Wife works out too much

[Anonymous]

You should take her out on hot dates and let her know that you notice all of the effort that she's putting forth. She may feel unfulfilled, it may be a coping mechanism, she may just want to feel good about herself for her own mental health. You don't know unless you communicate with her about what is driving her. She may need more compliments from you, who knows? Let her know that you're attracted to her and that you love her. That may be what she needs to hear. Also, don't just say the words, but show her every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Despite being "hot" and sweaty, hot yoga actually isn't that much of an intense cardio or physical workout even if you feel like you sweated a lot.

Is she eating normally? Does she know to step back from the workouts when she's ill or injured?

Also, does she freak out if she misses workouts? To me, that's one of the biggest signs of unhealthy obsession--when you start panicking because you missed a workout due to life or when you start ignoring a doctor's advice and work out hurt/sick.

Nobody is talking about hot yoga. Just power yoga flow at a normal room temperature. It is intensive and no not cardio--but holding yoga poses is more like lifting weights in intensity. And cardio (cycling) make me eat, whereas yoga doesn't.

She does bikram yoga.

I'm confused...bikram classes are 90 minutes

[Anonymous]

If I were a SAHM I would definitely work out this much. But probably not pay for that many classes. I work full time (w/ commute) and I get up at 5am to do 1.5 hours. It's "me" time and keeps me sane.

[Anonymous]

OP, your wife stays at home with your kids and co-sleeps - I don't think it takes a genius to figure out why she wants to be out of the house for two hours a day doing something solely for herself.

My suggestion to you is that you support her in this endeavor unless and until you have some other cause for concern (i.e. she is losing too much weight, she starts not coming home for hours after class is over, etc.). Also, try talking to her. Being a stay at home mom with your first child can be really tough.

[Anonymous]

Woman here who doesn't exercise enough. I say you should be happy that your wife exercises as much as she does - it releases endorphins, makes her fit, and staves off PPD. Good for her.

[Anonymous]

For some reason I found this thread inspiring and checked into signing my kids up for childcare at the gym today. Thanks OP’s wife! I’m on my way to being a sexy mom!

[Anonymous]

Gone every evening would be problematic for me. It means there is no family time.

Two hours a day during the day...no problem. She could run with the kid / kids or do classes with child care.

It's a bit excessive but probably will decrease to less than 2 hours a day in time.

The evening thing wouldn't fly with us. No way one of us is leaving every evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gone every evening would be problematic for me. It means there is no family time.

Two hours a day during the day...no problem. She could run with the kid / kids or do classes with child care.

It's a bit excessive but probably will decrease to less than 2 hours a day in time.

The evening thing wouldn't fly with us. No way one of us is leaving every evening.

I’m pretty sure family time is what this woman wants a break from. Every night is excessive though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gone every evening would be problematic for me. It means there is no family time.

Two hours a day during the day...no problem. She could run with the kid / kids or do classes with child care.

It's a bit excessive but probably will decrease to less than 2 hours a day in time.

The evening thing wouldn't fly with us. No way one of us is leaving every evening.

I’m pretty sure family time is what this woman wants a break from. Every night is excessive though.

Yeah, I'm one of those two hours a day moms, but my kids are now in ES and I still don't leave in the evenings, thats family time! Whats the point of having a SAH if you don't even get to all relax and be together in the evenings?

[Anonymous]

I love exercise and believe it is extremely beneficial. However, I find two hours daily excessive. I don’t think this is normal. I’m a SAHM and try to get one class in a day. That itself is challenging. 2 hours, absolutely no way. Even if she’s doing it now I think it will be very hard to maintain in the long run.