Sleep Training 8 Week Old..
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Anonymous
| My baby was like this at 8 weeks... sucks but I do miss having her on me for naps. We successfully sleep trained at 16 weeks and it’s been wonderful. I don’t think she could have don’t it earlier. My only regret was not moving her to the crib at 8 weeks- I think that would have helped to make it so we didn’t respond to every cry. |
Anonymous
And what's your suggestion? She doesn't have to hire help for the baby, she can hire cleaners or a food delivery or laundry service to complete some of the things she's too busy holding a baby to do. |
Anonymous
Why would she hire cleaners to be in the house when it's a pandemic? That isn't smart. |
Anonymous
Sigh. Even Fauci has his cleaners back. You can google an interview with him to see how he does it. Anyway. We’re offering better solutions to OP than letting her 8 week old that weighs what 9 pounds scream himself to exhaustion. He’s not an orphan. He has a doctor dad. Who knows what mom does. She doesn’t seem that bright or emphatic. But yeah. We’re offering solutions. I’ actually convinced now OP must be a troll. No one talks about their kids with such detachment. Unless they maybe need some therapy which is possible. Op if you are a real mom of an 8 week old and a 3 year old please get some help. You are cold as ice. |
Anonymous
OP here. My husband doesn't feel comfortable having a cleaning lady here. He helps as much as he can. My 3 year old is babysat by our neighbor who has a son the same age. I love my children. I don't have PPD. I'm very loving and comforting to my children. It's very different and emotions can't come across on text. I believe sleep training will be the best choice for my family. He will cry less in the week of sleep training, than he will if I'm holding him all day. Him being overtired and crying all of the time with naps isn't good for him. My husband is on board. He is the one who suggested we try it after our friends ( husband is also an MD) sleep trained their child at 8 weeks old. Most of my friends who have sleep trained at 4 months or earlier all have happy, well adjusted kids. Baby was getting sleep and the mom was more happy and had energy to do other things. |
Anonymous
OP here. I fail to see how any of this is your business. I asked advice for those who have sleep trained at this age, not for you to tell me why I shouldn't. |
Anonymous
| I can’t stop thinking about this. OP is getting 8-10 hours at night with one wake up during that time, but the baby is up a lot during the day. What the heck did OP think having a baby would be like? Hold him. Wear him. Walk him around the house if he’s crying. Don’t sleep train him. You have an AMAZING sleeper. |
Anonymous
Your doctor husband and his friends should really speak to some experts. They arent experts in this area just because they went to med school. Speak to some neurobiologist, anthropologists, and developmentalists, etc. As to your getting other things done, a baby does not come into this world understanding that you have other things to do. They are born completely dependent on you. You cant sleep train the biology out of them, their biology changes with your absence. That's how they compensate. They learn not to cry because there is no point. It would be a waste of precious resources. Frequent waking is also protective against SIDS. By sleep training, especially with feeds, you are teaching them not to eat to satiety but beyond for "full" feeds. Babies are frequent eaters and frequent wakers. |
Anonymous
| Check out Baby Whisperer. It's less sleep training and more about getting on a schedule/routine. It helped with my first tremendously. The second was resistant to all schedules -- we got on her schedule. ha. |
Anonymous
| Day time sleep and night time sleep are completely different and use different parts of the brain. Please educate yourself on infant sleep development before you try to sleep train an 8 week old. There is a reason your pediatrician told you to wait. Just because your husband/ friend is an Md doesn’t mean they are experts in this area either. Personally I didn’t sleep train at all. I might weaned all 3 around 10 months and that was that. I kept them on fairly regular schedules and focused on wake windows. As much as possible I put them in the crib in a dark room for naps with a sound machine. None were great mappers at 8 weeks but with consistency were by 3 months. |
Anonymous
| Dude do not even entertain sleep training an 8 week old (at all, but especially for naps). You need to understand the drive for naps is a lot less than drive for nights. I tried nap training when my baby was 6 mos old and it was a goddamn nightmare. She was up for seven hours! I tried for 45 min at a time and she’d be soooo tired but then just scream on and off for 45 min, I would get her out and try again an hour later. It was fine at night and sleep training at night was fine. But naps are a lot harder. You need to just wait it out and remind yourself this is temporary. |
Anonymous
| If your 3 yo is being watched by a babysitter then you are already taking risk with exposure so you may as well hire a post partum doula to help you with getting baby to nap during the day or to give you a few hours of time to nap yourself ; I did this for 1 day a week min for 8 weeks or so back in July with our newborn and it was the best thing to sleep and be able to function. You cannot train an 8 week old ; you adapt to them not the other way around. |
Anonymous
OP here. We are not taking taking risk with exposure. Our neighbor lives in the same condo building ( 6 units) on our floor ( only our units). Her husband works from home and she stays at home with her 3 year old. She watches my son most days so her son has someone to play with. We both follow the same protocols. |
Anonymous
| Thanks everyone. We will start sleep training next week. I’m going to do Ferber big follow some methods of other books. |
Anonymous
This makes me so sad. Please reconsider. Your poor baby just wants its mother. |