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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
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Stop focusing on diversity. Op, you can be put off by attitudes. Demographics are what they are. It does you no good to focus on the lack of diversity.

Easy to say when you are not the minority or am slammed with ignorant comments about your background. I live in this same area and am also mixed race. Do you know how many times people have assumed I grew up in the ghetto or seem shocked that I grew up in a household with a normal mother and father[/quote]

Do you want to make things better? Offer information. Offer information about yourself right away. Should you have to? No. Should you have to live with bigoted people's assumptions? No. But it is what it is. If you don't want to be victim then tweak your communication -- for your own sake. Or is it easier to just complain? I have an MD friend, born and raised in Illinois. Went to med school in Illinois. She's clearly of Indian decent. She asked why people assume she's not from the US, with US med school credentials. Who cares whY? The answer to her problem is obvious, if it bothers her, when she introduces herself to patients she can it find a way to mention her back round. "Oh, I see you're from xx part of the country ... I've never been there. I grew up and went to med school in Illinois"
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 Wow you are just as tiring as the people the original poster is complaining about.  Why is it the onus is always on the people of color to have to freaking explain themselves? That shit is tiring, it's unnecessary and you have a lot of nerve trying to foist the responsibility of unwinding ignorance on the person who is the target of it. In essence,  what you are saying is it the original poster,  and other people of color are basically 'interlopers', 'different' who have to explain themselves . We just want to go about our daily lives just like you do, and do not want to , nor should have to carry the freaking mental load of trying to explain and/or justify our existence and presence. If you have people that don't understand  that people come in all kinds of colors, cultures , backgrounds and personal histories that's on them, not me.[/quote]

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