How many men blame the singles on/ divorce on feminism?

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. My STBX might say this. Whenever (before I gave up) I tried to tell him it was unfair that he wasn't sharing in the household work, he would claim I was just obsessed with fairness.

who worked more and provided more income?

Dp If the "person who earned more income or worked more" guess how much housework they would have to do? All of it ( or hire someone) at least they could do is half plus not drop everything and make it worse.

forgot to add "lived alone"

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism doesn't seem to be making anyone happier.

Nope. I'm glad I can have my own bank account, buy property, vote etc etc etc

I'm glad you have all those things too. You should. Still, I think if you polled women on their happiness 60 years ago versus now, you'd find them less happy now than then -- particularly when it comes to gender relations.

Lol sure bud. I’m pretty sure the only people unhappy with equalizing gender relations are men. They wish they could go back to the past because they held all the power then.

You don't seem happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care what men think. As a woman, I'm da#! glad I have choices and can be picky if I want to. Men need to stop blaming women for their lot in life.

and women need to stop blaming men

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism doesn't seem to be making anyone happier.

Nope. I'm glad I can have my own bank account, buy property, vote etc etc etc

I'm glad you have all those things too. You should. Still, I think if you polled women on their happiness 60 years ago versus now, you'd find them less happy now than then -- particularly when it comes to gender relations.

Lol sure bud. I’m pretty sure the only people unhappy with equalizing gender relations are men. They wish they could go back to the past because they held all the power then.

You don't seem happy.

I am actually. Are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I think feminism has caused a few issues in society. It all seems a little topsy-turvy at the moment and I'm female saying this.

There is the me-too movement going on but then we have unprecedented rates of females lying about being raped and the matters getting thrown out in court. A lot of females at the moment bringing up indecent assault from 40 years ago always in relation to celebrities who have money. It's always about money.

Again the me-too movement where women don't want to be objectified by men but women today are wearing less clothes than ever before, getting naked on the internet and being sugar babies. So it's ok for them to objectify themselves.

The fact that women want superannuation for time they have spent being a SAHM is ridiculous. You get that money because you are working, it's not a right. If you choose to be a SAHM then you forgo some benefits.

Women want equality with men in the household but not when they divorce, they want men to pay them to support them, they don't want equality in life, they always want the men to pay.

Honestly after seeing so many men screwed over after divorce with the ex-wife getting child support while living with her new partner in their brand new million dollar mansion I think the system is screwed. If the woman doesn't need extra cash she shouldn't be getting it.

And the money women want to spend on nails, hair, botox, fake tans, make-up. I had a single friend who wouldn't move in with his long term girlfriend. He recognised he couldn't pay for her lifestyle.

I am not sure I would be rushing to marry these days either. It all seems a little off out there, everyone wants to sleep around. Why don't they just sleep around and leave the rest.

No way are you “a female”. Hi, resident Incel troll!

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Anonymous wrote:I think of this comes from the fact that women are more successful then ever in their own. For a lot of women, the salary or job security of the man are not important at least at the initial stages of the relationship. Dating sites bear this out, most of the women are chasing the top 20% of men. Where does this leave men who are not attractive and do not have any other personal or economic success? The easy thing for them to do is to blame feminism (typically defined as equality in the workplace) for the lack of their success. They can claim that women are taking “their jobs” and not respecting them for their looks or any other quality that may have attracted a partner easily in the pass. Obviously, there is a lot of flaws in this thinking.

Female here: If females are chasing only the top 20% of men do you think all those females are the top 20% of females. Why should a male in the top 20% even look at an average female. It doesn't matter if you make a lot of money as a female that doesn't' put you in the top 20% of females. Women are still rated on looks alone and part of the problem is that most women out there are rating themselves an 8-10 when they are actually a 5. With dating sites a man will pump and dump anyone, it doesn't mean he intends to pursue anything with that female. So yes woman are all screwing the top 20% of males while the average males are left behind.

So previously where people equally paired up now females are expecting to pair up with the top 20%. I think women do consider salary and money important it's constantly talked about on DCUM. Then you have women chasing the bad boys and screwing them left, right and centre because now it's good for a woman to experience her sexual freedom.

In the end you have some men who are left behind. I think perhaps they look around and can't find anything to date because the females are all so entitled thinking they deserve the top 20% and females are very promiscuous now, perhaps men are no longer finding that marriage material.

The word you are looking for is woman, women plural. Female does not refer to humans, it could be a pig, a cow, anything with a vagina. Why reduce yourself to being just a vagina-haver? Jesus.

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You don't seem happy.

I am actually. Are you?

Not really. The world is burning, everyone is yelling at each other, and I'd rather not spend most of my waking hours working.

