The amount of affairs on here

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Anonymous wrote:I find this interesting. I would never cheat on DH. However, no one has anyone ever expressed any interest in cheating with me or starting an affair with me. Is it really that common?

Men hit on me because I project that kind of energy. I can get a guy to give me his contact info with just an intense gaze. If you seem receptive and reasonably feminine men will respond. It's a numbers game and those who want to get laid have to play.

Please teach me how to do this. I want to use it in job interviews so I can get a job I like. I also want to use it on my MIL so I get what I want from her.

Is MIL a lesbian?
It might get you a "2nd interview" but that "2nd interview" may come with expectations.

No, I want her to provide free childcare and give her son more money.

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Anonymous wrote:I find this interesting. I would never cheat on DH. However, no one has anyone ever expressed any interest in cheating with me or starting an affair with me. Is it really that common?

Men hit on me because I project that kind of energy. I can get a guy to give me his contact info with just an intense gaze. If you seem receptive and reasonably feminine men will respond. It's a numbers game and those who want to get laid have to play.

OMG this is HYSTERICAL. Please, tell us more.

Married man here. Believe her: this one knows what's she is talking about.

Yep. I second that. It's true.

Married woman here. Married men express interest, with varying degrees of directness, at least a couple of times per month. About two months ago I met a man out walking my dog in my neighborhood. He said hello and introduced himself. He was wearing a sweatshirt from my alma mater. I observed I went there, completely without agenda. We chatted briefly. Our lines of work came up. Two days later he emails-- he'd found my work bio on line and wanted to say hello and hoped he runs into me, maybe coffee next time. He had a wedding band and was probably within a block of his home when he first chatted me up.

Married. Men. Do. This.

Maybe so, but it’s then up to the married. Woman. To. Stop. It. From. Developing.

I agree and didn't respond. However, the question here is whether married men try. They do.

You probably increase the chances your husband will do this if you don't have sex with him.

Agree, but how much is enough to keep the urge to stray from happening? I mean, my DH could go for at least twice a day (at 43). I just can’t more than twice a week.

Depends on the guy and his proclivities but 2x/week should do it unless he's inclined to stay anyway. Maybe throw in a BJ when he's feeling frisky and you aren't up for a romp.

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Married woman here. Married men express interest, with varying degrees of directness, at least a couple of times per month. About two months ago I met a man out walking my dog in my neighborhood. He said hello and introduced himself. He was wearing a sweatshirt from my alma mater. I observed I went there, completely without agenda. We chatted briefly. Our lines of work came up. Two days later he emails-- he'd found my work bio on line and wanted to say hello and hoped he runs into me, maybe coffee next time. He had a wedding band and was probably within a block of his home when he first chatted me up.

Married. Men. Do. This.

I wonder if I'm just unattractive because absolutely no married men ever express interest in me. At all. I'm 41 and slender. I know this is horribly immature but I have zero interest in actually having an affair. I just want someone to be interested in me so that I can feel flattered and say no thanks.

You are giving off the vibe that you have no interest. There is a certain way women that get propositioned dress and carry themselves. When you aren't interested in that attention or open to that possibility, it can be sensed and the guy won't try.

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Married woman here. Married men express interest, with varying degrees of directness, at least a couple of times per month. About two months ago I met a man out walking my dog in my neighborhood. He said hello and introduced himself. He was wearing a sweatshirt from my alma mater. I observed I went there, completely without agenda. We chatted briefly. Our lines of work came up. Two days later he emails-- he'd found my work bio on line and wanted to say hello and hoped he runs into me, maybe coffee next time. He had a wedding band and was probably within a block of his home when he first chatted me up.

Married. Men. Do. This.

I wonder if I'm just unattractive because absolutely no married men ever express interest in me. At all. I'm 41 and slender. I know this is horribly immature but I have zero interest in actually having an affair. I just want someone to be interested in me so that I can feel flattered and say no thanks.

You are giving off the vibe that you have no interest. There is a certain way women that get propositioned dress and carry themselves. When you aren't interested in that attention or open to that possibility, it can be sensed and the guy won't try.

NP here - I am faithful to my husband so I don't want to give off any attraction vibes. I am well aware that sex happens if a woman allows it.

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Data is not the plural of anecdote.

Replace "choosing to forego sex for the next 6 years" if you'd like.

Oh come on like half of 30 year olds right now have divorced parents. Most of our lives weren't ruined. And this was divorce in the days when no one was talking about ways to do it right to protect the children and moms were always given custody.

And I personally think that choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a totally reasonable price to pay if you think your children's lives will literally be ruined. And I take issue with you dinging me on that as my entire problem with this poster is that they are hyperbolic and dramatic and using it to justify their decisions. I am using that poster (your?) language, not my own.

Choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a violation of marital vows. If that's your choice and it's not for health reasons, you reap what you sow and you get no sympathy from me.

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Data is not the plural of anecdote.

Replace "choosing to forego sex for the next 6 years" if you'd like.

Oh come on like half of 30 year olds right now have divorced parents. Most of our lives weren't ruined. And this was divorce in the days when no one was talking about ways to do it right to protect the children and moms were always given custody.

And I personally think that choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a totally reasonable price to pay if you think your children's lives will literally be ruined. And I take issue with you dinging me on that as my entire problem with this poster is that they are hyperbolic and dramatic and using it to justify their decisions. I am using that poster (your?) language, not my own.

Choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a violation of marital vows. If that's your choice and it's not for health reasons, you reap what you sow and you get no sympathy from me.

It is a completely acceptable reason to divorce I agree.

