13 yo DD was called fat today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't blink. Good grief what the hell has happened that a kid can't let an insult roll off their back and keep moving forward.

You're probably the type that calls people fat though, aren't you?

OP, I would have your DD tell you if anything else occurs but let it go if it's a one-off.

I'm sorry. Middle school girls are tough.

I was called all sorts of names....because I was fat. I would have been mortified if my parents did something after one comment. Teach her how to respond. If it becomes bullying (repetitive, she is singled out), then you go to the school.

[Anonymous]

Build your daughter up with coping skills. That's all you can do in a situation like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

I really, really hope you dont have daughters.

I do have daughters... one is 13 and one is 16. I guess I should amend my post. 20 years ago, we would call OP's DD an overweight kid. (Remember that she is just 13... not an adult female.) Now our standards are different. Which isn't surprising given that 40% of American adults classified as obese (not overweight, but OBESE). But that is just my opinion. Or maybe I am just cranky today after being squished by 2 such obese Americans on my flight today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Hey, watch the name calling or I might sit on you."

This.

Good response.

(I’m not good at these, so thanks)

[Anonymous]

At least I don't have a mustache like you, you f*ing whore.

Lol. I'd give her a few stunning things to say back. Things that would knock them right back and run home to mom. But, maybe that's just me.

Anyone have any other zingers that come to mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

No, I think OP nailed it when she said a combo of curves and weak motor skills. Which, anyway, is not the point. OP was not asking if her daughter is fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

I really, really hope you dont have daughters.

I do have daughters... one is 13 and one is 16. I guess I should amend my post. 20 years ago, we would call OP's DD an overweight kid. (Remember that she is just 13... not an adult female.) Now our standards are different. Which isn't surprising given that 40% of American adults classified as obese (not overweight, but OBESE). But that is just my opinion. Or maybe I am just cranky today after being squished by 2 such obese Americans on my flight today.

NP.

Kids BMI charts are different than adult BMI charts. For a 13 year old girl, OPs DD is actually in the top 18% of what is considered a healthy BMI for that age and sex. She might not be “fat”, but she’s definitely a bigger girl.

[Anonymous]

Depends, if she is sporty and muscular at that weight, she could be slim for 13 yo

But self-esteem is important for girls, otherwise you would think you are never slim or pretty enough doesn’t matter what you look like

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends, if she is sporty and muscular at that weight, she could be slim for 13 yo

But self-esteem is important for girls, otherwise you would think you are never slim or pretty enough doesn’t matter what you look like

It’s been established by the OP that this kid isn’t sporty or muscular.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

I really, really hope you dont have daughters.

I do have daughters... one is 13 and one is 16. I guess I should amend my post. 20 years ago, we would call OP's DD an overweight kid. (Remember that she is just 13... not an adult female.) Now our standards are different. Which isn't surprising given that 40% of American adults classified as obese (not overweight, but OBESE). But that is just my opinion. Or maybe I am just cranky today after being squished by 2 such obese Americans on my flight today.

NP.

Kids BMI charts are different than adult BMI charts. For a 13 year old girl, OPs DD is actually in the top 18% of what is considered a healthy BMI for that age and sex. She might not be “fat”, but she’s definitely a bigger girl.

Top 18% of healthy is still healthy and not fat by any stretch of the imagination. You are insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

I really, really hope you dont have daughters.

I do have daughters... one is 13 and one is 16. I guess I should amend my post. 20 years ago, we would call OP's DD an overweight kid. (Remember that she is just 13... not an adult female.) Now our standards are different. Which isn't surprising given that 40% of American adults classified as obese (not overweight, but OBESE). But that is just my opinion. Or maybe I am just cranky today after being squished by 2 such obese Americans on my flight today.

NP.

Kids BMI charts are different than adult BMI charts. For a 13 year old girl, OPs DD is actually in the top 18% of what is considered a healthy BMI for that age and sex. She might not be “fat”, but she’s definitely a bigger girl.

So that makes these comments ok?

Nothing more pathetic than an adult mean girl. Just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but with those stats at only 13 years old, your daughter is a little chunky. You are welcome to call it "curvy" if it makes you feel better. It doesn't excuse the other girls' behavior, but you seemed confused as to why they called her "fat." It is because she is overweight.

I really, really hope you dont have daughters.

I do have daughters... one is 13 and one is 16. I guess I should amend my post. 20 years ago, we would call OP's DD an overweight kid. (Remember that she is just 13... not an adult female.) Now our standards are different. Which isn't surprising given that 40% of American adults classified as obese (not overweight, but OBESE). But that is just my opinion. Or maybe I am just cranky today after being squished by 2 such obese Americans on my flight today.

NP.

Kids BMI charts are different than adult BMI charts. For a 13 year old girl, OPs DD is actually in the top 18% of what is considered a healthy BMI for that age and sex. She might not be “fat”, but she’s definitely a bigger girl.

She has said her daughter has gone through puberty and has hips and boobs. No one at 5'5" and 120 pounds is a bigger girl. She may not be skinny but she is a perfectly normal healthy weight. I was 5"6" and 120 lbs with big boobs all through high school and I was thin. I was athletic but even without the muscle there is no way at the same height and weight I would have been overweight.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry your DD was subjected to mean girls. Just remind her that everyone's body is changing and not at the same rate. I'm sure she knows this. It will take time for her to feel confident with those new curves.

She is a perfectly normal weight for someone her height who has already gone through puberty. She was probably bullied by the Mini-Me of a DCUM poster who can't believe that anyone could possibly weigh 120 pounds, much less at 13! These women are just cranky because they haven't had carbs for 20 years.

At 13, I was 5'4 and 120 pounds. I stayed that same height and weight in HS - I wasn't on some slippery slope to obesity! Honestly, I looked more "normal" than the girls who weighed 70 pounds at 13. After a struggle with anorexia in college (because I had a psycho mom who thought I WAS fat), I returned to 120 until after I had my second kid.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't do anything except be kind to your DD. If this is a pattern of harassment and bullying, go to the teacher. If it's a "one off" girls being b*tches, leave it alone. Your DD won't trust you if you run to the teacher over every little thing.

I also don't think a big conversation over whether OP's DD is fat is really the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least I don't have a mustache like you, you f*ing whore.

Lol. I'd give her a few stunning things to say back. Things that would knock them right back and run home to mom. But, maybe that's just me.

Anyone have any other zingers that come to mind?

Tell her to be the Jena against the Bettys of the world

https://youtu.be/Xi1lVSqSSuA