Have you / would you talk about your affair with your therapist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Maybe possible in some VERY limited circumstances, but for all practical purposes untrue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any therapist worth their salt will urge you to come clean with your spouse and end the affair.

But I agree, you can’t really benefit from therapy when you’re hiding such a massive secret from your therapist. You’re not tackling the underlying issues.

Lol, you know jack about therapy, clearly. Any therapist worth their salt does not offer judgment or recommendations on stuff like this. It’s not your BFF.

As for OP’s question, yes I have discussed this with mine. To be honest I’d also love to have sex with my therapist. So there’s that as well.

[Anonymous]

1. Of course you should go into therapy.
2. You don't have to fully ID your AP to your therapist. Just call him Marvin. Or Jack. Or Chip. Whatever. Skip the last names. She doesn't need that info.
3. No reputable therapist will out you without your consent.
4. Your therapist shouldn't tell you what is right or wrong, nor should she tell you what to do. She'll help you figure out what you think is right and wrong, and help you figure out what you want to do.
5. She can't make you do anything.

Therapy should be a positive experience for you. The therapist works for YOU. She is there to help YOU. Not you husband or your AP's wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're projecting. You're feeling pretty darn guilty about this affair, and you're attributing all the judgment to a (hypothetical) therapist.

You're at war with yourself. You need some therapy.

LOL. When Dumb Posters Think They’re Smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

I am a healthcare attorney, not a family law attorney so take this with a grain of salt. All HIPAA means is they can't disclose without your consent. But if you place your mental health in dispute in a legal proceedings you have consented to disclosure. I could see this being discoverable to a cheated on spouse if you claim emotional distress as a reason to end the marriage etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

I am a healthcare attorney, not a family law attorney so take this with a grain of salt. All HIPAA means is they can't disclose without your consent. But if you place your mental health in dispute in a legal proceedings you have consented to disclosure. I could see this being discoverable to a cheated on spouse if you claim emotional distress as a reason to end the marriage etc

Right, but the information becomes discoverable b/c of your choice to put your mental health in dispute, not simply b/c spouse decides they'd like to see your record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're projecting. You're feeling pretty darn guilty about this affair, and you're attributing all the judgment to a (hypothetical) therapist.

You're at war with yourself. You need some therapy.

LOL. When Dumb Posters Think They’re Smart.

I dunno. Looks pretty straightforward to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

I am a healthcare attorney, not a family law attorney so take this with a grain of salt. All HIPAA means is they can't disclose without your consent. But if you place your mental health in dispute in a legal proceedings you have consented to disclosure. I could see this being discoverable to a cheated on spouse if you claim emotional distress as a reason to end the marriage etc

Interesting legal theory...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any therapist worth their salt will urge you to come clean with your spouse and end the affair.

But I agree, you can’t really benefit from therapy when you’re hiding such a massive secret from your therapist. You’re not tackling the underlying issues.

Lol, you know jack about therapy, clearly. Any therapist worth their salt does not offer judgment or recommendations on stuff like this. It’s not your BFF.

As for OP’s question, yes I have discussed this with mine. To be honest I’d also love to have sex with my therapist. So there’s that as well.

The sad thing is you still can't figure out why you're in therapy. Stop all the dysfunctional behavior, raise the bar and odds are you might get well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

I am a healthcare attorney, not a family law attorney so take this with a grain of salt. All HIPAA means is they can't disclose without your consent. But if you place your mental health in dispute in a legal proceedings you have consented to disclosure. I could see this being discoverable to a cheated on spouse if you claim emotional distress as a reason to end the marriage etc

Right, but the information becomes discoverable b/c of your choice to put your mental health in dispute, not simply b/c spouse decides they'd like to see your record.

Your spouse can claim that you have mental illness and include it in the discovery process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any therapist worth their salt will urge you to come clean with your spouse and end the affair.

But I agree, you can’t really benefit from therapy when you’re hiding such a massive secret from your therapist. You’re not tackling the underlying issues.

Lol, you know jack about therapy, clearly. Any therapist worth their salt does not offer judgment or recommendations on stuff like this. It’s not your BFF.

As for OP’s question, yes I have discussed this with mine. To be honest I’d also love to have sex with my therapist. So there’s that as well.

The sad thing is you still can't figure out why you're in therapy. Stop all the dysfunctional behavior, raise the bar and odds are you might get well.

Not so much with the reading comprehension, huh? I just told you why I’m in therapy.

[Anonymous]

Spill that shit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Therapists are not supposed to judge.

A therapist will not discuss anything with your spouse without your consent.

If you end up divorcing, your spouse can request access to your file and the information in it can be used against you.

Ever heard of HIPPA?

I am a healthcare attorney, not a family law attorney so take this with a grain of salt. All HIPAA means is they can't disclose without your consent. But if you place your mental health in dispute in a legal proceedings you have consented to disclosure. I could see this being discoverable to a cheated on spouse if you claim emotional distress as a reason to end the marriage etc

Right, but the information becomes discoverable b/c of your choice to put your mental health in dispute, not simply b/c spouse decides they'd like to see your record.

Your spouse can claim that you have mental illness and include it in the discovery process.

HIPAA is not the only consideration. Many jurisdictions have a patient-psychotherapist privilege.

[Anonymous]

You HAVE to be honest about your life or it is pointless to go to therapy.

HE/she is there to help you, not have an opinion about the choices you make.

YOur post tells me two things:

1) Lying is an easy go=to for you.

2) You don't live authentically.

And if you choose to continue the gap between who you are and the image you present, you will not find peace or mental health. Start trying to break this habit with your therapist. They are probably the safest person for you to share with.