Daughter refuses to check her admissions portals, what to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the sooner you send a housing deposit, the better your dorm room. At least at the bigger schools.

That wasn't our experience and DC went to a school with 30,000 undergrads. As long as you sent in your housing deposit by the deadline you were in the initial pool for housing. In fact DC missed an email so sent in his housing request towards the end of the normal period and got a good dowm. Obviously if you came off the waitlist and were after the normal process it would be a different story.

At Cllemson, housing preference is done by application DATE. The earlier you apply, the better your options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't get any emails, she wasn't admitted.

My daughter has been getting various emails from the schools she got into - e.g., congrats, admitted student visit, finaid.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP what's the update? Did you drive over and check the mail yet? Don't leave us hanging!

+1! I mean its likely a tough situation but when you are ready do tell us what happened.

[Anonymous]

The Regular Decision acceptance rates at the top 20 private colleges are like 2-5%. Couple that with no emails since decision date and it's obvious a series of rejections await OP's daughter. No mystery. Writing is on the wall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP what's the update? Did you drive over and check the mail yet? Don't leave us hanging!

+1! I mean its likely a tough situation but when you are ready do tell us what happened.

She's doing to this thread what her daughter is doing to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would tell her she has to check by 6pm today or college is off the table for next year due to her own disinterest. She can take commenunity college classes if she does think academics will be in her future or she can start a vocational program if her interests are more geared that way, but you are not playing into the game anymore.

Consequences. You have to have consequences for a defiant child.

This is terrible advice. Taking even one community college class after graduating makes a student a "transfer" student. Many schools, maybe most, provide far worse financial aid and merit aid for transfers, so that one class can cost you $100,00 easily.

A gap year is fine, but stay away from the community college unless you're planning to do 2 years and transfer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you use the summer address? They can see where she went to high school to know its a scam.

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we used our summer house in montana as well. for our cars too.

[Anonymous]

If you knew that it was a 4 hr drive one way to check your mail, why not put your home address down for colleges? You can always change the? address later when you're at your other house. Also, you need to tell your kid to grow a spine and deal with adult responsibilities. Are you going to have to hover during college?

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll

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Thought it was 4 hours round trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you knew that it was a 4 hr drive one way to check your mail, why not put your home address down for colleges? You can always change the? address later when you're at your other house. Also, you need to tell your kid to grow a spine and deal with adult responsibilities. Are you going to have to hover during college?

Summer house in a different state and for the instate tuition?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She already checked - and she knows they are all rejections and she is afraid to tell you.

This.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

So what happened OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what happened OP?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you knew that it was a 4 hr drive one way to check your mail, why not put your home address down for colleges? You can always change the? address later when you're at your other house. Also, you need to tell your kid to grow a spine and deal with adult responsibilities. Are you going to have to hover during college?

Summer house in a different state and for the instate tuition?

Colleges KNOW where a student attended high school. If it's in a different state from the address of record, colleges are going to see that instantly when they receive the HS transcript and HS counselor recommendation letter etc.

Maybe there are cases where a gullible college will accept a tale that the kid was somehow a resident of state Mailing Address but magically attended HS four hours away in state High School... But I hope anyone who games the system that way gets nailed and is denied in-state tuition. You cannot just own a property in a state and get in-state tuition. You have to prove actual residency in the state, for specified periods of time that are detailed on colleges' web sites. I'm betting a vacation home doesn't count as a real residence. I'm not sure--did OP come back and explain why college mail was going to a house hours away?