Why does my friend get constant attention from rich guys?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: are you Indian?

yes. I am also ethnic looking. Not a "white passing" Indian.

Is your friend also Indian?

Yes but she is very fair and has conventional looking features.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best guess is that she is simply prettier than you are, and there is assortive mating going on (10s chasing 10s; hipster guys who are 6s going after realistic you and non unobtainable her).

OP here. I can see that. She is definitely a lot more conventionally attractive. Slim figure, great hair, nice smile. She is an 8 but can go up to a 10 with hair and makeup. I am probably a 5 and can be a 7 with hair and makeup.

[Anonymous]

OK, so why are you asking us when you know the answer? She's an 8-10 getting 8-10 guys.

[Anonymous]

I’m Persian American and preppy. I have the same question as OP so please keep the suggestions coming!

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Anonymous wrote:OK, so why are you asking us when you know the answer? She's an 8-10 getting 8-10 guys.

+1

OP I am surprised as to why you are surprised!

[Anonymous]

The way OP describes her friend is what most guys want, looks wise. Someone who is naturally a 8 and can go to 10 with hair and makeup. Natural 10s intimidate some men. And to top it off she dresses in an understated manner. Winner winner chicken dinner.

[Anonymous]

Your personality is really off putting. I bet your friend has a much sunnier disposition and that attracts people. You're that weird one silently brewing and giving off standoffish body language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way OP describes her friend is what most guys want, looks wise. Someone who is naturally a 8 and can go to 10 with hair and makeup. Natural 10s intimidate some men. And to top it off she dresses in an understated manner. Winner winner chicken dinner.

Yeah it's pretty obvious. Op sounds bitter, jealous , and with zero logical thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

You answered yourself here. She is very pretty and outwardly sophisticated. Not many men care about you being a policy wonk-its pretty tiresome actually and I am saying this as a fellow nerd girl.

Op here. Wow. I didn’t realize someone can appear to be sophisticated by how she dresses/ styles herself. I thought that was all superficial/not important.

Of course it does. Look at a man in a suit compared to a man in a t-shirt and jeans. Very different projections.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

You answered yourself here. She is very pretty and outwardly sophisticated. Not many men care about you being a policy wonk-its pretty tiresome actually and I am saying this as a fellow nerd girl.

Op here. Wow. I didn’t realize someone can appear to be sophisticated by how she dresses/ styles herself. I thought that was all superficial/not important.

So appearance is superficial/not important, but it's totally okay to judge men by their income? Oooookay.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you make your own fortune OP? Gold diggers are such a turnoff.

[Anonymous]

Man here. A woman who looks "put together" (make-up, hair done and down) is going to get more attention. You mentioned name brands of clothing -- no men notice this at all. I guess the word I'd use is "glamorous". The grungy look isn't going to attract most of the rich men.

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So I am the guy you describe that hits on your friend. I actually prefer your style and a woman who has no problem going out without make up and in jeans and a sweatshirt. It was actually something I found very attractive about DW when we met. But I can tell you I wouldn't be interested in you. Youre very abrasive and while you may be book smart, it doesn't sound like you have much critical thinking. That's a must for me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

You answered yourself here. She is very pretty and outwardly sophisticated. Not many men care about you being a policy wonk-its pretty tiresome actually and I am saying this as a fellow nerd girl.

Op here. Wow. I didn’t realize someone can appear to be sophisticated by how she dresses/ styles herself. I thought that was all superficial/not important.

Of course it does. Look at a man in a suit compared to a man in a t-shirt and jeans. Very different projections.

Yeah but a lot of rich people wear t shirt and jeans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

You answered yourself here. She is very pretty and outwardly sophisticated. Not many men care about you being a policy wonk-its pretty tiresome actually and I am saying this as a fellow nerd girl

OP, if you care about more than superficial qualities (looks/money/social status) in a boyfriend/husband than you should look for a man who cares about more than those things, which means he will care about what’s in your brain (what you read/ think about/policy etc). A decent, interesting, non sexist man will care more about who you are than what you wear. Yes, looks matter to a degree, but focus on meeting a good person who is ambitious, hard working, is in a decent occupation, not a trust fund woosy.