4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.

Your DH is sending you a message OP and you really need to hear it.

+1
She's got him walking on eggshells too. He won't make a statement stronger than this because he doesn't want any more drama on a Christmas morning, the poor guy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.

Op, for all the smacking over rudeness you got as a child, you missed a lesson on being kind to children on Christmas morning. Per your op, you were the one who needed to eat, and you were the one who didn't want to miss the present opening. You made the morning about you and your needs, when most of us would have let the child enjoy their presents. I don't think we're going to get through to you, but I wish you would rethink how you handled this.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Christmas was hardly ruined. I'd be horrified if she said something so rude to anyone else. I had warned her she was going to have to pause to eat and I got up early to make sure the food was ready for her so she wouldn't have to wait long. Its not like I spanked her and she was in her room all of 2 minutes before coming to the realization that she should apologize.

She didn't need to apologize, idiot

You made her stop having Christmas so your pregnant ass could eat because God forbid you just grab a bite quickly until pancakes are ready

Listen moron, learn to read. Pancakes and fruit were ready. It would have taken her 5 minutes to scarf down the food. You need to learn to read. At least my children aren't going to grow up to become selfish brats. She's currently snuggling with me while reading one of her gifts. And she'll know not to say something so rude to others.

NP- OP any way you slice it you were dead wrong. All your 4 year old has learned to do is manage her irrational mother. Which, frankly, she shouldn't have to worry about this morning. Hopefully you are just hormonal and not always like this but if you are, please learn to manage your emotions better. For everyone's sake.

She won't. I had mother like OP and many mornings like her daughter just had and learned how to walk on eggshells early in life. I snuggled up to my mom after her tantrums too because I wanted to make sure she still loved me.

Exactly, and sadly OP sees this as a sign that what she did wasn't so bad and it all "worked out". And she's still defending her nonsense.
Growing up with an immature mother sucks OP, don't do that to your kids.

+1 It was my job to keep mommy happy.
My mom is a narcissist so it's even more complicated and has caused a lot of drama as an adult when I stopped catering to her emotions.

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I'm pregnant and hungry too.
My DH and I grabbed snacks from the kitchen and we watched the kids open all their gifts.
DH made the special Christmas breakfast and the kids had the option of eating it then or later.
I even lt the one who chose to eat it then, eat it on the floor in the while playing with his toys!
I'm normally all about routines and manners but sometimes you have to relax and live a little. Christmas morning is one of those times.

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OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

Newsflash, that was a 4 year old child's way of trying to get back to opening her presents. The fact that you and OP are taking it at face value as a thoughtful criticism of her culinary skills says a lot. And none of its good.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

No I wouldn't because I don't allow 4 year olds to work my emotions up into a frenzy. I also realize that 4 year olds are people that have good moments and bad moments.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

Your post would make sense of what really happenned was that the dd thought the pancakes were disgusting. I'm sure she didn't, she was just throwing a tantrum. A tantrum that op put into motion by interrupting the present opening. I don't think anyone thinks tantrums or calling someone's food disgusting is okay, but op seems to not recognize her part in this, and particularly doesn't see how she's quite focused on herself, and her needs, and seems to be ignoring her own daughter's feelings.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

You do realize that OP's behavior led to her food being insulting. Be a little less controlling with your kids .

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A bunch of moms with NO PATIENCE for a drama queen pregnant lady. Stop making everything about YOU, OP. YOU were hungry but YOU didn't want to miss present opening. Your 4 yo acted more maturely than you.

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You totally set up the situation for your 4 yr old to be rude to you, OP. This is all on you. You keep writing that you can't believe we (a rare agreeing consensus on DCUM) would put up with such rudeness -- when the truth is that we would not have created the situation in which it happened.

My four-year-old came out of his room wearing his little Santa pajamas and clutching his beloved stuffed animal this morning. He was so happy to see what Santa had left him and so grateful ("This is all I wanted!"). I would never think to stop him from exploring or opening his gifts because I was hungry!!! This is the morning he has been waiting for for the last two months. He is 4.

You have tarnished one of the happiest mornings of your child's life. I cannot imagine ever doing that to my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

Newsflash, that was a 4 year old child's way of trying to get back to opening her presents. The fact that you and OP are taking it at face value as a thoughtful criticism of her culinary skills says a lot. And none of its good.

And actually it's an interesting point that the 4yo knew insulting the mom's food would get to her. The dd has already figured out how to push op's buttons. Those teenage years will be a rough ride, I'm thinking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.

Op, for all the smacking over rudeness you got as a child, you missed a lesson on being kind to children on Christmas morning. Per your op, you were the one who needed to eat, and you were the one who didn't want to miss the present opening. You made the morning about you and your needs, when most of us would have let the child enjoy their presents. I don't think we're going to get through to you, but I wish you would rethink how you handled this.

This. Even in my highly disfunctional childhood home, Christmas and my birthday were the 2 days of the year I knew I wouldn't be yelled at or hit.

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Op is probably shocked and rampaging anew that nobody in the house is hungry enough for second breakfast/elevensies despite her pressing need to eat again ASAP

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Why couldn't she have opened the presents and then eat? That is how most people I know do it, especially wit young kids. Some weird control freak behavior from you OP. She is 4, I bet you they felt disgusting, or she was just being polite and meant you are disgusting for making her wait.