No RSVP? I’m deleting you from the evite!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are busy and mean well. I open invites and have good intentions of replying, but need to check my schedule and confer with my DH to make sure I'm not overcommitting. This takes time, and sometimes I get busy and forget. A reminder doesn't hurt. And really is it going to be that big of a deal to accomodate a few stragglers? I always do.

Again, you don’t have a smart phone an a calendar? If you’re on th computer, surely have access to your calendar (especially considering everything is on every device these days... you’re harly going home to check your handwritten moose calendar in it’s teal and terra-cotta frame).

You have no idea of the plans made with you and your child in two weeks?

And again.. if your life requires the kind of planning and negotiations required of g7 summits, you need a calendar, or to JUST SAY NO, because you are clearly not that interested in attending. These are not invitations coming out 6 months in advance. They are not summonses. If it doesn’t work, you can say no.

For example, I have a conflict between my iphone calendar and my google calendar, so I have to check both. And I have a DH that forgets to enter things in, or share them with me. So it's wise to run it by him before I add another commitment. Sometimes he can't get back to me during the work day (meetings, etc). And DD is in a sport 5 days a week. So the schedule is tight, but DD really would love to go, so rather than just saying no, we try to make it work. And sometimes it takes time to give you an answer, and sometimes despite good intentions it gets put on the back burner.

New poster here. If, in a situation like this, then I reply "maybe" and write a very apologetic note to the other mom explaining the situation and saying that we are trying to make it work. So, at least she knows I am "working on it." Then, I go back and change my message to "yes" or "no." But at least click "maybe" and let them KNOW you are trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are busy and mean well. I open invites and have good intentions of replying, but need to check my schedule and confer with my DH to make sure I'm not overcommitting. This takes time, and sometimes I get busy and forget. A reminder doesn't hurt. And really is it going to be that big of a deal to accomodate a few stragglers? I always do.

Again, you don’t have a smart phone an a calendar? If you’re on th computer, surely have access to your calendar (especially considering everything is on every device these days... you’re harly going home to check your handwritten moose calendar in it’s teal and terra-cotta frame).

You have no idea of the plans made with you and your child in two weeks?

And again.. if your life requires the kind of planning and negotiations required of g7 summits, you need a calendar, or to JUST SAY NO, because you are clearly not that interested in attending. These are not invitations coming out 6 months in advance. They are not summonses. If it doesn’t work, you can say no.

For example, I have a conflict between my iphone calendar and my google calendar, so I have to check both. And I have a DH that forgets to enter things in, or share them with me. So it's wise to run it by him before I add another commitment. Sometimes he can't get back to me during the work day (meetings, etc). And DD is in a sport 5 days a week. So the schedule is tight, but DD really would love to go, so rather than just saying no, we try to make it work. And sometimes it takes time to give you an answer, and sometimes despite good intentions it gets put on the back burner.

What I do when I have something like this is I add an item to the calendar for the next time I expect to see my wife and have a minute to talk, like during dinner. "RSVP for Larla's Birthday". I set the notification to go off. Then, when the notification goes off, I say "Oh yeah, we got an invite for Saturday the 22nd for Larla's birthday. Are we free that day?" Sometimes the reminder is set for several days away when I know that life will slow down enough to talk about it, but I set one so that I remember before the RSVP date.

If you can't remember to do it on your own, you are irresponsible if you don't figure out a way to reply before the RSVP date. Grow up and be an adult.

[Anonymous]

Here's, to me, why the RSVP matters other than the obvious social etiquette.

Hosts have to PLAN. I do not have time to wait until the morning of the party to run to various stores to get party favors and put them together. I can't wait to order a cake based on the number of people that morning. You need to tell the facility days beforehand how much food to order.

Point being, there are things that just can't wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are busy and mean well. I open invites and have good intentions of replying, but need to check my schedule and confer with my DH to make sure I'm not overcommitting. This takes time, and sometimes I get busy and forget. A reminder doesn't hurt. And really is it going to be that big of a deal to accomodate a few stragglers? I always do.

Again, you don’t have a smart phone an a calendar? If you’re on th computer, surely have access to your calendar (especially considering everything is on every device these days... you’re harly going home to check your handwritten moose calendar in it’s teal and terra-cotta frame).

You have no idea of the plans made with you and your child in two weeks?

And again.. if your life requires the kind of planning and negotiations required of g7 summits, you need a calendar, or to JUST SAY NO, because you are clearly not that interested in attending. These are not invitations coming out 6 months in advance. They are not summonses. If it doesn’t work, you can say no.

For example, I have a conflict between my iphone calendar and my google calendar, so I have to check both. And I have a DH that forgets to enter things in, or share them with me. So it's wise to run it by him before I add another commitment. Sometimes he can't get back to me during the work day (meetings, etc). And DD is in a sport 5 days a week. So the schedule is tight, but DD really would love to go, so rather than just saying no, we try to make it work. And sometimes it takes time to give you an answer, and sometimes despite good intentions it gets put on the back burner.

