No RSVP? I’m deleting you from the evite!

[Anonymous]

I've only done that when the venue required a headcount, I had given an RSVP deadline and sent out a reminder, and the RSVP deadline had passed. For a party where there isn't a capacity cap or I'm not paying by the head, I wouldn't do that. I just make sure to have a couple extra favors and I always have too much food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: But be prepared for people just to show up anyway, without having RSVPed.

OP Evite is strange. Sometimes you think they saw the invitation and they didn't. I won't be surprised if people show up after you delete them.

How does this excuse them? If they show up, they obviously saw the invitation, they just didn't bother to RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Then you turn them away. I would. I would be very matter of fact, but I would turn them away. Very one of them. They can explain it to their children.

It might be just a rare oversight on their part. It happens. It is not, however, on me to make allowances

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

So you're busy, so's everyone else. It's rude to the host, who has to plan out the appropriate amount of food, goodie bags and other supplies and sometimes give the venue a final headcount. If it's 3 days before a party, and you still can't figure out if you're available, then obviously you are just too busy so decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

NP here. You know what? I have one of those lives. We both work and we are a one driver family due to a health issue. I have to drive four of us to everything that takes a car (which is a lot in the suburbs). And you know what else? I always watch the RSVP dates. I put them on the Google calendar. I will always respond by the RSVP date. Okay, once or twice, I've missed it and I send the parent a profuse apology and ask if they can still accommodate my child(ren) and am understanding if they cannot. It's called being an adult and being responsible. I know that some people think they are too important to adhere to common courtesies and conventions, but you know what? They aren't. If your life is so busy that you don't know if you'll be available then be an adult and RSVP that your little snowflake cannot make it to the birthday party.

[Anonymous]

I love you OP. Rude people need to given a clue. I’m busy but I respond and respect other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

NP here. You know what? I have one of those lives. We both work and we are a one driver family due to a health issue. I have to drive four of us to everything that takes a car (which is a lot in the suburbs). And you know what else? I always watch the RSVP dates. I put them on the Google calendar. I will always respond by the RSVP date. Okay, once or twice, I've missed it and I send the parent a profuse apology and ask if they can still accommodate my child(ren) and am understanding if they cannot. It's called being an adult and being responsible. I know that some people think they are too important to adhere to common courtesies and conventions, but you know what? They aren't. If your life is so busy that you don't know if you'll be available then be an adult and RSVP that your little snowflake cannot make it to the birthday party.

Agree. We all have sh*t going on. It’s absolutely rude to not RSVP to a party. OP, I don’t blame you for deleting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

NP here. You know what? I have one of those lives. We both work and we are a one driver family due to a health issue. I have to drive four of us to everything that takes a car (which is a lot in the suburbs). And you know what else? I always watch the RSVP dates. I put them on the Google calendar. I will always respond by the RSVP date. Okay, once or twice, I've missed it and I send the parent a profuse apology and ask if they can still accommodate my child(ren) and am understanding if they cannot. It's called being an adult and being responsible. I know that some people think they are too important to adhere to common courtesies and conventions, but you know what? They aren't. If your life is so busy that you don't know if you'll be available then be an adult and RSVP that your little snowflake cannot make it to the birthday party.

Agree. We all have sh*t going on. It’s absolutely rude to not RSVP to a party. OP, I don’t blame you for deleting.

+1

[Anonymous]

Good for you! As some one who frequently hosts, I simply stop inviting people who repeatedly last minute rsvp. It’s time for basic manners to return to our culture.

[Anonymous]

It's rude not to RSVP, but I wouldnt turn them away. I dont believe in punishing my DS or another little kid just because their parent is socially clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine also. They can't be bothered? Or are they waiting to hedge their bets and see if a better offer comes along? Well, this offer is now closed.

No, a lot of people have a life, full of work meetings and trips, health issues, sports' competitions, and other real-life events, so sometimes they can't say right away if they will be available for snowflake little party or if they will have someone to drive Larla there. If they didn't answer a NO right away, it's because they care and are considering going to it. At least in many cases.

The busiest people always response right away. They have this thing called a “calendar”.

[Anonymous]

I had ONE RSVP out of the entire class (thankfully a few non-school friends has rsvp'd yes) before the party. The night before and the day of the party, 3 more rsvps came in. Personally, I was thankful for my son's sake. He invited them because he wanted them there. That's why I don't do parties that need exact head counts.

[Anonymous]

I’m good at rsvping but I sometimes wait until last minute if we have up in the air plans. My family may visit, we may go skiing, our family friends are coming to DC, etc.

I RSVP no right away if we have solid plans already and yes if it is a good friend and we are free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m good at rsvping but I sometimes wait until last minute if we have up in the air plans. My family may visit, we may go skiing, our family friends are coming to DC, etc.

I RSVP no right away if we have solid plans already and yes if it is a good friend and we are free.

Do you understand that it’s rude toward the host to wait until the last minute? Not even to rsvp as a maybe?