Family members in Guatemala ask me for money

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't your mom give them money?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry typos, I meant now that they have my WhatsApp it’s another person they can ask besides my mom.

Why are your cousins asking your mom for money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, find out what they are in need of, in terms of material goods, and you can try and collect items and ship them. Does your extended family hint that they hope to travel to the U.S. and name you as their landing pad?

I thought El Salvador, Guatemala, and Honduras were dangerous, violent, crime riddled countries. Wouldn’t sending a goodie package get confiscated by the local gang or corrupt police?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, find out what they are in need of, in terms of material goods, and you can try and collect items and ship them. Does your extended family hint that they hope to travel to the U.S. and name you as their landing pad?

I thought El Salvador, Guatemala, and Honduras were dangerous, violent, crime riddled countries. Wouldn’t sending a goodie package get confiscated by the local gang or corrupt police?

Not sure just how sarcastic you are being but the answer is no. While these countries are high crime areas there are plenty of safe places and things don't just get confiscated. Plenty of people live in peace.

[Anonymous]

What!!??!

[Anonymous]

How much did they ask? I make about $2000 a month and have for ca 20 years. I gave $500 from tax refund to a stranger back at home who needed money. I got nothing out of it other than this money went little further this way.
$100 should be big help in Guatemala and I would do it every once in awhile.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry typos, I meant now that they have my WhatsApp it’s another person they can ask besides my mom.

Why are your cousins asking your mom for money?

Because my mom always would send money to my grandparents. They then passed away and mom kept sending money to help out my aunt and uncle. My cousins always ask her for money for shoes, clothes, phones etc. When we went last year my mom sent TWO HUGE BOXES full of clothes, kitchen things etc and they just keep asking for money all the time. My mom doesn’t e en have health insurance or anything for her future. So keeps investing in my cousins who are just lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much did they ask? I make about $2000 a month and have for ca 20 years. I gave $500 from tax refund to a stranger back at home who needed money. I got nothing out of it other than this money went little further this way.
$100 should be big help in Guatemala and I would do it every once in awhile.

The reason I don’t want to do it is because once you do it once they expect you to keep doing it every single time they ask. Like many posters said before, they begin to see you as an ATM.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, find out what they are in need of, in terms of material goods, and you can try and collect items and ship them. Does your extended family hint that they hope to travel to the U.S. and name you as their landing pad?

I thought El Salvador, Guatemala, and Honduras were dangerous, violent, crime riddled countries. Wouldn’t sending a goodie package get confiscated by the local gang or corrupt police?

Not sure just how sarcastic you are being but the answer is no. While these countries are high crime areas there are plenty of safe places and things don't just get confiscated. Plenty of people live in peace.

Not true. My mom has sent many boxes over the years full of things and it has never been confiscated. My mom is from the southern region by the coast and it’s not dangerous Compared to other places

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

No one is curbing your free speech, dramatic one.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

No one is curbing your free speech, dramatic one.

And no one is stopping the OP from getting different perspectives on how to treat families overseas. I have friends who make six figures but live in tiny studio apartments to save $ to send back home. It's a culture thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

+1 It's funny how some people feel personally offended when other people are more giving. People live their lives in different ways.

It’s funny how some people can’t give freely without calling attention to other’s lack of generosity.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

+1 It's funny how some people feel personally offended when other people are more giving. People live their lives in different ways.

It’s funny how some people can’t give freely without calling attention to other’s lack of generosity.

Pointing out that others live generously isn't shaming others. If you feel you're being shamed for not giving enough, perhaps it's you who feel uncomfortable with your own actions.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

No one is curbing your free speech, dramatic one.

And no one is stopping the OP from getting different perspectives on how to treat families overseas. I have friends who make six figures but live in tiny studio apartments to save $ to send back home. It's a culture thing.

+1 In olden times, people weren't so individualistic. In poorer countries, people are still family oriented.

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Anonymous wrote:Block them on Whatsapp, unless you want to become an ATM.

That's exactly what Jesus preached.

Is Jesus going to come pay OP's bills when she needs it?

Is this a question of not being able to pay bills or not having sufficient discretionary income?

Doesn't matter. OP is not obliged to give if she doesn't want to.

No one is obliged to give, but some of us live by a different moral code to care for family and those in need.

You do you and drop the sanctimony.

Yes, I will do me and be a better person than you.

Be content in your generosity without having to control others.

The only one trying to control others is your attempt to curb the free speech on this forum. Sorry that my generosity of spirit makes you feel so defensive.

+1 It's funny how some people feel personally offended when other people are more giving. People live their lives in different ways.

It’s funny how some people can’t give freely without calling attention to other’s lack of generosity.

Pointing out that others live generously isn't shaming others. If you feel you're being shamed for not giving enough, perhaps it's you who feel uncomfortable with your own actions.

Read the bolded. Pp was clearly trying to shame.