Why does my friend get constant attention from rich guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound bitter and jealous. And a bad friend. You completely crap on your friend and have only said negative things about her. What a miserable person you are.

Her friend is obviously much hotter and with a much better body, better smile, better personality. No wonder she gets more action.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: are you Indian?

yes. I am also ethnic looking. Not a "white passing" Indian.

Is your friend also Indian?

Yes but she is very fair and has conventional looking features.

I am a preppy white guy who only dates South Asian women. I prefer a more ethnic look, wilder hair, and darker skin.

OP just needs to find the right white guy(s). We're out here.

I am concerned that OP has internalized Indian-grown racism which says women have to be light-skinned with straight hair and a narrow nose to be beautiful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: are you Indian?

yes. I am also ethnic looking. Not a "white passing" Indian.

Is your friend also Indian?

Yes but she is very fair and has conventional looking features.

I am a preppy white guy who only dates South Asian women. I prefer a more ethnic look, wilder hair, and darker skin.

OP just needs to find the right white guy(s). We're out here.

I am concerned that OP has internalized Indian-grown racism which says women have to be light-skinned with straight hair and a narrow nose to be beautiful.

Ok it is a little fetish-y to *only* date SA women, but I get that you are attracted to whoever you are attracted to, and I +1 your final thought.

I'm a South Asian woman (with a white husband) and I think this totally explains the OPs insecurity. Insecurity + racial self hatred + SA dating/marriage culture wherein people are judged by their qualities (rather than having chemistry/falling in love)

[Anonymous]

OP, I have known many very beautiful women who were purchased — I mean, chosen — by rich men. The men are competitive, so to show off a hot wife is very similar to showing off an expensive new car or watch. See: Donald Trump. It’s not actually a happy life. There are many wonderful men out there who have good jobs and are kind and loving and responsible without being competitive d*cks looking for supermodels.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

Read the first paragraph and that explains the 2nd. You go out "crunchy", you get crunchy. You want preppy, dress preppy. Comb your hair, make it look nice and put on complimentary makeup but not overdone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

So, she plays their game and you don't, and yet you are puzzled by this? Do you WANT to attract these men? Then play the game. You cannot sneer at the game and them moan that no one rewards you for that.

[Anonymous]

Oh Girl you’re desi!

Good grief I thought our moms did a better job at this. First, stop being jelly of your friend, it’s unattractive and catty. Also I’m sure you’re smart but only desis are weird about who got into tj, your college major and sat scores.

Are you trying to get attract a desi guy? Or something else? I can advise based on that because American desis have a specific type.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they can recognize gold digger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they can recognize gold digger.

+1

Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:for those men who do hit on you, do you give them the time of day or do you brush them off b/c you're waiting for the "ideal" man to pry himself away from your friend?

you probably have no idea how many good potential men you've ignored b/c of your own hang-ups.[/quote]

+1

You don't seem that bright, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh Girl you’re desi!

Good grief I thought our moms did a better job at this. First, stop being jelly of your friend, it’s unattractive and catty. Also I’m sure you’re smart but only desis are weird about who got into tj, your college major and sat scores.

Are you trying to get attract a desi guy? Or something else? I can advise based on that because American desis have a specific type.

What type?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

You know the answer to your own question already but are hoping people will build you up and encourage your homeliness instead.

[Anonymous]

We've heard from you before haven't we, OP? I can't quite place the thread but your woes combined with ethnic background sound familiar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shop at J Crew, always have sleek hair and BMI 20. Done. You will attract attention from the kind of guys you seek.

I had to laugh at this because I basically did this and met a great husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've heard from you before haven't we, OP? I can't quite place the thread but your woes combined with ethnic background sound familiar.

Yes, I was wondering the same. Something about wanting to look like wealthy WASPy women?