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Men hit on me because I project that kind of energy. I can get a guy to give me his contact info with just an intense gaze. If you seem receptive and reasonably feminine men will respond. It's a numbers game and those who want to get laid have to play.

this is abso-f'ing-lutely true. Look people in the eye and they look back and they start to to get interested. When you have the vibe you have the vibe and men respond.

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Anonymous wrote:I find this interesting. I would never cheat on DH. However, no one has anyone ever expressed any interest in cheating with me or starting an affair with me. Is it really that common?

Men hit on me because I project that kind of energy. I can get a guy to give me his contact info with just an intense gaze. If you seem receptive and reasonably feminine men will respond. It's a numbers game and those who want to get laid have to play.

OMG this is HYSTERICAL. Please, tell us more.

Married man here. Believe her: this one knows what's she is talking about.

That and a friendly smile.

Friendly smile poster here. I have been told that I am so alive by married men. I am in great shape for any age, and very friendly naturally. Most arr shocked when I make eye contact. This is for single guys and married ones.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man here. Believe her: this one knows what's she is talking about.

Yep. I second that. It's true.

Married woman here. Married men express interest, with varying degrees of directness, at least a couple of times per month. About two months ago I met a man out walking my dog in my neighborhood. He said hello and introduced himself. He was wearing a sweatshirt from my alma mater. I observed I went there, completely without agenda. We chatted briefly. Our lines of work came up. Two days later he emails-- he'd found my work bio on line and wanted to say hello and hoped he runs into me, maybe coffee next time. He had a wedding band and was probably within a block of his home when he first chatted me up.

Married. Men. Do. This.

Maybe so, but it’s then up to the married. Woman. To. Stop. It. From. Developing.

Yeah and what's your point? That women are the gatekeepers of sex? Somebody call CNN.
For men, it's a numbers game. You might hear a few No's, quickly move on, you will soon get a Yes.

Not true. I’m aware of several men who spent decades trying to find an ap at their work or elsewhere without any success. They earned good money but were unattractive.

Unattractive men in low sex marriages need to divorce if they expect a normal sex life. They can easily get laid in the dating world. While women may be the gatekeepers of sex, men (especially over say 30) are the gatekeepers of relationships (in which dating equals sex).

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Anonymous wrote:Thread started out as an admonishment of cheaters by the OP...

12 pages later people are giving tips/advice on how to improve their chances of finding someone to cheat with.

Classic DCUM.

OP here. I agree, it's amazing. These people are insane.

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I wonder if I'm just unattractive because absolutely no married men ever express interest in me. At all. I'm 41 and slender. I know this is horribly immature but I have zero interest in actually having an affair. I just want someone to be interested in me so that I can feel flattered and say no thanks.


I’m guessing you didn’t date much before marriage either. But look. There will always be an interested male. Somewhere.

I would say I dated a moderate amount. More serious boyfriends than random dates. It isn't worth putting in much effort to look when I just want someone to ask or express interest so that I can turn them down. I just want attention, not an affair.

Slender is fine, but if you’re otherwise not that attractive, don’t expect this type of attention

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Married woman here. Married men express interest, with varying degrees of directness, at least a couple of times per month. About two months ago I met a man out walking my dog in my neighborhood. He said hello and introduced himself. He was wearing a sweatshirt from my alma mater. I observed I went there, completely without agenda. We chatted briefly. Our lines of work came up. Two days later he emails-- he'd found my work bio on line and wanted to say hello and hoped he runs into me, maybe coffee next time. He had a wedding band and was probably within a block of his home when he first chatted me up.

Married. Men. Do. This.

I wonder if I'm just unattractive because absolutely no married men ever express interest in me. At all. I'm 41 and slender. I know this is horribly immature but I have zero interest in actually having an affair. I just want someone to be interested in me so that I can feel flattered and say no thanks.

You are giving off the vibe that you have no interest. There is a certain way women that get propositioned dress and carry themselves. When you aren't interested in that attention or open to that possibility, it can be sensed and the guy won't try.

NP here - I am faithful to my husband so I don't want to give off any attraction vibes. I am well aware that sex happens if a woman allows it.

It sounds like your husband is not satisfying some kind of emotional need you have—the need to feel attractive to men or something.

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I wonder if I'm just unattractive because absolutely no married men ever express interest in me. At all. I'm 41 and slender. I know this is horribly immature but I have zero interest in actually having an affair. I just want someone to be interested in me so that I can feel flattered and say no thanks.


I’m guessing you didn’t date much before marriage either. But look. There will always be an interested male. Somewhere.

I would say I dated a moderate amount. More serious boyfriends than random dates. It isn't worth putting in much effort to look when I just want someone to ask or express interest so that I can turn them down. I just want attention, not an affair.

Slender is fine, but if you’re otherwise not that attractive, don’t expect this type of attention

She should get on Instagram and get validation that way. I know a chubby 46-year-old who gets hot Brazilian male followers because she posts 15 selfies every day.Sick but effective.

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It sounds like your husband is not satisfying some kind of emotional need you have—the need to feel attractive to men or something.

Yeah, maybe. He travels a lot and works a lot. But I love him and don't want to have an affair. I just wanted to feel validated and get some attention. I'm going to put the whole situation out of my mind.

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It sounds like your husband is not satisfying some kind of emotional need you have—the need to feel attractive to men or something.

Yeah, maybe. He travels a lot and works a lot. But I love him and don't want to have an affair. I just wanted to feel validated and get some attention. I'm going to put the whole situation out of my mind.

With the right male giving you the right validation and attention, I think even you would wind up hitting that.