Sorry, this really makes my eyes roll. I don’t know a single host asking for an RSVP in 24 hours. So, you can’t check with your spouse AND two calendars in a week?

I also k is yiu cant imagine to be the only person ever to be using BOTH google and iPhone calendars? What do you suppose the rest of us are doing to solve this great dilemma in our lives? Or do you imagine to be busier and more important than most?

Here’s the thing... your child is not the only one in sports several days a week, or with a husband in meetings, or who apparently can’t use technology. You’re superbusy and super impo portant... so click NO, as this is clearly not on your importance radar. I trust the hosts don’t need you to “try to make it work” for their benefit. They just want to know how many cupcakes and gift bags to get, really.

[Anonymous]

Also....you can add multiple calendars on your iPhone!!! Imagine that!! I think you can even make them show up at the same time!!!

[Anonymous]

Evites are the rudest laziest thing I have never seen. Send a real invitation in the mail. If you are too lazy to do that I am too lazy to get to your shindig.

[Anonymous]

We got a response the day before a party once despite me having sent reminders. The mother was very apologetic and said they had just returned from a trip to bury her mother, the invited girl’s grandmother. Cut people some slack, life isn’t always easy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evites are the rudest laziest thing I have never seen. Send a real invitation in the mail. If you are too lazy to do that I am too lazy to get to your shindig.

Awesome! Then why do you care if I delete you from the invite?

I’m genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

Please minimize paper waste by sending Evites (or equivalent). The automated reminders and tracking are useful, too.

PP who wanted real paper mail is a Luddite jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got a response the day before a party once despite me having sent reminders. The mother was very apologetic and said they had just returned from a trip to bury her mother, the invited girl’s grandmother. Cut people some slack, life isn’t always easy!

That's the world I oldest excuse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evites are the rudest laziest thing I have never seen. Send a real invitation in the mail. If you are too lazy to do that I am too lazy to get to your shindig.

Your child will be attending very few birthday parties, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We got a response the day before a party once despite me having sent reminders. The mother was very apologetic and said they had just returned from a trip to bury her mother, the invited girl’s grandmother. Cut people some slack, life isn’t always easy!

That's the world I oldest excuse!

My DH is a college professor - he says there’s a very concerning hike in grandparent fatalities during the week before finals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are busy and mean well. I open invites and have good intentions of replying, but need to check my schedule and confer with my DH to make sure I'm not overcommitting. This takes time, and sometimes I get busy and forget. A reminder doesn't hurt. And really is it going to be that big of a deal to accomodate a few stragglers? I always do.

If you open the email and don't respond to it, mark it as new. That way you'll be reminded that you need to do something with it.

Honestly, how do you people function in the real world?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are busy and mean well. I open invites and have good intentions of replying, but need to check my schedule and confer with my DH to make sure I'm not overcommitting. This takes time, and sometimes I get busy and forget. A reminder doesn't hurt. And really is it going to be that big of a deal to accomodate a few stragglers? I always do.

Again, you don’t have a smart phone an a calendar? If you’re on th computer, surely have access to your calendar (especially considering everything is on every device these days... you’re harly going home to check your handwritten moose calendar in it’s teal and terra-cotta frame).

You have no idea of the plans made with you and your child in two weeks?

And again.. if your life requires the kind of planning and negotiations required of g7 summits, you need a calendar, or to JUST SAY NO, because you are clearly not that interested in attending. These are not invitations coming out 6 months in advance. They are not summonses. If it doesn’t work, you can say no.

For example, I have a conflict between my iphone calendar and my google calendar, so I have to check both. And I have a DH that forgets to enter things in, or share them with me. So it's wise to run it by him before I add another commitment. Sometimes he can't get back to me during the work day (meetings, etc). And DD is in a sport 5 days a week. So the schedule is tight, but DD really would love to go, so rather than just saying no, we try to make it work. And sometimes it takes time to give you an answer, and sometimes despite good intentions it gets put on the back burner.

Sorry, this really makes my eyes roll. I don’t know a single host asking for an RSVP in 24 hours. So, you can’t check with your spouse AND two calendars in a week?

I also k is yiu cant imagine to be the only person ever to be using BOTH google and iPhone calendars? What do you suppose the rest of us are doing to solve this great dilemma in our lives? Or do you imagine to be busier and more important than most?

Here’s the thing... your child is not the only one in sports several days a week, or with a husband in meetings, or who apparently can’t use technology. You’re superbusy and super impo portant... so click NO, as this is clearly not on your importance radar. I trust the hosts don’t need you to “try to make it work” for their benefit. They just want to know how many cupcakes and gift bags to get, really.

+1

My eyes rolled at that as well. I have two DDs in sports five days a week, plus a full-time job and a husband with a full-time job who travels a lot. And yet somehow I manage to RSVP to invitations. Maybe I'm just magic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this day and age, I’m shocked at the number of people that don’t scan over their spam folder every few days to find stuff like this. It’s not that hard.

I rarely look at spam.
And evites and other invitations always go to my inbox, never to spam. That’s such an excuse people use, lol.