How do you approach/ask for sex?

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

Are you married? I am, and so are the characters in the show.

This forum is so interesting. As a happily married woman (DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 20), i think most of the people in unhappy marriages created their own misery by not prioritizing sexual intimacy. FTR, either party in a happy marriage most certainly CAN arouse their sleeping partner for sex. There's obviously a right way and a clumsy way to do this. Jamie Fraser does it the right way.

Do you married people really speak to your spouses in blunt contractual terms to secure consent before touching? "May I hug you, Dave?" I suspect your kind simply doesn't have real intimacy...or fun.

Yes they do and that scenes is very rapey. There was a thread about that subject. Many of the posters complained about waking up with their partner/husband/boyfriend “doing it” to them. Their partner would claim they were really into it, but the woman did not remember anything but being asleep. I had a friend who said she was sleeping and woke up riding on top.

So if someone is sleeping you can not tough them. This is more relevant now with the me too stuff. If you are a men, do not touch an unconscious woman. Even if she is you wife/girlfriend etc. You could find yourself in jail and or shamed on social media. Let’s face it there is no way to defend...well she was sleeping(unconscious) and I just started touching her...

The same applies for women touch an unconscious guy. You just can not do that.

So you have never awakened your spouse, and your spouse has never awakened you? That's rather sad.

I believe the scene suggestion came from a woman who had shown the clip to her DH as an example of what she’s like done to her, no? That would indicate consent on her part bin which case all is good.

But it is not something done in my relationship and I am perfectly fine with that.

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

You sound like a lot of fun

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My DH has many subtle and unsubtle ways. Last night was unsubtle. I was in my nightgown bent over the sink brushing my teeth and he came up behind me and started rubbing against me. Things rapidly progressed from there.

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

Are you married? I am, and so are the characters in the show.

This forum is so interesting. As a happily married woman (DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 20), i think most of the people in unhappy marriages created their own misery by not prioritizing sexual intimacy. FTR, either party in a happy marriage most certainly CAN arouse their sleeping partner for sex. There's obviously a right way and a clumsy way to do this. Jamie Fraser does it the right way.

Do you married people really speak to your spouses in blunt contractual terms to secure consent before touching? "May I hug you, Dave?" I suspect your kind simply doesn't have real intimacy...or fun.

Yes they do and that scenes is very rapey. There was a thread about that subject. Many of the posters complained about waking up with their partner/husband/boyfriend “doing it” to them. Their partner would claim they were really into it, but the woman did not remember anything but being asleep. I had a friend who said she was sleeping and woke up riding on top.

So if someone is sleeping you can not tough them. This is more relevant now with the me too stuff. If you are a men, do not touch an unconscious woman. Even if she is you wife/girlfriend etc. You could find yourself in jail and or shamed on social media. Let’s face it there is no way to defend...well she was sleeping(unconscious) and I just started touching her...

The same applies for women touch an unconscious guy. You just can not do that.

So you have never awakened your spouse, and your spouse has never awakened you? That's rather sad.

So you are admitting to raping your spouse. How sick.

WTF PP. I am all about consent and my DH and I don't do 'wake me up' sex because we really really like sleeping but waking a spouse that you have a positive sexually healthy relationship with is not rape. If spouse wakes up and says stop then stop. But if this is an established part of a couple's life then it is fine and you should back off, you're going to give healthy people complexes.

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

Are you married? I am, and so are the characters in the show.

This forum is so interesting. As a happily married woman (DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 20), i think most of the people in unhappy marriages created their own misery by not prioritizing sexual intimacy. FTR, either party in a happy marriage most certainly CAN arouse their sleeping partner for sex. There's obviously a right way and a clumsy way to do this. Jamie Fraser does it the right way.

Do you married people really speak to your spouses in blunt contractual terms to secure consent before touching? "May I hug you, Dave?" I suspect your kind simply doesn't have real intimacy...or fun.

Yes they do and that scenes is very rapey. There was a thread about that subject. Many of the posters complained about waking up with their partner/husband/boyfriend “doing it” to them. Their partner would claim they were really into it, but the woman did not remember anything but being asleep. I had a friend who said she was sleeping and woke up riding on top.

So if someone is sleeping you can not tough them. This is more relevant now with the me too stuff. If you are a men, do not touch an unconscious woman. Even if she is you wife/girlfriend etc. You could find yourself in jail and or shamed on social media. Let’s face it there is no way to defend...well she was sleeping(unconscious) and I just started touching her...

The same applies for women touch an unconscious guy. You just can not do that.

So you have never awakened your spouse, and your spouse has never awakened you? That's rather sad.

So you are admitting to raping your spouse. How sick.

Oh, go away, PP. You are the the quintessential dumb feminist that that gives all feminists a bad name. There is a difference between a new relationship and married couple with established boundaries.

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You mean all the times my wife has woken me up with a BJ, it was rape? Horrifying! I'm going to tell her to stop doing that!

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I can't believe this is so complicatd for you people. I don't have to be asked or give VERBAL consent for sex with my own DH.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is so complicatd for you people. I don't have to be asked or give VERBAL consent for sex with my own DH.

and before that gets misinterpreted, its all consensual.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is so complicatd for you people. I don't have to be asked or give VERBAL consent for sex with my own DH.

and before that gets misinterpreted, its all consensual.

