If you have a daughter who is gay, in hindsight were there any previous 'clues"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a kid growing up there were some who showed no clues really (typical girly) and some who were very obvious (very tomboy). I was a tomboy but am straight. So I would say no, it's hard to tell.

Same here. I was always tomboyish and into sports, always have dressed fairly plainly, don't wear makeup except on special occasions, very shy and awkward as a kid. But I'm straight. I had crushes on boys or male actors from the time I was 9 or 10 and have never felt attracted to women.

I had a friend who was even more tomboyish than me (we were the only two girls who played sports with the boys at recess, including touch football until 6th grade when the boys wouldn't play with us anymore) and she cut her hair like a boy, dressed in her brothers' clothes, etc. I thought for sure she was gay. Ran into her a few years ago and she is married to a man and has young kids and dresses quite feminine now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a few friends come out- what they had in common:

Lack of concern for appearance/no makeup/hair grooming, never skirts or dresses
Awkwardness
Always wanting -or not wanting to hug- again, awkwardness.
Being jealous/feeling competitive with my HS crushes or boyfriends
Always trying to get IN the same stall when I’m changing-I mean, it happens, but hauling ass or pounding on the door angry/crying every time to get in?
When they did date- dated guys who were (to me at the time) obviously in the closet

This cannot be real. Your lesbian friends were pounding on the door and crying to get in the room in which you were changing? BS.

One of my daughters female friends was like this. Very touchy feels, like would want to wrestle and be all over her. Would not let her be in the bathroom alone. Very jealous of my daughters other friends, even her little sister. They were only 6 when I first noticed this behavior in the other girl. They’re now 10. They’ve grown apart but mainly because I’ve distanced myself from the girls family. No idea if she is gay, but wouldn’t surprise me. My daughter is already into boys and gets all nervous around cute ones.