The amount of affairs on here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't cheaters afraid of STDs and giving an STD to a loyal spouse? And no, condoms don't protect you from everything. Bacteria and viruses get transmitted in all mucous areas.
I think giving an STD to a loyal spouse should be punishable by law.

There was a thread when someone gave their spouse an STD that turned into cervical cancer.

Yep, that ALWAYS happens, from your sample size of one. OMG cheating is like....murder!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't cheaters afraid of STDs and giving an STD to a loyal spouse? And no, condoms don't protect you from everything. Bacteria and viruses get transmitted in all mucous areas.
I think giving an STD to a loyal spouse should be punishable by law.

Oh you do, huh? A person who does not have sex with their spouse has no chance of catching anything. As for cheaters, they are adults who can figure out how to take precautions against STDs. Why would you think otherwise?

Because most STDs are transmitted orally, anally, and vaginally. HPV is a glaring example, hence increase in cervical cancers for women and throat cancers for men. So, unless you are planning a barrier on every mucous area of body you are pretty much screwed (no pun intended). And yes, it should be punishable by law if you give it ti someone who committed to monogamy (one of its benefits are a disease free sexual environment) and whom you betrayed by bringing in a virus or bacteria.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't cheaters afraid of STDs and giving an STD to a loyal spouse? And no, condoms don't protect you from everything. Bacteria and viruses get transmitted in all mucous areas.
I think giving an STD to a loyal spouse should be punishable by law.

Oh you do, huh? A person who does not have sex with their spouse has no chance of catching anything. As for cheaters, they are adults who can figure out how to take precautions against STDs. Why would you think otherwise?

Because most STDs are transmitted orally, anally, and vaginally. HPV is a glaring example, hence increase in cervical cancers for women and throat cancers for men. So, unless you are planning a barrier on every mucous area of body you are pretty much screwed (no pun intended). And yes, it should be punishable by law if you give it ti someone who committed to monogamy (one of its benefits are a disease free sexual environment) and whom you betrayed by bringing in a virus or bacteria.

I'm going to get slammed for this, but STDs are kind of like a dummy tax for staying married to a cheater. Women always know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't cheaters afraid of STDs and giving an STD to a loyal spouse? And no, condoms don't protect you from everything. Bacteria and viruses get transmitted in all mucous areas.
I think giving an STD to a loyal spouse should be punishable by law.

Oh you do, huh? A person who does not have sex with their spouse has no chance of catching anything. As for cheaters, they are adults who can figure out how to take precautions against STDs. Why would you think otherwise?

Because most STDs are transmitted orally, anally, and vaginally. HPV is a glaring example, hence increase in cervical cancers for women and throat cancers for men. So, unless you are planning a barrier on every mucous area of body you are pretty much screwed (no pun intended). And yes, it should be punishable by law if you give it ti someone who committed to monogamy (one of its benefits are a disease free sexual environment) and whom you betrayed by bringing in a virus or bacteria.

I'm going to get slammed for this, but STDs are kind of like a dummy tax for staying married to a cheater. Women always know.

It would be funny if it wasn't sad. Women die every day from cervical cancer. Usually they are discovered in advanced stages or with yearly PAP smear if requested in conjunction with HPV test. So, someone can be a really good cheater and a wife can pay for it with her life much later on. Same with husband in case of Hep C, HIV, and oral HPV.

[Anonymous]

Not all of the cheaters out there are in sexless marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't cheaters afraid of STDs and giving an STD to a loyal spouse? And no, condoms don't protect you from everything. Bacteria and viruses get transmitted in all mucous areas.
I think giving an STD to a loyal spouse should be punishable by law.

Oh you do, huh? A person who does not have sex with their spouse has no chance of catching anything. As for cheaters, they are adults who can figure out how to take precautions against STDs. Why would you think otherwise?

Because most STDs are transmitted orally, anally, and vaginally. HPV is a glaring example, hence increase in cervical cancers for women and throat cancers for men. So, unless you are planning a barrier on every mucous area of body you are pretty much screwed (no pun intended). And yes, it should be punishable by law if you give it ti someone who committed to monogamy (one of its benefits are a disease free sexual environment) and whom you betrayed by bringing in a virus or bacteria.

I'm going to get slammed for this, but STDs are kind of like a dummy tax for staying married to a cheater. Women always know.

