13 yo DD was called fat today
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Anonymous
| Another one I like. Sorry to hear about your herpes outbreak. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe that's why you're grouchy today. Lol. |
Anonymous
You think things have changed? Getting called fat as a girl has always been traumatic in this society. When you're 13 and your peers say it, it can be the straw that broke the camel's back in terms of anorexia. It is still quite prevalent. 80% of 13 year olds have attempted to lose weight. Whatever your experience was, it wasn't the norm, nor is it relevant here. |
Anonymous
Ditto. It definitely would have affected me to be called fat as a young teen. I wasn't fat, neither is OP's DD. But, at that age, it would have made an impact regardless. |
Anonymous
And not just at that age. As a college student, I witnessed a spat between two drunken girls at a bar. One of them called the other one "A fat whore", and the other one replied: "Huh? Did you just call me faaaat??"" |
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"I'm not fat OR deaf you bitches"
Does that help for the zinger arsenal? |
Anonymous
No. Being called fat is NOT traumatic. Watching a parent get shot is traumatic. Being hit by a car when you're a pedestrian is traumatic. Let's stop being so dramatic about everything. You need to teach kids resilience so they can handle some asshole hurling the first insult they think of, and teach them to NOT be the asshole hurling insults. |
Anonymous
| They meant for your dd to hear them. She is not fat, clearly. Just nasty middle schoolers. Teach your dd to deal with this. Sadly, kids need to learn to deal with this kind of behavior, it will get worse in HS. |
Anonymous
| Being called fat is not that traumatic. I was called fat, and I was not fat. I was called ugly, and I was not ugly. None of it damaged my psyche at all. Nor did I take it to heart. |
Anonymous
For you. Listen, you may have a thick skin and stuff just rolls off you. Fantastic. I tend to fall in that camp as well. But not everyone is. Calling someone fat can absolutely be traumatic. I had a dear friend in HS who was very athletic and so got called fat (she was not). She went on to become severely, severely anorexic. Words matter. And they hurt. And telling people that they should just buck up and be "resilient" is a cop out. It let's the assholes off the hook. So, no. I don't think I'll go with your approach. Which is stupid. But, I can say that to you since you're so resilient. |
Anonymous
You don’t get to decide what’s traumatic for someone else. Maybe examine why you think you’re the decider if all things. |
Anonymous
That’s a good one. |
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Her DD is the size of a grown woman (my stats almost exactly and I’m 40 and have had two children.
Now this does not mean she is fat, but I think we can all agree most 13 year olds are not the size of women. The girls were awful and shouldn’t have said anything, but I’m it sure getting defensive is the right move either. |
Anonymous
Why is the fact that she is the size of a grown woman relevant, or make any of this okay? Because most 13 year olds don’t have your stats as a 40 year old — that makes these comments understandable, and this girl shouldn’t feel defensive? So what’s your advice - that she should go on a diet? You suck. |
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It is a movie, not real life! |
Anonymous
I actually think this is waaaaaay better than the litany or cheesy ass "retorts" suggested in this thread. It's directly telling someone you have their number instead bof trying to one up their insults with a quip that could make you look even more like a Target if it's lame (which all of them listed here have been!) |