Hesitant to date a short guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

That is true . I did not mean to say being short meant bad sex. It’s more the thought of sex with him does not excite me most of the time.

Then stop dating him. Those butterflies are the best part of the early stages of a relationship. If the physical connection isn't there, there is no need to force it.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 5ft tall female. My long-term partner is a short man, only a couple inches taller than me. And he's small; his legs for instance are thinner than mine.

I never thought I could be attracted to a man so small but here we are many years later. The difference between my situation and what you describe though is that the physical attraction was what came first for us. His sexiness and charm appealed to me from the get go, and later as I fell in love with him for his personality and so forth, the shortness wasn't even an issue of consideration.

I'm not sure it's worth creating a relationship in the reverse way though. If you don't think he's sexy to begin with, you won't see past the height.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 5'7 guy. I've been short my entire life, so it's not like some kind of affliction I just came down with. When you're short, you know you're working at a disadvantage perception-wise because it's come up numerous times over the course of your life. A guy like me finds way to compensate for it by being charming, funny, passionate, having money, or what have you.

I think it says a lot about you that you dated this guy in the first place. You're clearly not shallow or else you wouldn't have tried in the first place. I don't think that your dating him was charity or pity, but I feel like it would turn into that if you stay with him even though you're not attracted to him. You don't have to crush him and tell him he's too short. Just tell him it isn't working out for you or that you don't feel enough of a connection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'7 guy. I've been short my entire life, so it's not like some kind of affliction I just came down with. When you're short, you know you're working at a disadvantage perception-wise because it's come up numerous times over the course of your life. A guy like me finds way to compensate for it by being charming, funny, passionate, having money, or what have you.

I think it says a lot about you that you dated this guy in the first place. You're clearly not shallow or else you wouldn't have tried in the first place. I don't think that your dating him was charity or pity, but I feel like it would turn into that if you stay with him even though you're not attracted to him. You don't have to crush him and tell him he's too short. Just tell him it isn't working out for you or that you don't feel enough of a connection.

Though there is a big difference between 5'7" and 5'0"...you're still taller than most women, while the 5'0" man is shorter than almost every woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'7 guy. I've been short my entire life, so it's not like some kind of affliction I just came down with. When you're short, you know you're working at a disadvantage perception-wise because it's come up numerous times over the course of your life. A guy like me finds way to compensate for it by being charming, funny, passionate, having money, or what have you.

I think it says a lot about you that you dated this guy in the first place. You're clearly not shallow or else you wouldn't have tried in the first place. I don't think that your dating him was charity or pity, but I feel like it would turn into that if you stay with him even though you're not attracted to him. You don't have to crush him and tell him he's too short. Just tell him it isn't working out for you or that you don't feel enough of a connection.

I disagree. Just tell him that it's his height. I'm sure he'll suspect it anyway. He's probably be dumped by hundreds of women that say "it's not you, it's me".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'7 guy. I've been short my entire life, so it's not like some kind of affliction I just came down with. When you're short, you know you're working at a disadvantage perception-wise because it's come up numerous times over the course of your life. A guy like me finds way to compensate for it by being charming, funny, passionate, having money, or what have you.

I think it says a lot about you that you dated this guy in the first place. You're clearly not shallow or else you wouldn't have tried in the first place. I don't think that your dating him was charity or pity, but I feel like it would turn into that if you stay with him even though you're not attracted to him. You don't have to crush him and tell him he's too short. Just tell him it isn't working out for you or that you don't feel enough of a connection.

Though there is a big difference between 5'7" and 5'0"...you're still taller than most women, while the 5'0" man is shorter than almost every woman.

Yup. 5’7” is taller than many women, and isn’t extremely short. 5’0” is extremely short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5ft tall female. My long-term partner is a short man, only a couple inches taller than me. And he's small; his legs for instance are thinner than mine.

I never thought I could be attracted to a man so small but here we are many years later. The difference between my situation and what you describe though is that the physical attraction was what came first for us. His sexiness and charm appealed to me from the get go, and later as I fell in love with him for his personality and so forth, the shortness wasn't even an issue of consideration.

I'm not sure it's worth creating a relationship in the reverse way though. If you don't think he's sexy to begin with, you won't see past the height.

No offense but you’re 5 ft you and your 5’2” husband are not comparable to 5’7” OP and her 5’0” date

[Anonymous]

As long as he doesn't have any napoleon complex.

Think of it this way, if you grow old with him, it won't be hard to help him from bed to wheelchair since he's lighter than the 6'5 guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as he doesn't have any napoleon complex.

Think of it this way, if you grow old with him, it won't be hard to help him from bed to wheelchair since he's lighter than the 6'5 guy.

My dad shrunk from 6'1" to 5'4" in his eighties, so I wouldn't worry about this. Just sayin'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'7 guy. I've been short my entire life, so it's not like some kind of affliction I just came down with. When you're short, you know you're working at a disadvantage perception-wise because it's come up numerous times over the course of your life. A guy like me finds way to compensate for it by being charming, funny, passionate, having money, or what have you.

I think it says a lot about you that you dated this guy in the first place. You're clearly not shallow or else you wouldn't have tried in the first place. I don't think that your dating him was charity or pity, but I feel like it would turn into that if you stay with him even though you're not attracted to him. You don't have to crush him and tell him he's too short. Just tell him it isn't working out for you or that you don't feel enough of a connection.

I disagree. Just tell him that it's his height. I'm sure he'll suspect it anyway. He's probably be dumped by hundreds of women that say "it's not you, it's me".

This is unnecessarily unkind. A vague statement of not feeling the intangible attraction is better than specifically pointing out of physical attributes you don't like. Your bugs may be someone else's features.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Peter Dingklage's wife doesn't seem to mind.

Peter Dinklege is a sexy mofo.

[Anonymous]

I'm a short woman (5'2") married to a tall-ish (6') guy. But I've dated guys in the 5'4" to 5'6" range and I am generally very pro short guy. Yes, some of them have Napoleon complexes, but the ones who don't generally have had to rely on their personalities to attract others.

OP, it sound like you've found a sweet, charismatic short guy. Maybe you're attracted to him, maybe you aren't. But (gross generalization here) often people who are not perfect physical specimens develop other, more longer lasting attributes that make them appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 5 ft 2 and would not date a guy shorter than me. I wouldn’t want my children to end up short. No thanks, pass

But given how short you are your kids will probably be short as well, regardless of how tall your partner is.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'7 and don't even date guys who are 5'10. I feel so big and not at all sexy with guys under 6 foot. I don't care if that makes me shallow because no guy is going to want to date girls who are 6'3 or 300 pounds. Works both ways.

Don't @ me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'7 and don't even date guys who are 5'10. I feel so big and not at all sexy with guys under 6 foot. I don't care if that makes me shallow because no guy is going to want to date girls who are 6'3 or 300 pounds. Works both ways.

Don't @ me

Sure they do. Maybe you should talk to women that are over 6’3 an or over 300 lbs. come to think of it, aren’t there sites specifically for BBW? Not too many sites I can think of for blatantly average women?