Reality check please - DH left toddler with 13 yr step daughter (whose foot is in a cast)

[Anonymous]

She will do great and toddler will do fine. Stop looking for issues. Cast or no cast, I had a hired 12 year old watch my 2 kids, 5 and 3 at the time. It was for not even 3 hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds fine to me. I was babysitting infants and toddlers when I was 13.

However, I should add, he should have let you know.

why should he let her know. Does he need to tell her if he uses the bathroom? He's an adult and a parent and can make reasonable decisions. I do question his choosing a crazy partner however.

[Anonymous]

I thought it was a 2 year old, wouldn't even think a second for a 4 year old. That is just hateful from op.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. He didn't discuss with you first and you're freaking out about what else will he not partner with you on in the future. I understand why you'd feel panic-y. I would, too. I would try not to be reactive, given nothing bad happened, then try to strategize to get the outcome you want. Work in your self-interest. I don't mean to be manipulative about it, but in a way, it's what you're doing to get your needs met.

If it were me, my strategy would be to say, "Hey baby, thanks for running all of those errands. I wouldn't have made the same choice to let Larla babysit, given she's in a cast and Larlo is sick, but I understand you need the help and you did the best you can. Thanks for taking the reigns on this because I was really busy. Let's talk first next time so we're both comfy with the babysitting set up, and let's talk about paying Larla next time when she babysits, too, so she can pocket a little cash. Love you!"

Please tell me you don't actually condescend to your husband like this. What. The. F*ck.

If my dh was stupid enough not to consult me before making that decision, then f**k yeah, I would. And he'd be too stupid to know I was doing it. But, I wouldn't care, because I'd get my way, and he'd be happy that I didn't nag him.

You're a real treat.

OP I hope you don't treat your husband like this.

Obviously she needs to.

[Anonymous]

I think the problem here is he didn’t let you know. I usually give my dh a heads up anytime something is different from what he would expect. He’d definitely let me know too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it. He didn't discuss with you first and you're freaking out about what else will he not partner with you on in the future. I understand why you'd feel panic-y. I would, too. I would try not to be reactive, given nothing bad happened, then try to strategize to get the outcome you want. Work in your self-interest. I don't mean to be manipulative about it, but in a way, it's what you're doing to get your needs met.

If it were me, my strategy would be to say, "Hey baby, thanks for running all of those errands. I wouldn't have made the same choice to let Larla babysit, given she's in a cast and Larlo is sick, but I understand you need the help and you did the best you can. Thanks for taking the reigns on this because I was really busy. Let's talk first next time so we're both comfy with the babysitting set up, and let's talk about paying Larla next time when she babysits, too, so she can pocket a little cash. Love you!"

This is why men have affairs.

[Anonymous]

NP. Overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is DS?

Just turned 4. And he is home sick today.

So, not a toddler at all?

I would have said no for a 1 year old, but with a preschooler it wouldn't bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

Have not read all the posts, but since when is four a toddler?! Sorry if this has already been brought up.

[Anonymous]

NP and for your reality check, yes you are out of line and overreacting. Sorry!

[Anonymous]

I think the bigger issue is why you feel you have to “approve” his decisions for one kid equally his and one all his. This “men have to be managed” crap spewed above is sick.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP. You need meds. And I don't say that lightly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the bigger issue is why you feel you have to “approve” his decisions for one kid equally his and one all his. This “men have to be managed” crap spewed above is sick.

It was pretty poor judgement IMO. I guess OP didn’t realize she needed to manage him so closely but does now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should've let you know, but you're overreacting. I babysat a neighbor's 2 year old at 13 while her parents went on movie dates.

I started babysitting at 11 and for more than one kid! We all did fine. And I wasn't unusual in my group. Parents waaaaay infantilize their kids these days.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing your stepdaughter and your husband both had phones so she could have called him if she couldn't handle it.

And yeah, toddlerhood ends when kids turn 3.