Men: Do You Care If Your Wife Makes Less Than You?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weird question. My DW makes something like 25x less than me. So what? She likes her job and I love her. We’re very happy.

The pint is women have this choice to tap out and draft. Men do not.

Men do have this choice. They don’t make it though because OTHER MEN look down on them when they do, not women. Most women married to lower earning men working long hours would prefer that the men tap out of coaching high school football or whatever they are doing that is so time consuming, low paying, and beloved, and do the things that the lower earning women in this thread do (childcare, maintaining the house, organizing social activities).
But men don’t want to give up being a high school football coach to come home and watch the kids and make dinner every night while his wife works late. And it’s not because their WIVES would be upset or lose respect for them. It’s because their buddies would.

Absolutely so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weird question. My DW makes something like 25x less than me. So what? She likes her job and I love her. We’re very happy.

The pint is women have this choice to tap out and draft. Men do not.

Just checking ... this was intended to be a serial exploration of beer puns, right?

I’m the 25x poster. The above is not my point. I love what I do, and she loves (or likes enough) what she does. It’s OUR money and OUR life, 50/50. If she made more, great, if I made less (which I did for a long time, and we’re closer on salary), great. Yes, money makes things easier, but we’ve reached as close to equilibrium as I think any similarly situated couple can.

I appreciate the clarification. I'm also still really curious if "pint ... draft ... tap" was some weird pun riff.

[Anonymous]

I make enough to support us so I don’t care what she makes as long as she enjoys it. Happy wife, happy life is no joke! She is an amazing wife and mother and if she decided to become a SAHM I wouldn’t blink when it came to the money. But her work is very fulfilling and that sense of accomplishment is very important to her.