course we should have won! we're better than they are!" and if they lose, well, half of the parents would commit suicide and then the losing coach couldn't claim that they're still "the best"!

Interesting that this would be the attitude of parents of U14 players.

Makes you think?

Uh. Stick around. It’s real. And yes, the kids even talk trash in the HS halls (Well, they did once upon a time). I laugh when poster say the kids don’t care. Trust me, the kids care. ECNL/GA kids are competitive. Losing should suck. If it doesn’t, well.....good luck

Actually, no one really cares. Not even the kids. Well, maybe the FCV parents and kids care, cuz, well ... that’s all they have in their lives.

ah yes, right out of the gaslighter's manual. Could you possibly be less clever? The fact that you even post here says you care. I liked the way you wove in the dig on FCV though.

It’s fun riling up the FCV crew. You’re right. Don’t care about scores just care about bugging you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

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Either great or maybe they have a lot of work to do. You always pull for your kids team to win but also want to see your kid improve every time out. they still compete as they should every time the take the pitch.

Mindset of staff at a specific club in NOVA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Drive by any park, field, or court this weekend and watch the kids and adults play. They’re competing.

Keep posting your 10 paragraph response tho

And yet no scores will ever be reported. You seem to believe if a score isn’t reported that competition didn’t happen.

If you're on the field. You know what happened. If you act like it doesn't matter I dont want you on my team. I dont care if its a simple inter squad 1v1 drill. If your not competing to win why be out there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drive by any park, field, or court this weekend and watch the kids and adults play. They’re competing.

Keep posting your 10 paragraph response tho

And yet no scores will ever be reported. You seem to believe if a score isn’t reported that competition didn’t happen.

If you're on the field. You know what happened. If you act like it doesn't matter I dont want you on my team. I dont care if its a simple inter squad 1v1 drill. If your not competing to win why be out there?

None of that has anything to do with the parent. This is the disconnect. The parents are here reporting scores not the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

Who said they were rivals? Why do you keep twisting words around for dramatic effect? Very odd behavior. I understand you want to make a point. Try doing so on the facts and not emotion.

What was said was “rival club”. Maybe you were never an athlete, but you do have rivalries in sport. It doesn’t mean you hate other people. Many see it as fun. High school rivalries are the best games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

Who said they were rivals? Why do you keep twisting words around for dramatic effect? Very odd behavior. I understand you want to make a point. Try doing so on the facts and not emotion.

What was said was “rival club”. Maybe you were never an athlete, but you do have rivalries in sport. It doesn’t mean you hate other people. Many see it as fun. High school rivalries are the best games.

Are you serious?

“ If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

Who said they were rivals? Why do you keep twisting words around for dramatic effect? Very odd behavior. I understand you want to make a point. Try doing so on the facts and not emotion.

What was said was “rival club”. Maybe you were never an athlete, but you do have rivalries in sport. It doesn’t mean you hate other people. Many see it as fun. High school rivalries are the best games.

Are you serious?

“ If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?”

Serious about what? A hypothetical? Yeah. I’m serious. If you kids team get destroyed in a game that doesn’t officially count do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

Who said they were rivals? Why do you keep twisting words around for dramatic effect? Very odd behavior. I understand you want to make a point. Try doing so on the facts and not emotion.

What was said was “rival club”. Maybe you were never an athlete, but you do have rivalries in sport. It doesn’t mean you hate other people. Many see it as fun. High school rivalries are the best games.

Are you serious?

“ If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?”

Serious about what? A hypothetical? Yeah. I’m serious. If you kids team get destroyed in a game that doesn’t officially count do you care?

I would be disappointed if my kid didn’t play well and that the team didn’t play well. I would tell the other parents it was nice to see them again and I look forward to seeing them next time.

Again, parents and their kids are not my rival.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. Anyone feel free to answer

If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?

If my kids team won I’m happy if she played well and that the team played well.

When I talk to the other parents I tell them it was nice to see them again and look forward to seeing them again.

Parents of other kids are not my rival. Other kids are not my rival.

Who said they were rivals? Why do you keep twisting words around for dramatic effect? Very odd behavior. I understand you want to make a point. Try doing so on the facts and not emotion.

What was said was “rival club”. Maybe you were never an athlete, but you do have rivalries in sport. It doesn’t mean you hate other people. Many see it as fun. High school rivalries are the best games.

Are you serious?

“ If your child is playing a friendly against a rival club where the parents and players know each other and one team completely destroys the other team....how would you feel?”

Serious about what? A hypothetical? Yeah. I’m serious. If you kids team get destroyed in a game that doesn’t officially count do you care?

I would be disappointed if my kid didn’t play well and that the team didn’t play well. I would tell the other parents it was nice to see them again and I look forward to seeing them next time.

Again, parents and their kids are not my rival.

Again, twisting words for dramatic effect. Again, no one said the kids or the parents were the rivals. It was said “rival” club.

Thanks for responding for the past two hours tho. It shows how disinterested you are.

All friendlies for tomorrow will be canceled.

Feel free to have the last word.

Cheers