sigh...falling in love with non-Christian

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this man have another religion or is he simply not religious?

I dated a few guys who were not religious (agnostic would be the best term for them) and they eventually did become Christian as far as I can tell.

If the guy actively practices another religion that would be different. I guess the question is can you be together with a person who has different religious beliefs than you do. Only you can answer that.

I think he is non-religious, at best culturally Christian (Easter/Christmas church attendance only, for example), not submissive to the Lordship of Christ

If he has dissimilar moral values then that would be a difficult thing to overcome. Can you give some examples of how he is not submissive to the Lordship of Christ?

Very moral, very "good" in the eyes of the world person, very kind, responsible. Truth is, even if the world loves you, we have all fallen short in the eyes of God, have committed sins, ones secret, one known to others. We need to rely on saving power of Christ to save us and fellowship with God. There isn't evidence that he belives this, and, he doesn't go to church, has not made a profession of faith or been baptized.

If he attended church with you and got formally baptized would that improve your impression of him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this man have another religion or is he simply not religious?

I dated a few guys who were not religious (agnostic would be the best term for them) and they eventually did become Christian as far as I can tell.

If the guy actively practices another religion that would be different. I guess the question is can you be together with a person who has different religious beliefs than you do. Only you can answer that.

I think he is non-religious, at best culturally Christian (Easter/Christmas church attendance only, for example), not submissive to the Lordship of Christ

If he has dissimilar moral values then that would be a difficult thing to overcome. Can you give some examples of how he is not submissive to the Lordship of Christ?

Very moral, very "good" in the eyes of the world person, very kind, responsible. Truth is, even if the world loves you, we have all fallen short in the eyes of God, have committed sins, ones secret, one known to others. We need to rely on saving power of Christ to save us and fellowship with God. There isn't evidence that he belives this, and, he doesn't go to church, has not made a profession of faith or been baptized.

If he attended church with you and got formally baptized would that improve your impression of him?

yep!

[Anonymous]

I think your harsh judgment of him is very un-Christian. WWJD?

[Anonymous]

I doubt he’ll be interested.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this man have another religion or is he simply not religious?

I dated a few guys who were not religious (agnostic would be the best term for them) and they eventually did become Christian as far as I can tell.

If the guy actively practices another religion that would be different. I guess the question is can you be together with a person who has different religious beliefs than you do. Only you can answer that.

I think he is non-religious, at best culturally Christian (Easter/Christmas church attendance only, for example), not submissive to the Lordship of Christ

If he has dissimilar moral values then that would be a difficult thing to overcome. Can you give some examples of how he is not submissive to the Lordship of Christ?

Very moral, very "good" in the eyes of the world person, very kind, responsible. Truth is, even if the world loves you, we have all fallen short in the eyes of God, have committed sins, ones secret, one known to others. We need to rely on saving power of Christ to save us and fellowship with God. There isn't evidence that he belives this, and, he doesn't go to church, has not made a profession of faith or been baptized.

If he attended church with you and got formally baptized would that improve your impression of him?

yep!

Then maybe suggest that he attend a Christmas performance at your church, introduce him to a few people and if that goes well maybe he might find that attending church with you is worthwhile?

If not, then you could continue to enjoy his friendship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this man have another religion or is he simply not religious?

I dated a few guys who were not religious (agnostic would be the best term for them) and they eventually did become Christian as far as I can tell.

If the guy actively practices another religion that would be different. I guess the question is can you be together with a person who has different religious beliefs than you do. Only you can answer that.

I think he is non-religious, at best culturally Christian (Easter/Christmas church attendance only, for example), not submissive to the Lordship of Christ

If he has dissimilar moral values then that would be a difficult thing to overcome. Can you give some examples of how he is not submissive to the Lordship of Christ?

Very moral, very "good" in the eyes of the world person, very kind, responsible. Truth is, even if the world loves you, we have all fallen short in the eyes of God, have committed sins, ones secret, one known to others. We need to rely on saving power of Christ to save us and fellowship with God. There isn't evidence that he belives this, and, he doesn't go to church, has not made a profession of faith or been baptized.

If he attended church with you and got formally baptized would that improve your impression of him?

yep!

Then maybe suggest that he attend a Christmas performance at your church, introduce him to a few people and if that goes well maybe he might find that attending church with you is worthwhile?

If not, then you could continue to enjoy his friendship.

good thoughts and ideas, thank you!! proactive, but realistic and uncompromising

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a very good prospect, Op.

[Anonymous]

I think men tend to defer to their wive's religious practices over time but I wouldn't count on it if it's truly important to you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this man have another religion or is he simply not religious?

I dated a few guys who were not religious (agnostic would be the best term for them) and they eventually did become Christian as far as I can tell.

If the guy actively practices another religion that would be different. I guess the question is can you be together with a person who has different religious beliefs than you do. Only you can answer that.

I think he is non-religious, at best culturally Christian (Easter/Christmas church attendance only, for example), not submissive to the Lordship of Christ

If he has dissimilar moral values then that would be a difficult thing to overcome. Can you give some examples of how he is not submissive to the Lordship of Christ?

Very moral, very "good" in the eyes of the world person, very kind, responsible. Truth is, even if the world loves you, we have all fallen short in the eyes of God, have committed sins, ones secret, one known to others. We need to rely on saving power of Christ to save us and fellowship with God. There isn't evidence that he belives this, and, he doesn't go to church, has not made a profession of faith or been baptized.

If he attended church with you and got formally baptized would that improve your impression of him?

yep!

Then maybe suggest that he attend a Christmas performance at your church, introduce him to a few people and if that goes well maybe he might find that attending church with you is worthwhile?

If not, then you could continue to enjoy his friendship.

good thoughts and ideas, thank you!! proactive, but realistic and uncompromising

and also merciful, I don't need to treat him like a pariah if things don't work like as I would hope (and I am not going to have false hope that they would, God decides who to save), of course we still can remain friends!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he comes from a non religious family and has not been introduced to religions yet. You can’t blame him for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you respect each other's views, it will be okay. If he is dismissive of yours and you want to save him, obvious no.

Until you have children.

Even agnostic formerly mildly religious mixed couples I know have had difficulties with their marriage once kids came into the picture.

[Anonymous]

If he is ok with you going to Church and is otherwise a match for you then I would not worry about it.
We are a 2 mom family and I am Christian protestant with Irish roots and DW is a non practicing Catholic. I told DW I would never raise a child Catholic and and as long as she was ok with us going to Church we would be fine.
We have been together 12 years. I go to Church twice a month ( I work every other weekend) and she takes DD to Sunday school and drops her off and picks her up again on the weeks I cant go. DW comes with me at Christmas and Easter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a Christian women, my heart is falling for a non-Christian guy, so difficult...by God's grace I will not pursue a relationship, but I see him all of the time, I feel like we would make a great couple. Anyone out there cop with this? I am resting on God's promises, he knows what is best, and this isn't it.

If being a Christian is important to you I would end the romance possibility I dated a Jewish guy and I realized that I could not imagine not celebrating Easter or Christmas. He wasn't willing to compromise either so we ended it. We were not compatible for other reasons too but, it was one of them.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Plenty of mixed couples do fine, but clearly your religion is important to you at an intense level of religiosity. Move on, then.

[Anonymous]

I am Christian and my husband is not religious, but I don't have nearly as specific and rigid an idea of what being Christian means as you do, there aren't really specific markers other than baptism. I think we are all unbelievers in some ways and at some times. Even so it is sad not to share my faith sometimes. I think this relationship would just not work for you, OP. I'm sorry.