Do women have a hard time when they marry down?

[Anonymous]

If you're the type to think you're "marrying down" because someone comes from a lower SES background than you then yes, you're going to have a hard time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

I think those fall less into differences based on upper class versus lower class, and more into differences based on douchebag versus not douchebag.

Signed, a very wealthy person (family money plus am a high earner married to a high earner) who loves disney, olive garden, public schools and state universities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

I think those fall less into differences based on upper class versus lower class, and more into differences based on douchebag versus not douchebag.

Signed, a very wealthy person (family money plus am a high earner married to a high earner) who loves disney, olive garden, public schools and state universities.

You're kind of making PP's point.

-- UMC person who was raised UMC and likes Disney but also doesn't consider people with different tastes than mine to be "douchebags"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1

No man wants a woman who is all about spending, OP.

Why don't you heed other PP's advice and set yourself up with your own education and your own job that pays enough to afford your lifestyle, OP? Do you think that is what "class" is - the ability to spend other people's money? You got that wrong.

You could be from a top college and be a total leech, or you could have a strong work ethic that attracts the kind of man you want. Make up your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

I think those fall less into differences based on upper class versus lower class, and more into differences based on douchebag versus not douchebag.

Signed, a very wealthy person (family money plus am a high earner married to a high earner) who loves disney, olive garden, public schools and state universities.

You're kind of making PP's point.

-- UMC person who was raised UMC and likes Disney but also doesn't consider people with different tastes than mine to be "douchebags"

+1

Class is how you treat other people, not saying you are a "good person". Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

x1000000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

x1000000

Why are you giving a thumbs up to such a bizarre statement? Define “they deserve”. To me it means “they want and feel they are owed”. By whom?

[Anonymous]

My mother was "Greenwich" and my dad was "Brooklyn". They got married and lived in a small home far from what she was use to. But over time he became quite successful but never really wealthy. But I've never heard my mother refer to her old life and they are incredibly happy together.

[Anonymous]

I think it is a real discussion, especially within the African American community. Not so much as old class distinctions, but current SES status and finding a mate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

x1000000

Why are you giving a thumbs up to such a bizarre statement? Define “they deserve”. To me it means “they want and feel they are owed”. By whom?

Because things are not always what they seem - you don't know someone until you live with them. Sometimes, certain types of women go after certain types of men - and they get exactly what they deserve. Not a lot to understand here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

x1000000

Why are you giving a thumbs up to such a bizarre statement? Define “they deserve”. To me it means “they want and feel they are owed”. By whom?

Because things are not always what they seem - you don't know someone until you live with them. Sometimes, certain types of women go after certain types of men - and they get exactly what they deserve. Not a lot to understand here.

What do you actually mean? “Certain type of men/women”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

And don't forget:

sofa vs couch
Goodyear vs Firestone
river vs lake

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Class difference can still matter regardless of income though it’s not true for everyone. Different tastes in food, housing, entertainment, vacations, education expectations for the children, experiences to give children. It would be miserable to disagree on so much. People can be raised with similar family incomes but still have different “class” values and tastes. But higher class tastes are certainly more expensive.

Disney vs Europe
Rooms to Go vs Antiques
Chain restaurant vs fresh food
Private school vs public

And don't forget:

sofa vs couch
Goodyear vs Firestone
river vs lake

AT&T vs. Verizon

[Anonymous]

Personally I think that education levels/ aspirations are more important than money or SES. And even then, for some “uneven” couples it works just fine.... it would not work for me though...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The class doesn’t matter as much of the husband is a high earner. But if not, it’s very very hard.

Agree? Disagree?

If he is a high enough earner, why would he pick you? What makes you think you are higher class? It is very likely you are grossly overestimating your "class" and market value.

Most of the women that can land the high earner/good looking prince have. It is the bitter, angry, low market value ones (read: you) looking in from the outside who believe they can do better.

+1. Everyone pretty much ends up with who they deserve in looks and wallet.

x1000000

Why are you giving a thumbs up to such a bizarre statement? Define “they deserve”. To me it means “they want and feel they are owed”. By whom?

Because things are not always what they seem - you don't know someone until you live with them. Sometimes, certain types of women go after certain types of men - and they get exactly what they deserve. Not a lot to understand here.

What do you actually mean? “Certain type of men/women”

Gold. Diggers.