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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the younger woman once. At the time I felt it was nbd, after all I was an adult. We seemed similarly matched, etc. looking back at my 23 yr.-old self, I had no idea what I was doing. There was a power imbalance in that relationship. It was emotionally abusive, I was financially beholden, and I stayed too long because of those things. It’s just one anecdote, and a lot of other young women have it together better than I did, but perhaps that’s why these age mismatches give some people pause.[/quote]

This is sometimes, but not always the case. When I was 21, I dated a newly minted tenure-track professor, then 32 (same age difference highlighted in the OP). Tremendous power imbalance, borne mostly of the disparity in life experiences. You just don’t know what you don’t know at that age.[/quote]

For every anecdote like that there’s one like mine. I started dating a 38 yr old at 25 and married him at 27. He has already done all the partying and sleeping around and now at 47 is happy and content to focus on spending time with our family and be a very hands-on dad. All my friends who thought it was gross and weird are either still dating man-children who won’t propose or worse, married to a man-child who refuses to take on any domestic responsibilities.yeah my husband will die sooner than theirs but at least we were happy while he was alive!

To be clear my husband and I both have successful careers and both make well into the 6 figures. I’m not a trophy wife or a gold digger and he wasn’t seeking out a financially dependent partner. Obviously some older men do and I’m not defending that. Just saying it worked out for me.[/quote]

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