My dd goes to Stanford, she is a freshman and not loving it. She got it on her music merits

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Wow, I often find myself hoping that some of these posters are not parents. The harsh ones with messed up values.

How would you like to be thousands of miles away from home...sad and feeling like you messed up on the first major decision you ever had to make.

And some insensitive adult characterizes your predicament as "whining because you aren't getting drunk every night."


Agree. Our friend’s daughter is at UMD and came home for a weekend a month in feeling really sad. It is overwhelming. It can be lonely. You wonder over and over again if you made the right decision. She went back recharged and has been happy since. Being across the other side of the country can feel so overwhelming. Kids have so much more pressure these days. Life skills weren’t a top priority, grades were. And it is SO different in college. Many kids have never done many things on their own. Made decisions on their own. Learn how to live socially on their own.

Yes OP, give it more time but please let her vent, send a care package with 6 dozen cookies to give out to hallmates. Do something to make her smile. Let her know you get it. Tell her she is strong, but you are there for her.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oAUcoadqRlE

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jScET3xRFvQ

Anonymous
Those for sharing those videos--sweet, brave kids.

It is a good reminder to parents that they are NOT adults yet. They are learning how to become adults. And we did not have to do that surrounded by social media making it sound easy and idyllic for everyone else. They still need us...to listen, encourage and be supportive.
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