DS did something wonderful, yet I am a bit upset

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Anonymous wrote:That’s how you get killed. Deleted pics can easily recovered too. Dumb kid.

Yes.

I'm with you OP. I'd be proud that your son knew it was wrong and stood up for his friends; however, he should've called the police/security for assistance. If the man hadn't cooperated and punched your son in the head or, worse, pulled out a weapon, your son could be dead.

I'm thankful for you both that it didn't turn out that way, but your DS needs to be warned that he's not the hero in some movie. He needs to leave the cowboy shit at home and call for law enforcement in the future.

Interestingly he is not a cowboy-like at all. He is quite calm and measured in his responses all the time. So, this incident surprised me and worried me.

Come on mom. He is a 16 yo young man with girls with his hormones running wild. Are you really surprised? Tell him to think with his head but his hormones. Consider himself lucky.

Guaranteed he became the hero to those girls & a few of them have crushes on him for defending their honor.

I grew up in NYC & have been taking mass transit alone since middle school. He shouldn't have approached the guy, the best thing he could have done was called for a station attendant, who will call for the police if necessary.

Here's a tip that got us out of a couple of similar situations.
Next time he's in a large group with attractive women & there are more boys than girls, the safest thing to do is (especially if they're standing) have the boys huddle around the girls... like in a football huddle. They don't have to be hovering over them, but standing a little staggered on the outside of the girls makes it more difficult for degenerates to get a good look at them & your son will feel less inclined to have to defend their honor.

ffs. that's your solution, as opposed to calling out creeper behavior? coward.

Not the pp, but you sure are brave in an internet form, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s how you get killed. Deleted pics can easily recovered too. Dumb kid.

Dumb respinse.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s how you get killed. Deleted pics can easily recovered too. Dumb kid.

Dumb respinse.

Dumb spelling

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Anonymous wrote:That’s how you get killed. Deleted pics can easily recovered too. Dumb kid.

Yes.

I'm with you OP. I'd be proud that your son knew it was wrong and stood up for his friends; however, he should've called the police/security for assistance. If the man hadn't cooperated and punched your son in the head or, worse, pulled out a weapon, your son could be dead.

I'm thankful for you both that it didn't turn out that way, but your DS needs to be warned that he's not the hero in some movie. He needs to leave the cowboy shit at home and call for law enforcement in the future.

Interestingly he is not a cowboy-like at all. He is quite calm and measured in his responses all the time. So, this incident surprised me and worried me.

Come on mom. He is a 16 yo young man with girls with his hormones running wild. Are you really surprised? Tell him to think with his head but his hormones. Consider himself lucky.

Guaranteed he became the hero to those girls & a few of them have crushes on him for defending their honor.

I grew up in NYC & have been taking mass transit alone since middle school. He shouldn't have approached the guy, the best thing he could have done was called for a station attendant, who will call for the police if necessary.

Here's a tip that got us out of a couple of similar situations.
Next time he's in a large group with attractive women & there are more boys than girls, the safest thing to do is (especially if they're standing) have the boys huddle around the girls... like in a football huddle. They don't have to be hovering over them, but standing a little staggered on the outside of the girls makes it more difficult for degenerates to get a good look at them & your son will feel less inclined to have to defend their honor.

ffs. that's your solution, as opposed to calling out creeper behavior? coward.

Not the pp, but you sure are brave in an internet form, lol.

+1. Seriously... all talk no actions

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Anonymous wrote:It's not illegal to take pictures of strangers in public. Agree that your DS was acting dangerously.

Agreed. Though what that guy did is weird and gross, it likely wasn't illegal. And it sounds like your son was possibly trying to impress the girls in his group as much as any other motivation.

DS does not need to impress the girls in their group. They have been friends for years (pretty much have grown up together) and DS is super well-liked by the girls for his calm demeanor. So, I do not think his motivation was anything but to stop this weirdo taking his friends' picture in the subway; especially since the girls were uncomfortable. My only issue was he should not have confronted this older man alone - I do not know if there was security person he could have approached (not familiar about how that works in NY metro).

Just because your son has known or grown up with the girls doesn’t mean he doesn’t like one of them. Since they hang out all the time I’m thinking he does!

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This is nothing to be proud of. A guy took photos of people in public in a public place. Not an issue. Certainly not an issue for DS to take up.

I've dressed skimpy a time or two and if a guy took a photo I'd either have posed or made a mental note not to wear the outfit again. This was not his issue to take up. Was he drunk or trying to impress someone or does he otherwise have peer pressure/anger issues? Was he wanting to be big and tough in NYC? dumb move. Could have ended much worse.

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Like others have said, in this day and age you never know who you’re messing with. Back in college I had my fair share of cat fights at the bar but that was nearly 20 years ago. Nowadays, and especially with a strange situation like this, you don’t know if you’re dealing with someone who is mentally ill, unhinges, or armed and dangerous. This is the same reason I don’t make gestures or anything or rude drivers. I’m a prosecutor and I’ve seen numerous road rage cases where one party pulled out a gun. Nothing is worth giving your life over.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS is 29 and took on a supervisor who was harassing women. I'm hugely proud of him, even though it cost him points with the bosses.

Not close to the same situation. Not at all.

Some people just have to give their two cents no matter how inapplicable.

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Thanks a lot for so many feedback. I will show this thread to DS and have a discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks a lot for so many feedback. I will show this thread to DS and have a discussion.

I’m so glad he was not hurt. However, taking pictures of people in public places is not illegal, no matter how creepy it may be. Please inform him about that.

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Anonymous wrote:Like others have said, in this day and age you never know who you’re messing with. Back in college I had my fair share of cat fights at the bar but that was nearly 20 years ago. Nowadays, and especially with a strange situation like this, you don’t know if you’re dealing with someone who is mentally ill, unhinges, or armed and dangerous. This is the same reason I don’t make gestures or anything or rude drivers. I’m a prosecutor and I’ve seen numerous road rage cases where one party pulled out a gun. Nothing is worth giving your life over.

+1 I actually try to avoid all interactions, even making eye contact when stopped at a stoplight, w other drivers in general. You never know if the person in the car next to you might think you looked at them weird and start something. I generally don’t engage w any strangers in public at all actually. Certainly not on public transportation.