A few days ago my DH climbed into bed carrying a clip board to which he attached a consent form for me to sign. The details on the form were hilarious....and explicit....but I agreed to all of them except for the one that "allowed him to call a friend".

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

Are you married? I am, and so are the characters in the show.

This forum is so interesting. As a happily married woman (DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 20), i think most of the people in unhappy marriages created their own misery by not prioritizing sexual intimacy. FTR, either party in a happy marriage most certainly CAN arouse their sleeping partner for sex. There's obviously a right way and a clumsy way to do this. Jamie Fraser does it the right way.

Do you married people really speak to your spouses in blunt contractual terms to secure consent before touching? "May I hug you, Dave?" I suspect your kind simply doesn't have real intimacy...or fun.

Yes they do and that scenes is very rapey. There was a thread about that subject. Many of the posters complained about waking up with their partner/husband/boyfriend “doing it” to them. Their partner would claim they were really into it, but the woman did not remember anything but being asleep. I had a friend who said she was sleeping and woke up riding on top.

So if someone is sleeping you can not tough them. This is more relevant now with the me too stuff. If you are a men, do not touch an unconscious woman. Even if she is you wife/girlfriend etc. You could find yourself in jail and or shamed on social media. Let’s face it there is no way to defend...well she was sleeping(unconscious) and I just started touching her...

The same applies for women touch an unconscious guy. You just can not do that.

So you have never awakened your spouse, and your spouse has never awakened you? That's rather sad.

So you are admitting to raping your spouse. How sick.

WTF PP. I am all about consent and my DH and I don't do 'wake me up' sex because we really really like sleeping but waking a spouse that you have a positive sexually healthy relationship with is not rape. If spouse wakes up and says stop then stop. But if this is an established part of a couple's life then it is fine and you should back off, you're going to give healthy people complexes.

No rape is not positive and sexual healthy. You are very sick.

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Anonymous wrote:You mean all the times my wife has woken me up with a BJ, it was rape? Horrifying! I'm going to tell her to stop doing that!

+1

Yeah, women who push this rigid, black and white, "positive consent" theory should be careful that they aren't incriminating themselves in the process. I guarantee you that more men have been awaked to a BJ than women have been awakened to sex.

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Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Too rapey

Did you even watch it? It's not rapey at all. She wakes up, is clearly into it, and begs him to...well ya know.

If you watch the series (or google "what outlander can teach Hollywood about consent"), you would realize that he always asks if he can kiss her/touch her/whatever. He'll ask her if she wants him.

Did he get her consent before waking her up? Just because she had sex with him earlier, that doesn't mean she consents now. I understand how, in fiction, this might be hot. But, in real life, you can't just grope a sleeping woman and hope she wakes up and decides she's into it.

Are you married? I am, and so are the characters in the show.

This forum is so interesting. As a happily married woman (DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 20), i think most of the people in unhappy marriages created their own misery by not prioritizing sexual intimacy. FTR, either party in a happy marriage most certainly CAN arouse their sleeping partner for sex. There's obviously a right way and a clumsy way to do this. Jamie Fraser does it the right way.

Do you married people really speak to your spouses in blunt contractual terms to secure consent before touching? "May I hug you, Dave?" I suspect your kind simply doesn't have real intimacy...or fun.

Yes they do and that scenes is very rapey. There was a thread about that subject. Many of the posters complained about waking up with their partner/husband/boyfriend “doing it” to them. Their partner would claim they were really into it, but the woman did not remember anything but being asleep. I had a friend who said she was sleeping and woke up riding on top.

So if someone is sleeping you can not tough them. This is more relevant now with the me too stuff. If you are a men, do not touch an unconscious woman. Even if she is you wife/girlfriend etc. You could find yourself in jail and or shamed on social media. Let’s face it there is no way to defend...well she was sleeping(unconscious) and I just started touching her...

The same applies for women touch an unconscious guy. You just can not do that.

So you have never awakened your spouse, and your spouse has never awakened you? That's rather sad.

So you are admitting to raping your spouse. How sick.

WTF PP. I am all about consent and my DH and I don't do 'wake me up' sex because we really really like sleeping but waking a spouse that you have a positive sexually healthy relationship with is not rape. If spouse wakes up and says stop then stop. But if this is an established part of a couple's life then it is fine and you should back off, you're going to give healthy people complexes.

No rape is not positive and sexual healthy. You are very sick.

And you are dense. Just shut up. -NP

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Gentle massage of her shoulders and light nipple play. She lets me know quickly if we are on.....

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Anonymous wrote:You mean all the times my wife has woken me up with a BJ, it was rape? Horrifying! I'm going to tell her to stop doing that!

You were prolly dreaming, wives don't do that. LoL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You mean all the times my wife has woken me up with a BJ, it was rape? Horrifying! I'm going to tell her to stop doing that!

You were prolly dreaming, wives don't do that. LoL

Right, but girlfriends do. Get yourself a girlfriend.