Have you / would you talk about your affair with your therapist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is important to be completely frank with your therapist. But I do not think I need a therapist to tell me why I am having an affair with a 22 year old.

I am 54 and DW is 55. If I had enough sex at home I would not have had to seek out sex. When I am going to have an affair, I might as well go for my ideal woman, a 20-22 year old college girl.

Really not much to explore there. Nothing that the therapist would help me understand that I do not already know.

Yea you need therapy. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re all good. Maybe men with conscience would feel bad about cheating on their wife? How about divorcing your wife if you want to have sex with other women? You definitely need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ He is actually 32 years older, easily old enough yo be her father (probably older than her father), and I can’t begin to imagine how immature and shallow he is. Seriously, a 22 year old girl (as hell described her) and a 55 year old ban gave exactly zero in common, unless the 55 year old never grew up.

You would be surprised. The differences are what makes it so much more interesting to each other.

We can talk for hours on end. She has a different friend circle and interests. I have a completely different set of life experience.

I find her insights invaluable. She finds my experience useful in so many areas - finding a job, work life balance, issues in marriage, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ He is actually 32 years older, easily old enough yo be her father (probably older than her father), and I can’t begin to imagine how immature and shallow he is. Seriously, a 22 year old girl (as hell described her) and a 55 year old ban gave exactly zero in common, unless the 55 year old never grew up.

You would be surprised. The differences are what makes it so much more interesting to each other.

We can talk for hours on end. She has a different friend circle and interests. I have a completely different set of life experience.

I find her insights invaluable. She finds my experience useful in so many areas - finding a job, work life balance, issues in marriage, etc.

Yeah. Exactly like talking to your son or daughter . I have learned a lot from my 20-something nephews. I wouldn't want to date someone that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ He is actually 32 years older, easily old enough yo be her father (probably older than her father), and I can’t begin to imagine how immature and shallow he is. Seriously, a 22 year old girl (as hell described her) and a 55 year old ban gave exactly zero in common, unless the 55 year old never grew up.

You would be surprised. The differences are what makes it so much more interesting to each other.

We can talk for hours on end. She has a different friend circle and interests. I have a completely different set of life experience.

I find her insights invaluable. She finds my experience useful in so many areas - finding a job, work life balance, issues in marriage, etc.

Yeah. Exactly like talking to your son or daughter . I have learned a lot from my 20-something nephews. I wouldn't want to date someone that age.

No, my daughter is 30 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ He is actually 32 years older, easily old enough yo be her father (probably older than her father), and I can’t begin to imagine how immature and shallow he is. Seriously, a 22 year old girl (as hell described her) and a 55 year old ban gave exactly zero in common, unless the 55 year old never grew up.

You would be surprised. The differences are what makes it so much more interesting to each other.

We can talk for hours on end. She has a different friend circle and interests. I have a completely different set of life experience.

I find her insights invaluable. She finds my experience useful in so many areas - finding a job, work life balance, issues in marriage, etc.

Yeah. Exactly like talking to your son or daughter . I have learned a lot from my 20-something nephews. I wouldn't want to date someone that age.

No, my daughter is 30 years old.

Maybe your girlfriend can be a flower girl at your daughter’s wedding.

[Anonymous]

^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

His own daughter wouldn’t want to be near him or his decade younger than her girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

His own daughter wouldn’t want to be near him or his decade younger than her girlfriend

Seriously I’m in my twenties and if my dad ever dated anyone my age if he got divorced or widowed, I would stop talking to him for awhile. And if it was an affair, I would straight up never talk to him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

His own daughter wouldn’t want to be near him or his decade younger than her girlfriend

Seriously I’m in my twenties and if my dad ever dated anyone my age if he got divorced or widowed, I would stop talking to him for awhile. And if it was an affair, I would straight up never talk to him again.

When I was 25 and moved back home to DC, my dad came with me to help me find an apartment. I remember sitting in the rental office and the agent referred to us as a couple and it was like slow motion, we looked at each other and almost vomited...nooooo!!!! She’s my daughter!!!!

He was 54 at the time. Omg. I’m still grossed out when I think he thought we were a couple

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

His own daughter wouldn’t want to be near him or his decade younger than her girlfriend

Seriously I’m in my twenties and if my dad ever dated anyone my age if he got divorced or widowed, I would stop talking to him for awhile. And if it was an affair, I would straight up never talk to him again.

I think I brought up my daughter not to be so closed minded and ageist. I do not understand what who I am doing with has anything to do with my daughter's age. Why would you even consider your dad's girlfriend's age? Would you feel the same if she was 90? That is ok but not 22?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ That must be a joke about different friend circles. Let's be real - her friend circle all talk about why she is dating an old guy with a dad bod, and you could never introduce her to your friend circle, because even if you were single every single one of them would side eye you and would never respect you again, and would make sure their daughters were never anywhere near you.

His own daughter wouldn’t want to be near him or his decade younger than her girlfriend

Seriously I’m in my twenties and if my dad ever dated anyone my age if he got divorced or widowed, I would stop talking to him for awhile. And if it was an affair, I would straight up never talk to him again.

I think I brought up my daughter not to be so closed minded and ageist. I do not understand what who I am doing with has anything to do with my daughter's age. Why would you even consider your dad's girlfriend's age? Would you feel the same if she was 90? That is ok but not 22?

That would be disgusting as well.