When my sister came out at 23, it was a giant “duh” moment. We all knew. We just needed her to confirm before we assumed. |
I knew my son was gay when he was a toddler. By the time he was in preschool it was pretty clear to everyone. He’s a happily married surgeon now with two straight (we think) kids of his own. |
I have a few friends come out- what they had in common:
Lack of concern for appearance/no makeup/hair grooming, never skirts or dresses Awkwardness Always wanting -or not wanting to hug- again, awkwardness. Being jealous/feeling competitive with my HS crushes or boyfriends Always trying to get IN the same stall when I’m changing-I mean, it happens, but hauling ass or pounding on the door angry/crying every time to get in? When they did date- dated guys who were (to me at the time) obviously in the closet |
Your friends are weird. This isn’t “gay” behavior. Except the no skirts/dresses/makeup, I don’t know any gay women who did the things you listed. And even with the skirts/dresses/makeup, I know plenty girly lesbians. |
What? How do you know your son is gay when he’s under 3 years old? |
Honestly I just knew. It was a combination of things that all pointed to him being on a different “journey” than my other boys. |
My neighbor growing up is a lesbian who didn’t come out until her 30s. She was a tomboy, hated anything girly, wore boys clothes, refused to wear a bra for a long time and instead wore two shirts layered to hide her breasts (no matter how hot it was). |
Let me guess, the others were “all boy” rough and tumble? ![]() |
Ok, what were some of those “things?” |
Weird in what way exactly? |
My friend has a son who I could tell clear as day was gay when he was 4. He was extremely into girly stuff. He's 14 now, and yep he's gay. |
DP. You can roll your eyes all you want, but these stereotypes exist for a reason. |
PP with the gay friend and the gay daughter; my DD was never tomboyish. In fact always very feminine. Now 16 and pretty emphatic about being a lesbian for about 4 years now. |
Anyone here with a gay daughter who WASN'T a tomboy, and was in fact rather feminine and had crushes on boys as a kid? |
Did she say she was a lesbian when she was 12, or is she now saying that she's felt that way since she was 12? |