Wife is jealous over a conversation I had

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were you attracted to her?

I was not talking to her because she was attractive or not.

That's non responsive. Please answer the question.

Intellectually, I found her engaging and funny. Physically, I did not really notice. I mean she was not drop dead gorgeous.

ok, she was not drop dead gorgeous. But that was not the question. Were you attracted to her, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

I'm under the impression that the wife is no longer interested in sex? If she's not interested, she has no business demanding that her 55 yo DH not speak to another woman in a coffeeshop. Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

Then maybe you're not as social as some of the rest of us. It's really not that out of the ordinary. I've been at conferences and met people in my line of work and had chats like that before. I don't think it's anything that strange.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were you attracted to her?

I was not talking to her because she was attractive or not.

That's non responsive. Please answer the question.

How dare you question motives? You are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

Then maybe you're not as social as some of the rest of us. It's really not that out of the ordinary. I've been at conferences and met people in my line of work and had chats like that before. I don't think it's anything that strange.

That’s probably true. I am not super social. Are other people regularly having long meals or coffee with people they meet at the restaurant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

Then maybe you're not as social as some of the rest of us. It's really not that out of the ordinary. I've been at conferences and met people in my line of work and had chats like that before. I don't think it's anything that strange.

That’s probably true. I am not super social. Are other people regularly having long meals or coffee with people they meet at the restaurant?

I'm chatty. I can keep up a conversation for a five hour plane ride. I chat in line with people. I could easily chat for half an hour with someone next to me at a coffee shop. If I had something major in common with them, like a specific line of work, absolutely that would happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

Then maybe you're not as social as some of the rest of us. It's really not that out of the ordinary. I've been at conferences and met people in my line of work and had chats like that before. I don't think it's anything that strange.

That’s probably true. I am not super social. Are other people regularly having long meals or coffee with people they meet at the restaurant?

I'm chatty. I can keep up a conversation for a five hour plane ride. I chat in line with people. I could easily chat for half an hour with someone next to me at a coffee shop. If I had something major in common with them, like a specific line of work, absolutely that would happen.

That’s cool. Maybe the OP is a super chatty guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP,I’m not
Your wife, but I don’t even believe your story.

You didn’t sleep well the night before, wondering how to spin it that you were leaving work early.

And of course, the day that you just happened to not sleep and happened to leave work early, there just happened to be a young woman in a Tshirt emblazoned with the fact that she happens to work in the same branch of science as you do. Oh and wait, also the same branch as your daughter. And of course you happened to have 1/2 hour of free time to chat with her.

How fruitious. Maybe you should buy a lottery ticket, with all the coincidence following you.

Oh my god, you're nuts.

Op, you're fine. These people, including your wife's friend, are crazy.

NP here, and I have to agree with PP. OP, you didn't do anything wrong. Your wife's friend sounds like a troublemaker. As for your wife, you might want to consider thinking through why she has allowed her friend's troublemaking behavior to agitate her so much.

Maybe because she was confiding to her friend about not having sex for a year? Which this OP blames on his wife?And yet he has ED that she doesn't know about?! Seriously, they need a therapist to solve all of their issues. If your DH wasn't having sex with you, what would you think?

[Anonymous]

Op here. The lack of intamacy is not on me. After repeated rejection, about 1 year ago I told her to let me know when.

[Anonymous]

OP you are a total loser. Plumbing doesn't work and apparently neither does your brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. The lack of intamacy is not on me. After repeated rejection, about 1 year ago I told her to let me know when.

Oh, OP, I also wouldn’t be spreading my legs for a man who can’t grt to work, but can find time to chat up every coed he meets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The lack of intamacy is not on me. After repeated rejection, about 1 year ago I told her to let me know when.

Oh, OP, I also wouldn’t be spreading my legs for a man who can’t grt to work, but can find time to chat up every coed he meets.

I was about to post and give OP some advice, but honestly it is clear that while I was on his side and said she is cray, cray, it is also clear that he is not right himself. I mean, come on, rejection by wife, him being overweight that much, and lack of effort to fix their marriage. All he posts is how nothing is his fault. Ok, maybe she was out of line with this accusation, but this is their smallest problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have these convos all the time and I don't even work. I'm married, not dead, and DH knows it. Yes, I'll flirt. Yes, I'll have talks with people I find interesting. I enjoy attention from the opposite sex but it never goes further than talk.

Really? I don’t think I have ever had a thirty minute conversation with someone I just met, ever (unless it was a planned date or interview). 5-10 minutes...the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee or eat lunch or push my kid on a swing ...but 30 minutes is a long time.

Then maybe you're not as social as some of the rest of us. It's really not that out of the ordinary. I've been at conferences and met people in my line of work and had chats like that before. I don't think it's anything that strange.

That’s probably true. I am not super social. Are other people regularly having long meals or coffee with people they meet at the restaurant?

I'm chatty. I can keep up a conversation for a five hour plane ride. I chat in line with people. I could easily chat for half an hour with someone next to me at a coffee shop. If I had something major in common with them, like a specific line of work, absolutely that would happen.

OMG. If you talked to me for five hours in a plane I'd do worse things than call your wife.

[Anonymous]

Oh hell no.