It would be funny if it wasn't sad. Women die every day from cervical cancer. Usually they are discovered in advanced stages or with yearly PAP smear if requested in conjunction with HPV test. So, someone can be a really good cheater and a wife can pay for it with her life much later on. Same with husband in case of Hep C, HIV, and oral HPV.

OMG, sex is so icky. Why does anyone do it? You could die, or kill you innocent spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you one of the posters who was trying to shame others who considered affairs when their spouse refused sex for years at a time? Grow up and worry about yourself. Keep your own house in order and hopefully you won't have to deal with the issue of infidelity in your marriage- which is the only one you should feel this strongly about.

If you can’t see how the Infidelities of others affects your marriage, then you are blind. Your spouse sees how pervasive it is in the DC area, picks up on it and, like a dripping faucet, it eventually may break.

It affects the entire community.

OMG, I never knew that getting some sex on the side was damaging the entire community! Or my poor spouse who just has to join in the debauchery she sees all around her? Drip, drip drip.. Dramatic much?

Naive, party of one? Your table is now ready! Naive, party of one? Your table is ready.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want your husband to fool around, have sex with them. Simple as that. Really if you and your husband are not having sex you need a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal? I know a lot of these posts and comments are probably trolls, but there seems to be a lot of legitimate cheaters. To the serial cheaters, why are you getting married and having kids? You had to know that you weren't marriage material before you got married. Like "well I am kinda a hoe, so maybe I shouldn't make any vows." Then you just ruin the lives of everyone around you. Like a wrecking ball.

Look, you are pretty horrible people and I don't expect you to listen, but if you're not marriage material, let the people know beforehand. Please don't get married and more importantly have children. Just the avoid the family life. Let someone a better person, that will not make your partner miserable, find love. You are just blocking up traffic. Like the person on the Metro rests their feet on the seat next to them. Move and let someone else have it.

OK, so I'm one of those people. But I was faithful for 20 years and had kids. But ... then I got all broken inside, made bad decisions, had some faulty coping mechanisms. Serial cheater? I only cheated with one person, but it was lots and lots of times.

I sure as hell didn't know when I got married that I wasn't going to stay faithful. I had no idea. I surprised myself. I'd never cheated on anybody up to that point. In hindsight I realized I'd had some emotional affairs and I pushed the boundaries of what was OK before marriage, and maybe even a bit after, but at the time I did NOT have any clue, no idea, and it was only after cheating "for real" and reading reading reading up on myself did I realize that I'd had issues my whole life, that I just didn't know it.

If I'd known then what I know now ... things WOULD be different. I probably would not have married the person I married. And sure, I might be a horrible person. Pretty much, I agree, I'm a selfish, horrible, cheater and I can't seem to find empathy for my spouse. But I didn't know in my 20s.

So you were like: "I am having some issues, well time to crush my family." You were on this planet for twenty years and you still couldn't figure out that you were a horrible person? Like even before you had kids? You just wasted someone's life. Like people only have one of those.

You're being a bit overly dramatic with this. My husband had an affair. It didn't waste my life. His fidelity or lack thereof just isn't a gauge by which I evaluate my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want your husband to fool around, have sex with them. Simple as that. Really if you and your husband are not having sex you need a divorce.

Actually that doesn't help anything. Tons of husbands and wives who have frequent sex also have sex with other people. It's not lack of sex that drives affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal? I know a lot of these posts and comments are probably trolls, but there seems to be a lot of legitimate cheaters. To the serial cheaters, why are you getting married and having kids? You had to know that you weren't marriage material before you got married. Like "well I am kinda a hoe, so maybe I shouldn't make any vows." Then you just ruin the lives of everyone around you. Like a wrecking ball.

Look, you are pretty horrible people and I don't expect you to listen, but if you're not marriage material, let the people know beforehand. Please don't get married and more importantly have children. Just the avoid the family life. Let someone a better person, that will not make your partner miserable, find love. You are just blocking up traffic. Like the person on the Metro rests their feet on the seat next to them. Move and let someone else have it.

OK, so I'm one of those people. But I was faithful for 20 years and had kids. But ... then I got all broken inside, made bad decisions, had some faulty coping mechanisms. Serial cheater? I only cheated with one person, but it was lots and lots of times.

