Wife works out too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whose watching your kid between her free Lance job, 2 hrs of exercise, and the travel time getting to/for gym/streching/showered.

Is the yoga instructor/fellow yoga classmate good looking by chance?

This is a great take. Not enough for her to stay home, she has to stay in the house, behind the metal screen, in her burqa or she's clearly a whore.

OP, this barely-literate PP is what you sound like. Is it what you want to sound like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Of course it's healthier than many things. But done to this degree it's almost certainly paired with disordered eating / body image / anxiety / etc. OP could be reacting to that.

OP hasn't provided anything to indicate this in his post.

[Anonymous]

I mean it does seem like a little much, but I get needing to work out a lot more post-baby. My body went to shit after I stopped breastfeeding. And if I had the time/money during the weekdays to work out often, I like to think I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Of course it's healthier than many things. But done to this degree it's almost certainly paired with disordered eating / body image / anxiety / etc. OP could be reacting to that.

She's not doing it to an unhealthy degree. Yoga- even hot yoga- is barely exercise. An hour of exercise plus an hour of yoga/stretching is pretty mild. It's not like she's doing 4 hours of Crossfit plus training for an Iron Man.

For most of human history we were active for the majority of the day, walked/ran 5-11 miles per day, hunted game, built our own houses, toiled in the fields, etc. A couple hours of exercise is fine.

[Anonymous]

Dude - your sole goal is to bang her hot body when she comes home from exercise - nothing better then that!

[Anonymous]

It sounds fine to me. I wish I had the energy to do it.

I was a serious dancer and was dancing 3 hours a day, 7 days a week from age 12-20. No one said it was excessive. It was. My knees are not in great shape now.

I wish I had the energy to work out 10 hours a week now. If I get 5 in, I'm lucky.

I try to do 1.5 hours when I go to the gym but I don't go as much as I should. Good for her!

[Anonymous]

I think this is her therapy OP. It's her escape from the draining monotony of being home with a baby all day (which is, trust me, draining). She gets to leave the house and go do something just for her, plus the endorphins. I swear getting to the gym felt like a spa retreat in the early days.

MY two concerns would be the expense (hot yoga AND orange theory membership? Sound expensive...but hey, if it's not a concern for you guys' budget then why can't she spend the money on something she prioritizes?) and the fact that yes, religiously attending twice a day COULD be verging on concerning in terms of unhealthy addiction-type behavior and being rough on her body. Could be, but certainly maybe not. Keep an eye on her. Does she ever take a day off? If for some reason she's not able to make it one day, how does she react? How are her eating habits?

[Anonymous]

OP you weren't clear on why it could be too much. Does she look/act unwell? Does she go around dressed in work out clothes smelling sweaty all the time? Is she obsessively calorie counting everything? Is she trying to get you to work out? You'd get better feedback if you stated the problem.

[Anonymous]

Unlike things like cross fit, orange theory and hot yoga aren't incredibly taxing on the body

[Anonymous]

Despite being "hot" and sweaty, hot yoga actually isn't that much of an intense cardio or physical workout even if you feel like you sweated a lot.

Is she eating normally? Does she know to step back from the workouts when she's ill or injured?

Also, does she freak out if she misses workouts? To me, that's one of the biggest signs of unhealthy obsession--when you start panicking because you missed a workout due to life or when you start ignoring a doctor's advice and work out hurt/sick.

[Anonymous]

OP consider yourself blessed. Think of all the people who wish their spouse would workout.

[Anonymous]

you definitely should be worried...about her trying to look good for someone else, possibly cheating.

this is the common line of thinking of many women here who chime in when other women post similar concerns about their DH. so fair is fair, right?

[Anonymous]

She sounds disordered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I worked out 2-3 hours a day, including yoga and walking, weight training and cardio and swimming, because they all work different parts of the body. Yoga is essential to keep the muscles lengthened for a lot of exercise. I did this for over a year, because I stayed at home and I was stressed out with young child 12 hrs a day and husband who couldn't be bothered to help with child or house.

So then how did you find time to do it? A sitter for 3 hours per day?

I had a variety of choices. At 5am, I would wake up amd either hit a 6a yoga class or do cardio at a $10 gym for 30 min with a friend. Then DD and I would drive 20 min to my favorite gym with childcare and I would take a 1 hour class. Could be cardio or strength, or combo. I would change and we'd meet up with friend for a pmaydate, take a walk, go to the mall or park. Then nap. Then after DH got home, I would go to a yoga class down the street 5 days a week. I would hit AM yoga classes and/or maybe a zumba on the weekends. I always looked for opportunities to walk with DD, and when the weather was nice, we could walk with firends or by ourselves 4-5 miles in the middle of the day. Park, lunch, nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked out 2-3 hours a day, including yoga and walking, weight training and cardio and swimming, because they all work different parts of the body. Yoga is essential to keep the muscles lengthened for a lot of exercise. I did this for over a year, because I stayed at home and I was stressed out with young child 12 hrs a day and husband who couldn't be bothered to help with child or house.

So then how did you find time to do it? A sitter for 3 hours per day?

I had a variety of choices. At 5am, I would wake up amd either hit a 6a yoga class or do cardio at a $10 gym for 30 min with a friend. Then DD and I would drive 20 min to my favorite gym with childcare and I would take a 1 hour class. Could be cardio or strength, or combo. I would change and we'd meet up with friend for a pmaydate, take a walk, go to the mall or park. Then nap. Then after DH got home, I would go to a yoga class down the street 5 days a week. I would hit AM yoga classes and/or maybe a zumba on the weekends. I always looked for opportunities to walk with DD, and when the weather was nice, we could walk with firends or by ourselves 4-5 miles in the middle of the day. Park, lunch, nap.

But your point was that you did this largely because you were unhappy at home and with your husband. You can't really think this is a normal amount of exercise for a mentally healthy person.