Entertaining adult nieces and nephews - normal?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

Take the air quotes away honey, because 18 and 20 are adults. When I was 18, I was working and earning my own money and paying for my own entertainment and food. Her adult offspring are no better than the older moochers, yet she seems to think her offspring = great and the other adults in the equation = awful.

You sound jealous.

Jealous of 400-pound, soda-guzzling losers who hang out with their teen cousins and middle-aged aunt all the time?

Jealous you had to earn your own way.

What, like an adult?

I didn't have to. I would have been welcome at my parents' house, provided I had at least a part-time job in the summer. But working part-time at The Limited wasn't going to get me a job as a journalist at a major newspaper; my experience and internships in newspapers absolutely did.

See how that works?

See how what works? You sound unhappy. Maybe take a vacation honey. Working so hard has hardened you.

I have had a luxurious life. Worst 3 million at 44 and never worked FT in my entire life. I win.

So, you were either born into it, or married into it. If the former - congratulations? If the later - you do work for it. If you think really hard, you'll be able to conjure up the name of your profession. Hint - it's old. Some would say the world's oldest.

Investing is what it's called. Some people do it better than others. Real estate. Hint: I bought in the mid 90's.

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Sad troll, OP.

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You want them to like you, so you’re hastening their premature deaths from the consequences of their obesity.

Short term versus long term.
Got it.

No because they are adults and could exercise some self control.

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There are so many crazy and hostile responses, I could only read the first few pages.

OP, I think its great the cousins are close, and it’s worth finding a way to ease your stress around if hosting so you can maintain that bond.

First, I would switch to 2 liter bottles of soda. You can decrease the total amount of soda available, surreptitiously, with this kind of packaging choice. Then buy cans of La Croix or other seltzer. If it’s not all sugar, they may slow down their consumption.

Limit the number of bags of chips and fill the gap with vegetables and dip or some other healthier snack. Again, it gives the appearance of continuing to offer a lot of food but it might slow down or limit total consumption since it's less “junky.”

Have your kids take over cooking hosting duties. Give them a recipe for a big pot of something filling that all the cousins can make together. This gets you off the hook for labor and forces them to reckon with appropriate portions. Provide ingredients for generous portions that are still in the range of normal adult size portions.

Then don’t feel guilty. You will have been a great host.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

Take the air quotes away honey, because 18 and 20 are adults. When I was 18, I was working and earning my own money and paying for my own entertainment and food. Her adult offspring are no better than the older moochers, yet she seems to think her offspring = great and the other adults in the equation = awful.

You sound jealous.

Jealous of 400-pound, soda-guzzling losers who hang out with their teen cousins and middle-aged aunt all the time?

Jealous you had to earn your own way.

What, like an adult?

I didn't have to. I would have been welcome at my parents' house, provided I had at least a part-time job in the summer. But working part-time at The Limited wasn't going to get me a job as a journalist at a major newspaper; my experience and internships in newspapers absolutely did.

See how that works?

Dp. We aren't talking about you. No one is interested in learning you had to walk to school uphill both ways
Start your own thread if you want to brag.

Op. What do your kids think?
Maybe they can help with preparing or giving money.

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Is anyone else curious what the cousins are doing for 12 hours while consuming so much food? Are they watching sports, video games, or what?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

Take the air quotes away honey, because 18 and 20 are adults. When I was 18, I was working and earning my own money and paying for my own entertainment and food. Her adult offspring are no better than the older moochers, yet she seems to think her offspring = great and the other adults in the equation = awful.

You sound jealous.

Jealous of 400-pound, soda-guzzling losers who hang out with their teen cousins and middle-aged aunt all the time?

Jealous you had to earn your own way.

What, like an adult?

I didn't have to. I would have been welcome at my parents' house, provided I had at least a part-time job in the summer. But working part-time at The Limited wasn't going to get me a job as a journalist at a major newspaper; my experience and internships in newspapers absolutely did.

See how that works?

See how what works? You sound unhappy. Maybe take a vacation honey. Working so hard has hardened you.

I have had a luxurious life. Worst 3 million at 44 and never worked FT in my entire life. I win.

So, you were either born into it, or married into it. If the former - congratulations? If the later - you do work for it. If you think really hard, you'll be able to conjure up the name of your profession. Hint - it's old. Some would say the world's oldest.

Investing is what it's called. Some people do it better than others. Real estate. Hint: I bought in the mid 90's.

Real winners don't brag about "winning" to strangers. Not op or pp

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If you have the food, they'll eat it.

I'd cut back gradually. And stop stocking canned soda. Maybe schedule something for yourself to do outside the house and let them figure out how to feed themselves. They're old enough to hang out without you, you know?

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Why do you even buy soda?

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Anonymous wrote:Are they all obese?

2/3

One is about 400lbs. One is about 280lbs if I had to guess.

Good lord! Yes, that is obese. Stop enabling them with all that junk food. Serve a normal meal. 48 cans of soda????????

They eat until all the food is gone. It's so weird.

My DH does this. It’s so bizarre. I would literally double a recipe that we usually had for dinner, but if he saw the second lasagna pan he would still devour it. The thing is when I made a normal sized meal he would eat regular portions. At a minimum he would have to wait until everyone served themselves before getting seconds/thirds. It was gross and he’s not even obese! I actually had to have a conversation about this and he doesn’t do it anymore, but I can see young adults at their aunts house feeling comfortable enough to eat all the food.

The only way to solve this is to stop having so much food. A 12 pack of soda is plenty. Same with 4 pizzas. Water pitchers with lemon slices after that.

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Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else curious what the cousins are doing for 12 hours while consuming so much food? Are they watching sports, video games, or what?

Porn.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you even buy soda?

Pretty normal thing to have on hand for young adult guests.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you even buy soda?

Pretty normal thing to have on hand for young adult guests.

Not six gallons of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you even buy soda?

Pretty normal thing to have on hand for young adult guests.

Not six gallons of it.

It lasts a while. So, I stock up when it's on sale. Many people do.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you even buy soda?

Pretty normal thing to have on hand for young adult guests.

I have two college age kids and constant flow of their friends through my house. I haven’t seen a soft drink in my house all summer.