I sure as hell didn't know when I got married that I wasn't going to stay faithful. I had no idea. I surprised myself. I'd never cheated on anybody up to that point. In hindsight I realized I'd had some emotional affairs and I pushed the boundaries of what was OK before marriage, and maybe even a bit after, but at the time I did NOT have any clue, no idea, and it was only after cheating "for real" and reading reading reading up on myself did I realize that I'd had issues my whole life, that I just didn't know it.

If I'd known then what I know now ... things WOULD be different. I probably would not have married the person I married. And sure, I might be a horrible person. Pretty much, I agree, I'm a selfish, horrible, cheater and I can't seem to find empathy for my spouse. But I didn't know in my 20s.

So you were like: "I am having some issues, well time to crush my family." You were on this planet for twenty years and you still couldn't figure out that you were a horrible person? Like even before you had kids? You just wasted someone's life. Like people only have one of those.

You're being a bit overly dramatic with this. My husband had an affair. It didn't waste my life. His fidelity or lack thereof just isn't a gauge by which I evaluate my life.

+1 His behavior has zero impact on my view of me. He wants to cheat and I find out: good bye, doesn't impact my self worth, my life is definitely not wasted.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you're having such a hard time op. If you can't get your husband to love you again maybe get a hobby? I hear women of a particular age like to knit.

[Anonymous]

I would imagine that most cheaters use this anonymous site to cheat: anonymous user names, etc.. Maybe that is why we see so many cheaters.

[Anonymous]

There's no way I'm quoting the chop job 17:24 did when trying to respond to be post but this is to you 17:24.

I'll make it simple for you. When you get married both parties should be able to choose to remain in or leave the relationship with as much information as possible.

Spouse A can choose to stop having sex and communicate that to spouse b. Spouse b then has that information and can choose to leave or inform spouse a that they will seek sex outside the marriage. If spouse b cheats secretly then they are deciding for spouse a what spouse a should have in their life. Spouse a does not have the choice that was offered to spouse b, namely, accept this crappy thing I'm doing or leave.

Therefore, at best, both spouses are equally crappy. This is not taking into account marriages where sex has stopped for a short time for childbearing or menopausal reasons or for injury or sickness. In those cases spouse b is much crappier then spouse a.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the deal? I know a lot of these posts and comments are probably trolls, but there seems to be a lot of legitimate cheaters. To the serial cheaters, why are you getting married and having kids? You had to know that you weren't marriage material before you got married. Like "well I am kinda a hoe, so maybe I shouldn't make any vows." Then you just ruin the lives of everyone around you. Like a wrecking ball.

Look, you are pretty horrible people and I don't expect you to listen, but if you're not marriage material, let the people know beforehand. Please don't get married and more importantly have children. Just the avoid the family life. Let someone a better person, that will not make your partner miserable, find love. You are just blocking up traffic. Like the person on the Metro rests their feet on the seat next to them. Move and let someone else have it.

OK, so I'm one of those people. But I was faithful for 20 years and had kids. But ... then I got all broken inside, made bad decisions, had some faulty coping mechanisms. Serial cheater? I only cheated with one person, but it was lots and lots of times.

I sure as hell didn't know when I got married that I wasn't going to stay faithful. I had no idea. I surprised myself. I'd never cheated on anybody up to that point. In hindsight I realized I'd had some emotional affairs and I pushed the boundaries of what was OK before marriage, and maybe even a bit after, but at the time I did NOT have any clue, no idea, and it was only after cheating "for real" and reading reading reading up on myself did I realize that I'd had issues my whole life, that I just didn't know it.

If I'd known then what I know now ... things WOULD be different. I probably would not have married the person I married. And sure, I might be a horrible person. Pretty much, I agree, I'm a selfish, horrible, cheater and I can't seem to find empathy for my spouse. But I didn't know in my 20s.

So you were like: "I am having some issues, well time to crush my family." You were on this planet for twenty years and you still couldn't figure out that you were a horrible person? Like even before you had kids? You just wasted someone's life. Like people only have one of those.

You're being a bit overly dramatic with this. My husband had an affair. It didn't waste my life. His fidelity or lack thereof just isn't a gauge by which I evaluate my life.

I mean your time. Time is life. He wasted your time. Then there are people that cheat throughout a relationship.