Daughter wants to shave her head

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update: I convinced her to not shave, but she convinced me to still go very short. Because there are no hair salons open and she HAD to have it done that day (she was adamant), I cut it myself.

It’ll take me a while to get over it, because her hair was beautiful. However, everyday it gets easier because, guess what? She couldn’t be happier. She loves that her hair isn’t making her neck hot and that she doesn’t have to sit through long maintenance sessions and last night she said “mom don’t make a big deal about this, but I think now with my hair shorter my face is more visible and I look a lot nicer”.

She has always been so hard on herself despite always being gorgeous. She never cared about her looks, always said she was ugly, and I thought wanting to shave her hair hair had a little of that built in. So I was very surprised to see self confidence come through with the hair chop. And even though, as I said, I’m still dealing with my own feelings about the hair (or lack thereof), I have to agree, the short hair does bring out her facial features and makes them stand out even more.

Good job, mom. You did a good thing and I’m glad she feels good about herself! Thanks for the update.

That's great OP!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the report, OP - that's great news! Good for you (both)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut it shorter or hire someone to teach her to do it.

She doesn’t want to learn how to do it. Has zero interest.

New poster. That would be unacceptable to me. At a certain point, you MUST handle your own hair.

Actually if you shave it, you don’t have to handle it daily. And shaving it, is a way of handling it.

[Anonymous]

If no one ever saw me...I would shave my head.

I have a weird flat head shape and I would normally look disfigured without my hair, but I would totally shave everything off if no one saw me.

Maybe I should buy a lovely wig and use that when I am being seen and have a bald head otherwise. Like Roald Dahl "Witches" or Cher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut it shorter or hire someone to teach her to do it.

She doesn’t want to learn how to do it. Has zero interest.

New poster. That would be unacceptable to me. At a certain point, you MUST handle your own hair.

It may be easier for her to learn how to handle her hair “from scratch”. A lot of AA women go through this phase - and some of them are a lot older than OP’s daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update: I convinced her to not shave, but she convinced me to still go very short. Because there are no hair salons open and she HAD to have it done that day (she was adamant), I cut it myself.

It’ll take me a while to get over it, because her hair was beautiful. However, everyday it gets easier because, guess what? She couldn’t be happier. She loves that her hair isn’t making her neck hot and that she doesn’t have to sit through long maintenance sessions and last night she said “mom don’t make a big deal about this, but I think now with my hair shorter my face is more visible and I look a lot nicer”.

She has always been so hard on herself despite always being gorgeous. She never cared about her looks, always said she was ugly, and I thought wanting to shave her hair hair had a little of that built in. So I was very surprised to see self confidence come through with the hair chop. And even though, as I said, I’m still dealing with my own feelings about the hair (or lack thereof), I have to agree, the short hair does bring out her facial features and makes them stand out even more.

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YAY! I love this update.

It sounds like letting her have control over her hair is exactly what she needed to build her self-confidence, and cutting her hair short was a great compromise.

Well done, mom. 🙌