Entertaining adult nieces and nephews - normal?

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:All right. This is the first time I've ever ever done this but I do not believe this is a real post. At all

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

I worked at a summer camp *making money and paying for my own meals* the summer after high school. I spent my college summers 1) working at a camp, i2) nterning at a newspaper, 3) running my college's student newspaper and then graduated with a job.

Your kids are mooching and not paying for their own meals and entertainment. Huh.

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2/3

One is about 400lbs. One is about 280lbs if I had to guess.

Good lord! Yes, that is obese. Stop enabling them with all that junk food. Serve a normal meal. 48 cans of soda????????

They eat until all the food is gone. It's so weird.

Then stop stocking so much food.

Problem. Solved.

Thats what DH says. It is the answer. I know. It's hard to change because they are accustomed to it.

You're a shitty parent and a shitty aunt if you haven't yet gotten comfortable with not meeting unreasonable expectations from your kids and nieces/nephews.

To be honest, it's always been like this with the nieces and nephews so I didn't find it weird.

Lately I'm exhausted when they visit. The recycling bin is overflowing and I feel guilty that I don't want them to visit as much.

BUT they are great people. That's why I feel so bad. I guess I like to be the nice aunt.

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

I worked at a summer camp *making money and paying for my own meals* the summer after high school. I spent my college summers 1) working at a camp, i2) nterning at a newspaper, 3) running my college's student newspaper and then graduated with a job.

Your kids are mooching and not paying for their own meals and entertainment. Huh.

My kids work FT for the summer.
They aren't mooching. They tell me that they can make sandwiches. But that's not how I roll.

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I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

OK then let's focus on how weird it is that the cousins, who are all at least 10 years older than your kids, want to hang out with their cousins so often. Don't they have same-age friends? When I was 21, I sure as heck wasn't hanging out with my 31-year old cousin. Bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they all obese?

2/3

One is about 400lbs. One is about 280lbs if I had to guess.

Good lord! Yes, that is obese. Stop enabling them with all that junk food. Serve a normal meal. 48 cans of soda????????

They eat until all the food is gone. It's so weird.

Then stop stocking so much food.

Problem. Solved.

Thats what DH says. It is the answer. I know. It's hard to change because they are accustomed to it.

You're a shitty parent and a shitty aunt if you haven't yet gotten comfortable with not meeting unreasonable expectations from your kids and nieces/nephews.

To be honest, it's always been like this with the nieces and nephews so I didn't find it weird.

Lately I'm exhausted when they visit. The recycling bin is overflowing and I feel guilty that I don't want them to visit as much.

BUT they are great people. That's why I feel so bad. I guess I like to be the nice aunt.

Take some effing ownership over your life, you doormat/martyr.

Tell them you're not up for hosting, but you hear the new restaurant down the street is great if they want to come by and check it out.

Stop stocking up with end-of-days-bunker levels of food.

Assign them things to bring and contribute.

Stop being such a goddamn doormat. Or choose to be the "nice aunt" and stop complaining. Your life, YOUR house, YOUR choices.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

Take the air quotes away honey, because 18 and 20 are adults. When I was 18, I was working and earning my own money and paying for my own entertainment and food. Her adult offspring are no better than the older moochers, yet she seems to think her offspring = great and the other adults in the equation = awful.

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

OK then let's focus on how weird it is that the cousins, who are all at least 10 years older than your kids, want to hang out with their cousins so often. Don't they have same-age friends? When I was 21, I sure as heck wasn't hanging out with my 31-year old cousin. Bizarre.

My kids absolutely cherish their time with cousins. I raised them to be close with family. Family before friends.

But they have tons of friends too. I think it's admirable they are close to their cousins.

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Anonymous wrote:My three adult (28-31 yrs) nieces and nephews come over about once a month to hang out with my 18, 20 year old kids.
I do a special grocery shop but it's never enough. They stay for 12 hours which feels really long. They live an hour away.

When the three of them come, we go through 48 soda cans, 8 bags of chips, ice cream, fruit trays, cookies. I end up doing two full meals since they are here so long. I do salads, order four large pizzas for them along with wings and garlic bread. Then I order in Chinese for dinner. They will eat everything I put in front of them and it's a full time job keeping the food coming, lol.

I used to cook but it was way too much work. Last time I barbecued some burgers and they had THREE burgers in a sitting with buns and all the fixings plus sides.

Honestly, the visits are taking too much out of me. Are they extreme eaters? I feel bad even posting it but it seems they go hog wild when they are here.

Okay. something seems really off. 48 cans of soda for let's say all seven of you? So that's more than 6 cans per person? And a bag of chips per person? I assume you don't mean the little snack lunch size?

Buy a liter of soda and then it's water after that. Water from the sink.

Each of the adult siblings had three burgers each?

I'm just finding all of this really hard to believe.

The OP clarified that 2 of the 3 visiting cousins are obese. That kind of explains some of the extreme consumption of soda and food. It all sounds super unhealthy and gross--and a terrible influence for OP's kids.

Um, OP doesn't have "kids" at home: She has adults at home. If they haven't figured out some good eating habits by now, I don't think cousins are the problem.

My one son is a workout Fanatic and he watched his food big time. The other one is average. I'm not worried.

Your adult kids live at home, and apparently haven't figured out that they need to pay for their own Chinese take-out. You should be worried.

They just turned 18 and 20. One just finished highschool last month. Where else would he live? The other attends college and is home for summer. College is 45 min away so he comes home on weekend during the year.

Why do you care? My kids are doing well thanks.

I worked at a summer camp *making money and paying for my own meals* the summer after high school. I spent my college summers 1) working at a camp, i2) nterning at a newspaper, 3) running my college's student newspaper and then graduated with a job.

Your kids are mooching and not paying for their own meals and entertainment. Huh.

My kids work FT for the summer.
They aren't mooching. They tell me that they can make sandwiches. But that's not how I roll.

Then roll how you roll, and QUIT YOUR BITCHIN'.

[Anonymous]

The more OP responds, the more I'm convinced this is fake: "Look at these hugely obese people who fit every eating stereotype possible and my perfect kids and my inability to accept or do anything differently." Pot stirring.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny people are trying to attack OP's "adult" children. Why is that?

Take the air quotes away honey, because 18 and 20 are adults. When I was 18, I was working and earning my own money and paying for my own entertainment and food. Her adult offspring are no better than the older moochers, yet she seems to think her offspring = great and the other adults in the equation = awful.

You sound jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:The more OP responds, the more I'm convinced this is fake: "Look at these hugely obese people who fit every eating stereotype possible and my perfect kids and my inability to accept or do anything differently." Pot stirring.

The cousins are fantastic people in all ways but this.

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OP here.

I guess I am just going to buy less and when the food is gone, it's gone.
I just have to change how I view things.