Why does my friend get constant attention from rich guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another interesting point. Our mutual friends also casually mention that this friend is the one who will marry a "rich preppy guy and take perfect family holiday cards." I was always confused about why SHE was the one who was spotted even by fellow women as the one to live a certain lifestyle.

What you really need to ask yourself is WTF do you care so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because your friend probably projects more confidence and happiness than you. You seem insecure and petty, which is a huge turnoff.

Ouch. Yes, that may be but I am coming here asking this question because being constantly invisible next to someone else is not a very fun experience. Sue me, I am human.

You need to branch out and find your guys away from this woman. Online, school, neighborhood etc. Do not expect to find someone when socializing with her, as all eyes will be on her most likely.

[Anonymous]

You guys all have missed the point.

Baseline, OP is a 5 and her friend is a 8. 8 is always going to attract more attention, irrespective of hair and makeup and intellectual status (as long as the friend is not a bimbo).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another interesting point. Our mutual friends also casually mention that this friend is the one who will marry a "rich preppy guy and take perfect family holiday cards." I was always confused about why SHE was the one who was spotted even by fellow women as the one to live a certain lifestyle.

What you really need to ask yourself is WTF do you care so much?

OP here. Because it is sounds like an odd comment to make about someone? And I was curious about what she was projecting that people seem to pick up on, besides her looks.

[Anonymous]

That’s the problem with women. Focus the energy on improving yourself and not on others. This is the single twenty equivalent of the other thread “how does she lead such a glamorous life with her husband and not get into debt”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another interesting point. Our mutual friends also casually mention that this friend is the one who will marry a "rich preppy guy and take perfect family holiday cards." I was always confused about why SHE was the one who was spotted even by fellow women as the one to live a certain lifestyle.

What you really need to ask yourself is WTF do you care so much?

OP here. Because it is sounds like an odd comment to make about someone? And I was curious about what she was projecting that people seem to pick up on, besides her looks.

Some women just have a welcoming, friendly look and are very comfortable socially. Combine that with good looks and she will attract a lot of attention. If she's got brains and a sense of humor she will have them lined up.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, who wants preppy trustfunders?! I married a guy who was a nerd like me and didn’t think I needed to wear make up or dress fashionably. We’ve done very well financially and now have two kids who are just like us.

[Anonymous]

Her style is a more classic look. More Ralph Lauren. Your style is more of a younger, middle class look. Start dressing and styling yourself more like her if you want to attract the same type of guy. Her looks of course have something to do with it too.

[Anonymous]

Shop at J Crew, always have sleek hair and BMI 20. Done. You will attract attention from the kind of guys you seek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the problem with women. Focus the energy on improving yourself and not on others. This is the single twenty equivalent of the other thread “how does she lead such a glamorous life with her husband and not get into debt”.

+1

Thank you. OP, how old are you? You seem very naive.

[Anonymous]

You sound bitter and jealous. And a bad friend. You completely crap on your friend and have only said negative things about her. What a miserable person you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shop at J Crew, always have sleek hair and BMI 20. Done. You will attract attention from the kind of guys you seek.

This is a sensible formula. Have at it!

[Anonymous]

for those men who do hit on you, do you give them the time of day or do you brush them off b/c you're waiting for the "ideal" man to pry himself away from your friend?

you probably have no idea how many good potential men you've ignored b/c of your own hang-ups.

[Anonymous]

op are you talking about white men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another interesting point. Our mutual friends also casually mention that this friend is the one who will marry a "rich preppy guy and take perfect family holiday cards." I was always confused about why SHE was the one who was spotted even by fellow women as the one to live a certain lifestyle.

Amazed how much energy you expend thinking about your friend. Maybe if you were less petty you'd be more than a 5 in people's eyes, including your own.