Bathroom Line Etiquette

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have let the adult go, it was obviously an emergency.

This.

Your son could have easily peed in a bush, and your toddler could have used a diaper.

[Anonymous]

I would let the woman go ahead of me. She has said it is an emergency. I don't feel I need to violate her privacy by asking for specific details. It would be rare for a 50 year old woman to fake an emergency to get ahead of a 2 yr old and a 6 yr old.

For a couple of years when my autoimmune system was really out of whack, I had almost no warning before needing to poop. I had like 30 seconds to get to a bathroom. If I had to wait longer then my standing still and clenching I could get myself another minute or so. I definitely couldn't walk somewhere. Thankfully, I typically only had this reaction once a day and it was mostly in the morning. There were probably half a dozen times when it struck when I was out. Once I had to pull my car over and just squat on the side of the road. A few times, I did a mad dash to a public restroom.

After that experience, I am always very empathetic to bathroom emergencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

+ 2. If a grown up has a need, they should speak directly. If her poor planning has lead her this predicament, then she just has to wait her turn or use one of the available port-a-potties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?

Just a direct question: “Excuse me. I’m in a bit of an emergency. Could I please go ahead of you and your children?” According to OP, she didn’t even ask. She just talked loudly to somebody else about how bad she had to pee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

+ 2. If a grown up has a need, they should speak directly. If her poor planning has lead her this predicament, then she just has to wait her turn or use one of the available port-a-potties.

I feel for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

+ 2. If a grown up has a need, they should speak directly. If her poor planning has lead her this predicament, then she just has to wait her turn or use one of the available port-a-potties.

I feel for your children.

My children are children. I have different expectations of them than I do of adults. I hope by the time they grow up they learn to both speak up if they have a need and wait their turn in line when they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Both my parents have bladder problems. My mom is 70 but looks 50s.

I have a 2yo and have potty trained. I would have let woman ahead of me. For her to have asked you, mom with 2 young kids, she must have been pretty desperate. Sorry. You are in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both my parents have bladder problems. My mom is 70 but looks 50s.

I have a 2yo and have potty trained. I would have let woman ahead of me. For her to have asked you, mom with 2 young kids, she must have been pretty desperate. Sorry. You are in the wrong.

She didn’t ask. She hinted or whatever. That’s the point.

[Anonymous]

I would not have let her go before my children, nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?

Just a direct question: “Excuse me. I’m in a bit of an emergency. Could I please go ahead of you and your children?” According to OP, she didn’t even ask. She just talked loudly to somebody else about how bad she had to pee.

That's not what OP said. From the OP:
As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go.

-- Personally, I think that's pretty direct.

[Anonymous]

I dont think you were in the wrong OP, I would have done the same. Besides, she could have gone in port-a-potty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?

Just a direct question: “Excuse me. I’m in a bit of an emergency. Could I please go ahead of you and your children?” According to OP, she didn’t even ask. She just talked loudly to somebody else about how bad she had to pee.

That's not what OP said. From the OP:
As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go.

-- Personally, I think that's pretty direct.

Good observation. What more do you need OP? Do you expect a grown woman asking you like she was a child and you the teacher in Elementary school?

And think of it - the three of you would have taken way longer than the time it would have taken her. You are just not a considerate person OP. The reason for this thread is to make yourself feel better and justify your actions.

[Anonymous]

Is this even real? Wasn’t there a post about a week ago where a mom posted about waiting in line to change a dirty diaper and a little kid tried to go in front of her. Everyone on that thread said the kid should wait and the diaper took precedent?