Men who leave their wife for younger women

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

I don't believe in slut-shaming in general and would never use those words towards anyone (I'm not the PP who used them, obvi). But to me the long-lasting anger towards the OW seems understandable.

Not me. OW didn't choose to marry you. She never deceived you. You have no idea how much time and effort your husband put into reeling her in. And yet, so many of you scorned old wives are willing and able to forgive your scummy DH and vilify the OW. You don't even know the full picture!

I'm the PP - I already said, I'm not a scorned wife, nor an AP, not a second-third-etc. wife, not a divorcee, and my parents are still married. So I feel like I can look at this objectively.

Can you point to where people said the husband should be forgiven? They are both bad people and both should be vilified. However, I do understand being angrier at OW because she's a random stranger you have no attachment to. It's harder to be mad at the person you love/loved, even when they mistreat you and break your heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

I don't believe in slut-shaming in general and would never use those words towards anyone (I'm not the PP who used them, obvi). But to me the long-lasting anger towards the OW seems understandable.

Not me. OW didn't choose to marry you. She never deceived you. You have no idea how much time and effort your husband put into reeling her in. And yet, so many of you scorned old wives are willing and able to forgive your scummy DH and vilify the OW. You don't even know the full picture!

I'm the PP - I already said, I'm not a scorned wife, nor an AP, not a second-third-etc. wife, not a divorcee, and my parents are still married. So I feel like I can look at this objectively.

Can you point to where people said the husband should be forgiven? They are both bad people and both should be vilified. However, I do understand being angrier at OW because she's a random stranger you have no attachment to. It's harder to be mad at the person you love/loved, even when they mistreat you and break your heart.

Yes. A few posters said they were both POS, just like they did on the Tiger and Elin thread and all of the other threads. And, most people either glorified this cheating old man (way to go Rob) or said 'what's wife's problem with her husband cheating'? She should be thankful he did that'. Some real misogynistic BS there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

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The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

OW doesn’t know you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Why would she? She didn’t make any promises to you, spend half a life with you, make children with you. Your anger is misdirected. Be mad at your husband. If not this other woman, it would have been a different. He would have found someone. Maybe she is married to someone too, maybe not, doesn’t make in a different in the outcome the affair has on your marriage. The vitriol toward the ow is misdirected.
- Im not anyone’s “other woman” and never have been

She sure knew a helluva lot about me because she spent the time her husband was at work trolling my social media, googling me. She also was looking up my friends/our friends and even my exercise/personal trainer. Some sick beatches.

This. They aren't innocent. They know what they are doing and are actively looking to harm another woman. If not, why are they spending so much time so concerned about the wife? Jealous and angry of the wife. Bless their little tramp hearts.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

+100

The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

OW doesn’t know you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Why would she? She didn’t make any promises to you, spend half a life with you, make children with you. Your anger is misdirected. Be mad at your husband. If not this other woman, it would have been a different. He would have found someone. Maybe she is married to someone too, maybe not, doesn’t make in a different in the outcome the affair has on your marriage. The vitriol toward the ow is misdirected.
- Im not anyone’s “other woman” and never have been

She sure knew a helluva lot about me because she spent the time her husband was at work trolling my social media, googling me. She also was looking up my friends/our friends and even my exercise/personal trainer. Some sick beatches.

This. They aren't innocent. They know what they are doing and are actively looking to harm another woman. If not, why are they spending so much time so concerned about the wife? Jealous and angry of the wife. Bless their little tramp hearts.

Doesn’t matter. They/she weren’t married to you. Your husband cheated on you. With her, with someone else, with the babysitter. The “who” doesn’t make a difference. He is the problem. It doesn’t make them (ow) innocent, but they weren’t the real problem in your marriage. That only haas to do with your spouse and you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perlman’s new one looks like a trashy Ho. HUGE tramp stamp on her lower back—almost looks like Affleck’s Phoenix.

Scroll down and see “grandpa” doing a dance routine with her. OMFG :

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-9189331/amp/Ron-Perlmans-estranged-wife-needs-psychologist-battles-depression-anxiety.html

Wow! She looks amazing for 48!

[Anonymous]

JFC, if you engage in a sexual relationship with a man or woman that you KNOW is married, you’re a despicable human being.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

+100

The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

OW doesn’t know you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Why would she? She didn’t make any promises to you, spend half a life with you, make children with you. Your anger is misdirected. Be mad at your husband. If not this other woman, it would have been a different. He would have found someone. Maybe she is married to someone too, maybe not, doesn’t make in a different in the outcome the affair has on your marriage. The vitriol toward the ow is misdirected.
- Im not anyone’s “other woman” and never have been

She sure knew a helluva lot about me because she spent the time her husband was at work trolling my social media, googling me. She also was looking up my friends/our friends and even my exercise/personal trainer. Some sick beatches.

This. They aren't innocent. They know what they are doing and are actively looking to harm another woman. If not, why are they spending so much time so concerned about the wife? Jealous and angry of the wife. Bless their little tramp hearts.

Doesn’t matter. They/she weren’t married to you. Your husband cheated on you. With her, with someone else, with the babysitter. The “who” doesn’t make a difference. He is the problem. It doesn’t make them (ow) innocent, but they weren’t the real problem in your marriage. That only haas to do with your spouse and you

Yeah, no. Values and morals don't exist in a vacuum. If someone robs your neighbor, are you going to give them a pass because it wasn't your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

I don't believe in slut-shaming in general and would never use those words towards anyone (I'm not the PP who used them, obvi). But to me the long-lasting anger towards the OW seems understandable.

Not me. OW didn't choose to marry you. She never deceived you. You have no idea how much time and effort your husband put into reeling her in. And yet, so many of you scorned old wives are willing and able to forgive your scummy DH and vilify the OW. You don't even know the full picture!

