sigh...falling in love with non-Christian

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Christian, my spouse was raised mostly without religious (though family was "historically" Christian). Married now for over 20 years, and very happy. Once in a while though, I have some regret that my kids don't know much about the Bible or Christmas carols, etc. Spouse isn't into church and I haven't pushed it. I know I could, or I could go and bring the kids with me -- I just haven't. I guess it's not a priority for me either. I just have found memories of church friends growing up and singing Christmas carols this time of year.

What about god and Jesus? Any fond memories of them?

Your kids can have friends and sing songs without religion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am super catholic...or was. Married a nice catholic guy. And it turned out he didn't even believe in God. He totally lied and was just catholic because that is how he was raised. We got a divorce and I am now married to a good man who is agnostic. He majored in Religion and we are raising our kids catholic and they even go to catholic school. Honestly, I rather have an honest non Christian than a Christian who is lying to himself and you. So stop the hand wringing and go walk a pilgrimage or something to figure yourself out.

How did you not know he wasn’t really Catholic before marriage? This seems like one of those things couples should really dig into before committing their lives to each other in front of god.

PP here. He lied to me that he believed in God. He told me he grew up catholic and was happy being catholic. He ended up having a host of psychological issues. He never remarried and lives alone. I actually feel bad for him.

Actually he sounds more Catholic than you. According to your church you weren't supposed to get remarried. He didnt. Maybe save the judgey-ness.

[Anonymous]

Forget about this potential relationship, OP. It sounds like you are looking for a headship marriage where the H tells you what to do/how to live based on Christian beliefs. You're not going to get that from him even if you eventually manage to drag him to church.