13 yo DD was called fat today

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't email the teacher, it's not a problem solving skill, it just passes the baton on to someone else. Help your daughter understand that being fat isn't bad, and that she is not, but even if she was, it's not a bad thing, teach her that there will be SO many people in her life who will intentionally and unintentionally hurt her and she needs to be strong and deal with it. She might be hurt, you love her and you hug her and you get through it together, but you also teach her that when someone feels the need to hurt you, they deserve pity, not space in your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her DD is the size of a grown woman (my stats almost exactly and I’m 40 and have had two children.

Now this does not mean she is fat, but I think we can all agree most 13 year olds are not the size of women. The girls were awful and shouldn’t have said anything, but I’m it sure getting defensive is the right move either.

I don't know about that. I'm a small women and kids that age look pretty big to me (not fat, just big). I've had two children, etc., etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I'm not fat OR deaf you bitches"

Does that help for the zinger arsenal?

I actually think this is waaaaaay better than the litany or cheesy ass "retorts" suggested in this thread. It's directly telling someone you have their number instead bof trying to one up their insults with a quip that could make you look even more like a Target if it's lame (which all of them listed here have been!)

I think doth do protest too much. Me thinks you prob have either a mustache or the herpes.

[Anonymous]

She’s heavy.

[Anonymous]

F~~k em
Go on about your day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enough with calling out the OP for giving the daughter's height and weight.

I agree it is relevant info in trying to see why the daughter was targeted (because she was...especially because of the bit about the girls starting to run with her and then stopping). So they're not calling her fat because she's objectively fat (yes folks, some people are) but because of another reason. So then OP posited some other reasons (she's unathletic, etc.). OP is trying to think through how to best help her daughter. Stop laying into her.

.....so the kid deserves to be targeted? Bullies will always find something to pick on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s heavy.

And you’re an a-hole if that’s all you have to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's interesting that you chose to post your DD's height and weight. Would this have been ok if it was about another girl who was heavier?

My point is that your DD's physical stats are irrelevant in this situation...unless you think they are.

Oh stop it!! OP is trying to give the big picture. And don’t act like you didn’t want to know the stats.

OP, I’m sorry this happened to your daughter. MS is so hard. Since this is a first offense, I wouldn’t contact the school, just be there for her and let her tell you about her feelings and talk to her about body positivity and tell her she’s beautiful.