I'm the PP - I already said, I'm not a scorned wife, nor an AP, not a second-third-etc. wife, not a divorcee, and my parents are still married. So I feel like I can look at this objectively.

Can you point to where people said the husband should be forgiven? They are both bad people and both should be vilified. However, I do understand being angrier at OW because she's a random stranger you have no attachment to. It's harder to be mad at the person you love/loved, even when they mistreat you and break your heart.

Yes. A few posters said they were both POS, just like they did on the Tiger and Elin thread and all of the other threads. And, most people either glorified this cheating old man (way to go Rob) or said 'what's wife's problem with her husband cheating'? She should be thankful he did that'. Some real misogynistic BS there.

They are both POS.

And in terms of glorifying the cheating man? There are a few MRA misogynist trolls that hang around here (looking at you, open marriage guy) and jump into every thread to say "but what about" and attack women. Their opinions are moot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Perlman thing doesn't really bother me; she's 48 years old. Yes, she is a lot younger, but she is no spring chicken. I clicked expecting to see a 20-30 year old. This even fits the "half your age plus 7" rule. The wife should be glad if he were going to leave her it be with someone this age and not younger. Unlikely to start a new family and split the assets amongst more kids. I'm a woman FWIW.

Same. I was pleasantly surprised when I saw her age, tbh. Was definitely expecting 28-35.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

+100

The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

No one is going to blame the victim. Most will call it as it is, except those who went down that same road. It's never the cheated on person's fault.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Perlman thing doesn't really bother me; she's 48 years old. Yes, she is a lot younger, but she is no spring chicken. I clicked expecting to see a 20-30 year old. This even fits the "half your age plus 7" rule. The wife should be glad if he were going to leave her it be with someone this age and not younger. Unlikely to start a new family and split the assets amongst more kids. I'm a woman FWIW.

Same. I was pleasantly surprised when I saw her age, tbh. Was definitely expecting 28-35.

Especially after the bikini pic - she’s really got a great body. Although the age explains the tramp stamp.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

+100

The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

OW doesn’t know you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Why would she? She didn’t make any promises to you, spend half a life with you, make children with you. Your anger is misdirected. Be mad at your husband. If not this other woman, it would have been a different. He would have found someone. Maybe she is married to someone too, maybe not, doesn’t make in a different in the outcome the affair has on your marriage. The vitriol toward the ow is misdirected.
- Im not anyone’s “other woman” and never have been

She sure knew a helluva lot about me because she spent the time her husband was at work trolling my social media, googling me. She also was looking up my friends/our friends and even my exercise/personal trainer. Some sick beatches.

This. They aren't innocent. They know what they are doing and are actively looking to harm another woman. If not, why are they spending so much time so concerned about the wife? Jealous and angry of the wife. Bless their little tramp hearts.

Doesn’t matter. They/she weren’t married to you. Your husband cheated on you. With her, with someone else, with the babysitter. The “who” doesn’t make a difference. He is the problem. It doesn’t make them (ow) innocent, but they weren’t the real problem in your marriage. That only haas to do with your spouse and you

I think it's going to become the OW's problem when the wife confronts her at work in front of everyone. Or tells her family, or shows up at her home.

You are being childish, of course it will be her problem as well.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is 53 and I'm 47. We recently broke up and he is starting to date a 23 year old who is apparently in college. I think it's disgusting and predatory but he says "age is nothing but a number." Is that true?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is 53 and I'm 47. We recently broke up and he is starting to date a 23 year old who is apparently in college. I think it's disgusting and predatory but he says "age is nothing but a number." Is that true?

I mean, he's not cheating on anyone, right? Both are consenting adults... totally different situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread where everyone spews vitriol at the OW while the cheating husband escapes unscathed. How original.

I mean, they're both scummy. But it's much easier to be angry at a stranger than it is at your long-term spouse, no? Human nature.

(Disclaimer: I'm not an AP or a scorned wife, have not been divorced, and do not come from a divorced home).

True. But it still reflects poorly on ex-wife if you can’t move on and come on anonymous boards and call strangers a ho and whore for ??? Unhinged

Why? When you date married people or cheat you put yourself into that category. And deserve the terms for that behavior. Not that pp, but you're wrong in attacking the person appropriately labeling one of the cheaters.

+100

The wife wasn't a cheater. Nothing reflects poorly on her. She wasn't out lying and screwing behind her spouse's back. She can hate whomever she chooses. And, as another pointed out, so much of the time the OW/OM was married too. So they are screwing up two sets of kids, two families with their nastiness.

OW doesn’t know you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Why would she? She didn’t make any promises to you, spend half a life with you, make children with you. Your anger is misdirected. Be mad at your husband. If not this other woman, it would have been a different. He would have found someone. Maybe she is married to someone too, maybe not, doesn’t make in a different in the outcome the affair has on your marriage. The vitriol toward the ow is misdirected.
- Im not anyone’s “other woman” and never have been

She sure knew a helluva lot about me because she spent the time her husband was at work trolling my social media, googling me. She also was looking up my friends/our friends and even my exercise/personal trainer. Some sick beatches.

This. They aren't innocent. They know what they are doing and are actively looking to harm another woman. If not, why are they spending so much time so concerned about the wife? Jealous and angry of the wife. Bless their little tramp hearts.

Doesn’t matter. They/she weren’t married to you. Your husband cheated on you. With her, with someone else, with the babysitter. The “who” doesn’t make a difference. He is the problem. It doesn’t make them (ow) innocent, but they weren’t the real problem in your marriage. That only haas to do with your spouse and you

Keep telling yourself that. Maybe it will make you feel better, but it will never make you a better person, because you are just as guilty as he is.

If they do it with you, they will do it to you.