Do I tell my kids they are mixed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of Rachel Dolezals up in here

+1. Lots and lots of people have mixed race ancestry. It's nbd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of Rachel Dolezals up in here

+1. Lots and lots of people have mixed race ancestry. It's nbd.

Pretty much. Lots of people need to take a dna test and they would get some surprises.

I wouldn't tell the kids "they are mixed." I would tell them stories about their family history. The kids probably look white, it sounds, if the parents didn't know they had black heritage anywhay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The United States had the “one drop” rule, which actually does mean that her kids are biracial. It’s a little ridiculous to say that they aren’t given the clear history of how race was turned into a legal category in this country.

Whether or not they identify as mixed race is up to them. And it’s not about how they “look” necessarily. I am a very light skinned woman of brown ethnicity(both sides of my family are brown). I am the only one in my family who easily passes as white. My DNA shows that I am half indigenous, 1% African heritage, and the rest Western European. I do not at al identity as African American or indigenous because I wasn’t raised in those cultures, but that is also because my culture of origin sees those as identities are negative and refuses to acknowledge them if you can pretend you only have European roots. That’s actually very sad, and if I ever did want to explore those parts of my roots, it is even sadder that I might be condemned for it.

Um, no. Biracial means that one parent is black (or another race). I would not even consider OP multiracial. She has distance African genes that have had no effect on how she moves through the world as a white person.

She has a black grandparent, which is hardly a distant relative, and her appearance did in fact affect how she moved through the world. My kids have a grandparent who is Japanese. They can “pass” as they like to say. But they identify as mixed and I’m sure their kids will too. OP never got the option of identifying as mixed bc she didn’t know.

OP's black ancestry is a lot more distant than a grandparent. It's her grandparent's grandparent. That's not the same thing at all.