Do fat women who are Body-Positive really love being fat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The title of your post tells me you don't really get it. I don't think these women love "being fat". They have just learned that despite what society wants to tell them, they have a body, they are the way God or nature or whatever made them, their body is a miracle and amazing and doing what bodies are designed to do. They can embrace and accept and love themselves and even their bodies despite your disgust and that's OK.

That's how I take it. It's more about acceptance of their bodies and appreciation for what they can do, coupled with wanting society to accept them and lay off the judgement based on their bodies.

Their bodies got fat because they are too much food. Soon their bodies will also get aches, diabetes, and heart disease. I agree their body is doing what they were designed to do, what I don’t get is why people are so accepting of health problems that have an obvious cause.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The title of your post tells me you don't really get it. I don't think these women love "being fat". They have just learned that despite what society wants to tell them, they have a body, they are the way God or nature or whatever made them, their body is a miracle and amazing and doing what bodies are designed to do. They can embrace and accept and love themselves and even their bodies despite your disgust and that's OK.

That's how I take it. It's more about acceptance of their bodies and appreciation for what they can do, coupled with wanting society to accept them and lay off the judgement based on their bodies.

Their bodies got fat because they are too much food. Soon their bodies will also get aches, diabetes, and heart disease. I agree their body is doing what they were designed to do, what I don’t get is why people are so accepting of health problems that have an obvious cause.

So what do you say about thin ppl who also get aches, diabetes and heart disease?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The title of your post tells me you don't really get it. I don't think these women love "being fat". They have just learned that despite what society wants to tell them, they have a body, they are the way God or nature or whatever made them, their body is a miracle and amazing and doing what bodies are designed to do. They can embrace and accept and love themselves and even their bodies despite your disgust and that's OK.

That's how I take it. It's more about acceptance of their bodies and appreciation for what they can do, coupled with wanting society to accept them and lay off the judgement based on their bodies.

Their bodies got fat because they are too much food. Soon their bodies will also get aches, diabetes, and heart disease. I agree their body is doing what they were designed to do, what I don’t get is why people are so accepting of health problems that have an obvious cause.

So what do you say about thin ppl who also get aches, diabetes and heart disease?

fat and thin people can lack nutrition. lack of nutrition can cause many problems. carrying a lot of body fat doesn't help these problems go away. it's better to be at a normal weight with health issues than it is to be fat and have health issues.

[Anonymous]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-is-body-neutrality_n_5b61d8f9e4b0de86f49d31b4

Of course, I am sure there are some people on here who 1. cannot see that hating your body almost never leads to change and 2. that there are some people who SHOULD hate their bodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-is-body-neutrality_n_5b61d8f9e4b0de86f49d31b4

Of course, I am sure there are some people on here who 1. cannot see that hating your body almost never leads to change and 2. that there are some people who SHOULD hate their bodies.

And it’s only fat people who SHOULD hate their bodies, right?

[Anonymous]

I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

Body positivity is great. Healthy at every size is a fantasy. The OP asked about HAES.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

Body positivity is great. Healthy at every size is a fantasy. The OP asked about HAES.

I’m a registered dietitian in dc working in weight management and I think this sums it up perfectly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

Body positivity is great. Healthy at every size is a fantasy. The OP asked about HAES.

I’m a registered dietitian in dc working in weight management and I think this sums it up perfectly

Maybe not every size but acting like a size 12, 14, 16 is unhealthy is incorrect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

Body positivity is great. Healthy at every size is a fantasy. The OP asked about HAES.

I’m a registered dietitian in dc working in weight management and I think this sums it up perfectly

Maybe not every size but acting like a size 12, 14, 16 is unhealthy is incorrect.

Well that definitely depends on height...

[Anonymous]

It's a complete fantasy that excess weight (and I mean more than 20 lbs overweight) causes zero health problems.

When you have more weight for your body to carry, it necessarily puts more pressure on your muscles and bones. At the extreme, it's harder for doctors to do surgery because they have to cut through the fat.

For some people, they can't help it, but for many it's PREVENTABLE.

That's why it's completely different from having special needs and comparing the two is offensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a complete fantasy that excess weight (and I mean more than 20 lbs overweight) causes zero health problems.

When you have more weight for your body to carry, it necessarily puts more pressure on your muscles and bones. At the extreme, it's harder for doctors to do surgery because they have to cut through the fat.

For some people, they can't help it, but for many it's PREVENTABLE.

That's why it's completely different from having special needs and comparing the two is offensive.

I live with a man whose thyroid is shot. His whole body is designed to hang onto every calorie he can. He starved himself once, right before we got together, and lost 100 pounds - and was still overweight. And as soon as he started eating normally again he packed it back on again.

He could be more active. He could eat better. But I see how hard he's tried to lose weight in a permanent way, and how nearly impossibly it would be for him to do so.

So GFY. I'm going to guess you're thin, have always been thin, and have no idea what it's like to try to be thin when your body doesn't want to be. If it really were just a matter of eating better and exercising more, don't you think Oprah - with her infinite resources and live in the public eye - would have managed that by now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 60 pounds which makes me just 50 pounds overweight. I will likely never lose that other 50 pounds but I feel better, move more and look better in a smaller body. I had forgotten how it felt to try clothes on in a store and have them fit. To not feel like people were watching and judging me when I ate or tried to exercise. I did/do not love being fat. But it is unhealthy to hate my body, which gets me up every day and gets me around the world. I think the body positivity movement is about not hating your body and honoring what it can do.

This. I'm working on loving my body just so I *can* lose weight.

Body positivity is great. Healthy at every size is a fantasy. The OP asked about HAES.

I’m a registered dietitian in dc working in weight management and I think this sums it up perfectly

Maybe not every size but acting like a size 12, 14, 16 is unhealthy is incorrect.

Well that definitely depends on height...

Sure if you are 5 ft tall maybe. But calling those sizes large does not help or saying the are plus sized is ridiculous. That is literally body shaming. Just like if xs was called Skelton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a complete fantasy that excess weight (and I mean more than 20 lbs overweight) causes zero health problems.

When you have more weight for your body to carry, it necessarily puts more pressure on your muscles and bones. At the extreme, it's harder for doctors to do surgery because they have to cut through the fat.

For some people, they can't help it, but for many it's PREVENTABLE.

That's why it's completely different from having special needs and comparing the two is offensive.

I live with a man whose thyroid is shot. His whole body is designed to hang onto every calorie he can. He starved himself once, right before we got together, and lost 100 pounds - and was still overweight. And as soon as he started eating normally again he packed it back on again.

He could be more active. He could eat better. But I see how hard he's tried to lose weight in a permanent way, and how nearly impossibly it would be for him to do so.

So GFY. I'm going to guess you're thin, have always been thin, and have no idea what it's like to try to be thin when your body doesn't want to be. If it really were just a matter of eating better and exercising more, don't you think Oprah - with her infinite resources and live in the public eye - would have managed that by now?

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