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Where is that school where teachers actually appreciate parents suggestions?
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OP here. I really did not want to keep this going. To answer your question though PP, DC told me in a shy, embarrassed way. I could tell from his facial expression and the way he told me, he was not proud of it. I know my son and when he feels embarrassed. He was embarrassed.
Your defense of this would be acceptable...IF there were indeed other kids going through their own issues and had to wear similar cards. Well, my son says that is NOT the case. He is the ONLY child wearing this card around his neck. So in this case, that card around his neck is going to be a huge attention grabber, regardless of the innocence of a 5 year old's mind. Kids nowadays are fairly precocious. I know from his previous school that when he did dawdle or do anything remotely wrong, I would hear about it...not from my son first, but from my friend whose daughter was in his class and who was merely 3 years old. Remember that montessori classes group 3-6 year olds together. So yes, kids do notice who is getting introuble more. Kids do notice and share with their parents which kid is not a good listener. And they don't want to play with kids like that. Moreover, parents who hear negative stories about a child like that do not call and ask for play dates. It is a bad choice, no matter how you look at this. A KG classroom is not utopia, as much as we so badly might want to believe it. Five year olds understand more than we realize. |
Anonymous
| While I don't necessarily agree with the card on lanyard, do you any verification other than your son? My 5 year old's version of reality doesn't always match up with the facts. |
Anonymous
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Is this a private school? Because there is no way teachers would ever tell parents that they are emailing too much at our private school. The religious question I can only see happening at a Catholic school and it being remotely ok. The sign around the neck? No way.
My son is in preschool and occassionally gets sent home with a sticker on him that says something like "I used my helping hands today", "Snack Helper", or "I learned to button my pants today". He is always quite proud of these stickers, but they only occur every couple weeks. My DD is in K and she doesn't have any homework. So her backback at most can hold her lunch bag, a book from the library, a stuffed animal for rest time (which I keep small for weight purposes), and her coat. Even if you add a bit of homework, it shouldn't be that heavy. Her school doesn't allow wheeled backpacks, but in K there is no need for them anyway. Even if you are being a bit of a helicoptor mom, I think the school should try and accommodate that, especially if it is a private school. Thats what you pay for - attention to your kids, attention to you. I would set up a meeting with both the head and the teacher and maybe go through a couple of these issues. If the teacher is being difficult or is a bad match, then maybe you should discuss moving to another classroom - that would make it easier on you and them. If they resist, then maybe you should have a set meeting once a month to discuss whatever if coming up. I would think even a busy public school teacher would be able to accommodate a meeting once a month. |
Anonymous
I agree with this. My kids tells me who are the "bad" kids who get on red and have been sharing this info since K. They know. The teacher may like to think their sticker chart is a utopian postive reinforcement, but not so much. For many, maybe even most, kids these types of behavioral systems may work well and not create a sense of shame or embarrassment. But many kids are shamed and embarrassed by them and you can bet that there are kids who talk about these things amongst themselves and at home. |
Anonymous
OMG, you are as crazy as the OP. |
Anonymous
| PP -- I'm not that poster -- but I don't think they're crazy. I don't think it's too much to ask that when one pays super big bucks to go to a private school -- the teachers should be a little more understanding. I know at my daughter's private school -- they always acted like they were doing us a favor to be teaching at the school -- they were spiteful that so many of us could afford the $30k price tag... a little class warfare in action. |
Anonymous
Were they spiteful or did the children rub it in their face? If one teaches their children to value only folks of certain means, then stuff happens. |
Anonymous
I don't think its crazy at all (I am the original writer). I'm not saying people who pay for private school are paying for a personal valet instead of a teacher. I'm saying that you pay (or get financial aid) for smaller class size, less busy teachers, people who care about your kid and make them excited about learning. That includes involving the parents. Private schools are cooperatives - you don't pay $25,000 so your kid gets into college in 10 years. If the mom is a nutcase, its up to the Head of School to address that. Otherwise, they should try to work together to do the best they can for the kid. On a side note, I've gotten e-mails from the teachers of both of my kids today. One was checking to make sure I remembered an upcoming event that I signed up for at the beginning of the year (craft/book for the class to do one day), and the other teacher was making sure my older allergic child could have something special at an upcoming class party. This is what good teachers do. They don't ignore parents, they involve them. |
Anonymous
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PP, where are these private schools where th teachers actually involve the parents and good about sharing information?
Where do your kids go? Can you say? |