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Anonymous wrote:Not exactly what you asked, but I'm married & sometimes I feel like my wife's engagement with feminist issues gets taken out on me sometimes. She's so immersed in stories of men behaving badly with no direct ability to direct those negative feelings at those responsible that I feel like I sometimes find myself on the receiving end of that negativity.

As if hanging out posting on DCUM is any better!

Both of you stop it and enjoy your life!

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If men are blaming women, then there must be something wrong with the men, certain feminists, the economy, or our culture.

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism doesn't seem to be making anyone happier.

Nope. I'm glad I can have my own bank account, buy property, vote etc etc etc

I'm glad you have all those things too. You should. Still, I think if you polled women on their happiness 60 years ago versus now, you'd find them less happy now than then -- particularly when it comes to gender relations.

I disagree. My mom was (is) brilliant but felt trapped by a restricted domestic life that she never would have chosen if she felt she had more options. My dad is generally a nice guy but was clueless when it came to helping out my mom. He's a much better grandfather than he was a husband to my mom when we were little. I think that story likely plays out by the thousands for many in that generation 50-60 year ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Not exactly what you asked, but I'm married & sometimes I feel like my wife's engagement with feminist issues gets taken out on me sometimes. She's so immersed in stories of men behaving badly with no direct ability to direct those negative feelings at those responsible that I feel like I sometimes find myself on the receiving end of that negativity.

DH, is that you? I totally do this to my husband. I fully recognize that he isn't the perpetrator of the bad behavior that I read about, but I sure wish he was enraged by it, too. We have daughters and I'd love for them to view him as a real supporter of women who need more male allies and as a man who will vocally stand up to men who need to be held accountable.

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Anonymous wrote:Not exactly what you asked, but I'm married & sometimes I feel like my wife's engagement with feminist issues gets taken out on me sometimes. She's so immersed in stories of men behaving badly with no direct ability to direct those negative feelings at those responsible that I feel like I sometimes find myself on the receiving end of that negativity.

DH, is that you? I totally do this to my husband. I fully recognize that he isn't the perpetrator of the bad behavior that I read about, but I sure wish he was enraged by it, too. We have daughters and I'd love for them to view him as a real supporter of women who need more male allies and as a man who will vocally stand up to men who need to be held accountable.

You’re confusing emoting with having a point. Who cares if you’re angry? Do something.

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism doesn't seem to be making anyone happier.

Nope. I'm glad I can have my own bank account, buy property, vote etc etc etc

I'm glad you have all those things too. You should. Still, I think if you polled women on their happiness 60 years ago versus now, you'd find them less happy now than then -- particularly when it comes to gender relations.

I disagree. My mom was (is) brilliant but felt trapped by a restricted domestic life that she never would have chosen if she felt she had more options. My dad is generally a nice guy but was clueless when it came to helping out my mom. He's a much better grandfather than he was a husband to my mom when we were little. I think that story likely plays out by the thousands for many in that generation 50-60 year ago.

+1

My mom is almost 80. She tells my DDs that things are so much better for them than for her when she was their age. Also brilliant, she doing cutting edge lab work when she married my dad. I think she would have been happiest if she’d stayed single or at least been able to keep her finances separate. My dad was a horrible father, but has been a decent grandfather. I think he likes that it’s voluntary and not an obligation.

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Anonymous wrote:If men are blaming women, then there must be something wrong with the men, certain feminists, the economy, or our culture.

The economy no longer favors certain men and those men are angry. They did not appreciate the anger of women and other men who tried for a century to warn that the system was unfair.

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Anonymous wrote:Feminism doesn't seem to be making anyone happier.

Nope. I'm glad I can have my own bank account, buy property, vote etc etc etc

I'm glad you have all those things too. You should. Still, I think if you polled women on their happiness 60 years ago versus now, you'd find them less happy now than then -- particularly when it comes to gender relations.

I disagree. My mom was (is) brilliant but felt trapped by a restricted domestic life that she never would have chosen if she felt she had more options. My dad is generally a nice guy but was clueless when it came to helping out my mom. He's a much better grandfather than he was a husband to my mom when we were little. I think that story likely plays out by the thousands for many in that generation 50-60 year ago.

+1

My mom is almost 80. She tells my DDs that things are so much better for them than for her when she was their age. Also brilliant, she doing cutting edge lab work when she married my dad. I think she would have been happiest if she’d stayed single or at least been able to keep her finances separate. My dad was a horrible father, but has been a decent grandfather. I think he likes that it’s voluntary and not an obligation.

I pretty much never hear how things are so much better today than they were 50 years ago. The general tone of gender relations is extremely negative with little-to-no recognition that things have been improving. The sentiment seems to be that things suck and that's that.