Family members in Guatemala ask me for money

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

+1 Paying someone's gas bill so they can get to work is not a hard ask for most people in America.

OP, send these people your relatives' contact info.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

+1 It's funny how some people feel personally offended when other people are more giving. People live their lives in different ways.

It’s funny how some people can’t give freely without calling attention to other’s lack of generosity.

Funny. All our Asian, Indian and Latinx friend characterize it more like GUILTED in to sending money. Like, how dare you desert us, but oh thank goodness you did since $500 USD can buy so much for us here in the homeland, keep it coming. Or else you will be thrown away from our family! muhahahaha.

Well that's your circle of friends. My Asian (and Indians are part of Asia) and Latinx friends support their family because they love them and that's the way they were brought up.

So they were brought up to always have their hand out asking for help?

Were you raised by wolves? Family helps out family. That's been the way of the world for generations.

[Anonymous]

Skip some lattes and throw her a bone.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Whatever. I value my bank account and pace of mind. You can run around doing all the good you want and feeling that you're better than everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

+1 It's funny how some people feel personally offended when other people are more giving. People live their lives in different ways.

It’s funny how some people can’t give freely without calling attention to other’s lack of generosity.

Funny. All our Asian, Indian and Latinx friend characterize it more like GUILTED in to sending money. Like, how dare you desert us, but oh thank goodness you did since $500 USD can buy so much for us here in the homeland, keep it coming. Or else you will be thrown away from our family! muhahahaha.

Well that's your circle of friends. My Asian (and Indians are part of Asia) and Latinx friends support their family because they love them and that's the way they were brought up.

So they were brought up to always have their hand out asking for help?

Were you raised by wolves? Family helps out family. That's been the way of the world for generations.

No. The way of the world for generations is to instill values of hardwork and self preservation. Yes, family helps out family but when is it more a never ending and expected hand out than help?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Enabling and condoendece never helped anyone- esp generations of poverty + rampant breeding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Enabling and condoendece never helped anyone- esp generations of poverty + rampant breeding.

Don’t you have a KKK meeting you’re late for?

[Anonymous]

Babies make needy people feel wanted and loved.

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Anonymous wrote:Babies make needy people feel wanted and loved.

Wow-how profound. Did you learn that by watching “16 and pregnant”?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Enabling and condoendece never helped anyone- esp generations of poverty + rampant breeding.

Don’t you have a KKK meeting you’re late for?

Put your money where your mouth is. Why aren't you sending OP's relatives a check if you're so concerned?

[Anonymous]

OP, perhaps you can send cousin some things in a box that she could use, like clothing or toiltries or whatever, and that will free up her own cash for the gas bill.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Enabling and condoendece never helped anyone- esp generations of poverty + rampant breeding.

Don’t you have a KKK meeting you’re late for?

Put your money where your mouth is. Why aren't you sending OP's relatives a check if you're so concerned?

Did Op ask us to pay for her relatives? I send thousands overseas to my own relatives as do millions of immigrants and children of immigrants. Op knows that “blocking her cousins on Facebook” isn’t the only way to deal with family.

[Anonymous]

Sigh. My husband, who has been trying to start a business and hasn’t earned anything from it for over a year, still sends money to Vietnam for the law school tuition of a young relative he’s never met.

And then he tells me we can’t afford this and that.

I’m all for charitable giving, but he should never have committed to this multi-year contribution while founding a start-up...

OP, send what you can, but don’t lock yourself into anything.

[Anonymous]

The #1 way to be poor in America is to have children. The #2 way is to give your money to poor family members.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Sanctimonious and superior? Smugness is not a good look.

Better sanctimonious and superior than selfish and uncaring.

Enabling and condoendece never helped anyone- esp generations of poverty + rampant breeding.

Don’t you have a KKK meeting you’re late for?

Put your money where your mouth is. Why aren't you sending OP's relatives a check if you're so concerned?

Did Op ask us to pay for her relatives? I send thousands overseas to my own relatives as do millions of immigrants and children of immigrants. Op knows that “blocking her cousins on Facebook” isn’t the only way to deal with family.

And millions of immigrants don't or cannot afford to. Get off your high horse.