If you have a daughter who is gay, in hindsight were there any previous 'clues"?

Anonymous
When my sister came out at 23, it was a giant “duh” moment. We all knew. We just needed her to confirm before we assumed.
Anonymous
I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.
Anonymous
I have a few friends come out- what they had in common:

Lack of concern for appearance/no makeup/hair grooming, never skirts or dresses
Awkwardness
Always wanting -or not wanting to hug- again, awkwardness.
Being jealous/feeling competitive with my HS crushes or boyfriends
Always trying to get IN the same stall when I’m changing-I mean, it happens, but hauling ass or pounding on the door angry/crying every time to get in?
When they did date- dated guys who were (to me at the time) obviously in the closet
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have a few friends come out- what they had in common:

Lack of concern for appearance/no makeup/hair grooming, never skirts or dresses
Awkwardness
Always wanting -or not wanting to hug- again, awkwardness.
Being jealous/feeling competitive with my HS crushes or boyfriends
Always trying to get IN the same stall when I’m changing-I mean, it happens, but hauling ass or pounding on the door angry/crying every time to get in?
When they did date- dated guys who were (to me at the time) obviously in the closet


Your friends are weird. This isn’t “gay” behavior. Except the no skirts/dresses/makeup, I don’t know any gay women who did the things you listed. And even with the skirts/dresses/makeup, I know plenty girly lesbians.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?



Honestly I just knew. It was a combination of things that all pointed to him being on a different “journey” than my other boys.
Anonymous
My neighbor growing up is a lesbian who didn’t come out until her 30s. She was a tomboy, hated anything girly, wore boys clothes, refused to wear a bra for a long time and instead wore two shirts layered to hide her breasts (no matter how hot it was).
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?



Honestly I just knew. It was a combination of things that all pointed to him being on a different “journey” than my other boys.


Let me guess, the others were “all boy” rough and tumble?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?



Honestly I just knew. It was a combination of things that all pointed to him being on a different “journey” than my other boys.


Ok, what were some of those “things?”
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Many adult lesbians/bi people look back and are like “duh” although not for the stereotypical reasons. I was never a tomboys really, just “weird”. Of my weird friends some of them grew up queer some not. What is obvious in retrospect is that I have the most intense crushes on female characters/actors that I just... assumed were about liking the movie or something? ? So probably would have been noticeable to some adults but not in the ways you might think.



Weird in what way exactly?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?




My friend has a son who I could tell clear as day was gay when he was 4. He was extremely into girly stuff. He's 14 now, and yep he's gay.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own.


What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old?



Honestly I just knew. It was a combination of things that all pointed to him being on a different “journey” than my other boys.


Let me guess, the others were “all boy” rough and tumble?



DP. You can roll your eyes all you want, but these stereotypes exist for a reason.
Anonymous
PP with the gay friend and the gay daughter; my DD was never tomboyish. In fact always very feminine. Now 16 and pretty emphatic about being a lesbian for about 4 years now.
Anonymous
Anyone here with a gay daughter who WASN'T a tomboy, and was in fact rather feminine and had crushes on boys as a kid?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:PP with the gay friend and the gay daughter; my DD was never tomboyish. In fact always very feminine. Now 16 and pretty emphatic about being a lesbian for about 4 years now.




Did she say she was a lesbian when she was 12, or is she now saying that she's felt that way since she was 12?
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