Do women have a hard time when they marry down?

[Anonymous]

From the women that I know, those who married men from a class or so below them are unhappy.

They’re used to a certain lifestyle and when the husband can’t match it, they’re frustrated and unhappy.

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

[Anonymous]

Are you supposing it's all about money?
What a shallow person you are.

[Anonymous]

We have classes?

[Anonymous]

This is why this area sucks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the women that I know, those who married men from a class or so below them are unhappy.

They’re used to a certain lifestyle and when the husband can’t match it, they’re frustrated and unhappy.

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

You want a prince, a rich enough guy like you see in the movies and like those guys who live in affluent neighborhoods.

Make it happen. No one else is interested in those guys. Or stay single, or settle.

[Anonymous]

Same can be said about women.

[Anonymous]

Easy fix. Make your own money to support the lifestyle you want. Worked well for me.

[Anonymous]

I know I wouldn't be happy unless I married a generally really good person who pulled his weight. If I married someone from a lower class and he was still a jerk, then forget it.

[Anonymous]

My MIL constantly complains about how she married down and my FIL couldn’t give her a nice life.

I want to tell her that obviously no rich man would be interested in listening to her incessant complaining and laziness. But alas I can’t.

[Anonymous]

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

[Anonymous]

Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

Don't be ridiculous. I go to Paris Disneyland and Tokyo Disneyland
I also listen to NPR and classical music.
I also like burgers and fries.

Stop it with the categorizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

Maybe. Maybe not. Read the “married in 20s” thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

Make it happen. Show us.