Wife works out too much

[Anonymous]

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You should pull out articles that say that excessive exercise is bad for one's joints. She will be in pain later in life.

There is also lots of research out there that explain how good nutrition is MORE IMPORTANT than exercise to stay slim and healthy.

The truth is that the modern way of exercising (in intense bursts at the gym) is not healthy. Moderate, continuous effort such as walking, hiking, or leisure biking give cardiac benefits, calorie burn, keeps tissues pliable, without injury or long-term damage.

I would like to see this research, can you link?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Yes, it may be a coping mechanism for her. To cope, I do orangetheory every day, AND chug wine, stuff pizza and sweets, and take an hour long hot bath every night. It works ok I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP consider yourself blessed. Think of all the people who wish their spouse would workout.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I worked out 2-3 hours a day, including yoga and walking, weight training and cardio and swimming, because they all work different parts of the body. Yoga is essential to keep the muscles lengthened for a lot of exercise. I did this for over a year, because I stayed at home and I was stressed out with young child 12 hrs a day and husband who couldn't be bothered to help with child or house.

So then how did you find time to do it? A sitter for 3 hours per day?

I had a variety of choices. At 5am, I would wake up amd either hit a 6a yoga class or do cardio at a $10 gym for 30 min with a friend. Then DD and I would drive 20 min to my favorite gym with childcare and I would take a 1 hour class. Could be cardio or strength, or combo. I would change and we'd meet up with friend for a pmaydate, take a walk, go to the mall or park. Then nap. Then after DH got home, I would go to a yoga class down the street 5 days a week. I would hit AM yoga classes and/or maybe a zumba on the weekends. I always looked for opportunities to walk with DD, and when the weather was nice, we could walk with firends or by ourselves 4-5 miles in the middle of the day. Park, lunch, nap.

Now THIS sounds insane.

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OP, are you getting enough sex?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you getting enough sex?

No sex

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you getting enough sex?

No sex

You got fat, right? That's the connecting factor between hot wife but you're bothered by her exercise regime, no details on what would make it bothersome to you that she exercises to stay hot, and no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Despite being "hot" and sweaty, hot yoga actually isn't that much of an intense cardio or physical workout even if you feel like you sweated a lot.

Is she eating normally? Does she know to step back from the workouts when she's ill or injured?

Also, does she freak out if she misses workouts? To me, that's one of the biggest signs of unhealthy obsession--when you start panicking because you missed a workout due to life or when you start ignoring a doctor's advice and work out hurt/sick.

Nobody is talking about hot yoga. Just power yoga flow at a normal room temperature. It is intensive and no not cardio--but holding yoga poses is more like lifting weights in intensity. And cardio (cycling) make me eat, whereas yoga doesn't.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is her therapy OP. It's her escape from the draining monotony of being home with a baby all day (which is, trust me, draining). She gets to leave the house and go do something just for her, plus the endorphins. I swear getting to the gym felt like a spa retreat in the early days.

MY two concerns would be the expense (hot yoga AND orange theory membership? Sound expensive...but hey, if it's not a concern for you guys' budget then why can't she spend the money on something she prioritizes?) and the fact that yes, religiously attending twice a day COULD be verging on concerning in terms of unhealthy addiction-type behavior and being rough on her body. Could be, but certainly maybe not. Keep an eye on her. Does she ever take a day off? If for some reason she's not able to make it one day, how does she react? How are her eating habits?

Op here. I am worried she's lifting too much at orangetheory. Those work outs can get intense. I don't think it's normal to go 5 days a week.

[Anonymous]

I've never tried Orangetheory but it looks awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Despite being "hot" and sweaty, hot yoga actually isn't that much of an intense cardio or physical workout even if you feel like you sweated a lot.

Is she eating normally? Does she know to step back from the workouts when she's ill or injured?

Also, does she freak out if she misses workouts? To me, that's one of the biggest signs of unhealthy obsession--when you start panicking because you missed a workout due to life or when you start ignoring a doctor's advice and work out hurt/sick.

Nobody is talking about hot yoga. Just power yoga flow at a normal room temperature. It is intensive and no not cardio--but holding yoga poses is more like lifting weights in intensity. And cardio (cycling) make me eat, whereas yoga doesn't.

She does bikram yoga.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you getting enough sex?

No sex

You got fat, right? That's the connecting factor between hot wife but you're bothered by her exercise regime, no details on what would make it bothersome to you that she exercises to stay hot, and no sex.

No but we're cosleeping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Yes, it may be a coping mechanism for her. To cope, I do orangetheory every day, AND chug wine, stuff pizza and sweets, and take an hour long hot bath every night. It works ok I guess.

Most people I know who work out daily and claim to "chug wine and stuff pizza don't do the latter." One of my friends acts like this and its SO ANNOYING. All she does it talk about how much she eats, but we all know she doesn't eat like that, at all. She's just calling attention to her disorder by pretending to be the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yoga isn't really exercise. I find it a lot more mental and it keeps me calm, sort of like cheap(er) therapy.

When I was a SAHM I regularly worked out 2-3 hours per day, sometimes more. It helped me feel a lot better about myself and gave me something above the monotony of day-to-day life. Unless she's neglecting your kids, I wouldn't worry about it.

Haha try 1.5 hrs of hot yoga flow and tell me it’s not a workout.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, stop. Seriously. It is VERY unusual to exercise two classes a day or 2+ hours a day and not have an issue that affects your personal life. Whether it's stress, or body dysmorphia that kids could pick up on, or desire to escape the house - whatever it is, it's not all "she looks great, appreciate it!"

There's very often more to it than that.

Yes, perhaps she's fighting depression, or has a lot of anxiety or stress. Exercise is a healthy way to cope with all of these things. Much better than laying in bed chugging wine and stuffing my face with pizza like I do.

Yes, it may be a coping mechanism for her. To cope, I do orangetheory every day, AND chug wine, stuff pizza and sweets, and take an hour long hot bath every night. It works ok I guess.

Most people I know who work out daily and claim to "chug wine and stuff pizza don't do the latter." One of my friends acts like this and its SO ANNOYING. All she does it talk about how much she eats, but we all know she doesn't eat like that, at all. She's just calling attention to her disorder by pretending to be the opposite.

Obviously the quote mark should be after pizza.