Wife works out too much

[Anonymous]

2 hours a day is pretty optimum to maintain a fit body. I'm 57 and I do 90 mins a day. Get off the couch, OP. Your wife sounds awesome.

[Anonymous]

Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

[Anonymous]

If I was a SAHM I would need to work out for 2 hours a day to maintain my patience and to have some time to myself. Have you asked her the reason?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty serious exerciser (solidcore, soulcycle, 45ish mins a day 5-6 times a week). I have a friend who is like what you describe. She has major eating issues (it's VERY hard to work out like this and not) and anger / anxiety. Working out is great - I do it too, I get it, and my husband is a marathoner) - but at this level, it's hard to say she's not obsessing.

There is a zero percent chance OP would have kept this information to himself if it was a problem in this instance -- he really wants people to agree with him that it's a problem but has not responded to anyone asking about disordered eating. Just "it's hot yoga" as though we'll all say, ohhh, in that case, she needs to be committed!

The most relevant information here is that she's a SAHM and he makes sure she pays for this out of her own money. This guy sounds like a tool and she is probably thrilled to be out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

No, it’s not unusual. I am a SAHM and exercise at least 2 hrs a day. My kids are at school. I look great. No stress. I enjoy working out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a zero percent chance OP would have kept this information to himself if it was a problem in this instance -- he really wants people to agree with him that it's a problem but has not responded to anyone asking about disordered eating. Just "it's hot yoga" as though we'll all say, ohhh, in that case, she needs to be committed!

The most relevant information here is that she's a SAHM and he makes sure she pays for this out of her own money. This guy sounds like a tool and she is probably thrilled to be out of the house.

I suspect you’re correct. Besides being home with young children isn’t exactly riveting for any adult with a triple digit in, no matter how much you love them. Good for her finding an outlet that’ll make her look and feel great. Most people just give up.

[Anonymous]

Her exercise habits are completely normal and won't damage her joints, they will actually keep them healthy. Do you need to work out two hours a day to stay in shape and be healthy? No. But if you enjoy these activities then it's perfectly normal. We don't judge people who watch two hours of TV a day, or read for two hours a day, etc. Why is exercise as a hobby judged differently?
And yoga is definitely exercise. Some yoga is very gentle and some is very strenuous.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like OP feels neglected and is whinging here as a vent. Time to step up your game, OP. Why not work out with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Of course it's healthier than many things. But done to this degree it's almost certainly paired with disordered eating / body image / anxiety / etc. OP could be reacting to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's goes to yoga in the morning and orange theory in the evenings. She does this almost every day. On the weekdays she only goes to one class but she will also work out at our apartment gym or go running outside. 2 hour's of exercise seems excessive. It's also very expensive but she does pay for this expense herself even though she's a stay at home mom. She has a freelance writing job but it's only 8 hours per week. My wife is not overweight. She has always had a great body and didn't regularly exercise before she had a baby. Should I be worried about this?

ARE you worried about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked out 2-3 hours a day, including yoga and walking, weight training and cardio and swimming, because they all work different parts of the body. Yoga is essential to keep the muscles lengthened for a lot of exercise. I did this for over a year, because I stayed at home and I was stressed out with young child 12 hrs a day and husband who couldn't be bothered to help with child or house.

So then how did you find time to do it? A sitter for 3 hours per day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked out 2-3 hours a day, including yoga and walking, weight training and cardio and swimming, because they all work different parts of the body. Yoga is essential to keep the muscles lengthened for a lot of exercise. I did this for over a year, because I stayed at home and I was stressed out with young child 12 hrs a day and husband who couldn't be bothered to help with child or house.

So then how did you find time to do it? A sitter for 3 hours per day?

Not the PP, but gyms often have childcare, and kids can go on walks.

[Anonymous]

Whose watching your kid between her free Lance job, 2 hrs of exercise, and the travel time getting to/for gym/streching/showered.

Is the yoga instructor/fellow yoga classmate good looking by chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's goes to yoga in the morning and orange theory in the evenings. She does this almost every day. On the weekdays she only goes to one class but she will also work out at our apartment gym or go running outside. 2 hour's of exercise seems excessive. It's also very expensive but she does pay for this expense herself even though she's a stay at home mom. She has a freelance writing job but it's only 8 hours per week. My wife is not overweight. She has always had a great body and didn't regularly exercise before she had a baby. Should I be worried about this?

And she maintains that great body BECAUSE of her exercise routine. Why mess with a good thing?