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Specifically, it's about status. In our society, a rich guy is high-status by default. |
I question whether she really "settled." How did a supposedly "intellectual" woman, with a masters degree, end up with a broke dumb jock (going by her description)? There much be another factor that balances this equation, one that she hasn't mentioned. |
Look, a masters degree is two years of college, and actually working hard at it. It doesn’t make you attractive to a whole new class of accomplished, or intellectual, men. It might get you a better job. Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit. |
She had to "put up with his shit"? Like being the richest man in the world? |
It's a cross to bear. Thank God some woman was willing to do it. /s |
He had to promise to buy her Norway. |
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it depends on many factors.
I attended one of the ACC Universities on a tennis scholarship and majored in accounting. I am 30 years old now and I only make 95k/year. I know a lot of wealthy people and lot of them want to date me because I consider myself a good looking and interesting person. One lady that I date spent has an allowance of 200k/month. She wanted to marry me and is willing to support me to pursuit my golf career if I choose to. My wife is a lawyer and she works for big law. Her income is >1M/year and she is perfectly happy with what I do. She often mentions that she is lucky that she married an athlete with a brain. She is already making lot of money, she does not need more money to support her life style. |
| This could be an interesting thread but people keep missing the point. It’s not about how much money you make. |
You obviously haven’t read much written by women on this site. |
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He had to like Monty Python, be intellectually curious, support my intellectual pursuits, be loving, fun, great with me under the sheets. Money was never part of my equation.
I met many guys along the way assuming I’d be so into them based on social climbing and because I was hot as shit at 25. Different strokes, different folks. I married an equal partner. I wasn’t looking for a Daddy Warbucks who asked me to eventually quit my job, cheat on me and fund my future plastic surgery in some absuvive country club culture of mysoginy and queen bees reliving high school. |
+1 All the stars to this |
Lol. Also do you realize that aside from all his success, Bill Gates is also from a very wealthy family. His father was a very successful lawyer (founded the predecessor firm to K& L Gates). |
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I don't know anyone - extended family, high school and college friends, coworker buddies - anyone at all who married outside of the class of their family of origin. All the couples I know also have similar levels of education and income, but some are SAHMs or mommy-tracked by choice.
I can't think of, for example, the son of a blue collar father and a retail worker mother married to the daughter of a parent or parents with advanced degrees or high-earning white collar professions. In fact, DH and I both have fathers with four-year degrees and middle incomes and mothers with high school diplomas who went back to work when the kids were in school in bookkeeping/secretarial work. The only woman I know who significantly outearns her husband is a CPA. Her DH is underemployed due to an impractical grad degree and general bad luck in launching a career. |
| NP here. None of my relationships (including one marriage) with guys who had less education or earned less were successful. They all felt insufficient and resentful. |