How do you approach/ask for sex?

[Anonymous]

That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

THIS!! If he's not trying to connect to you first through touching, or talking, or even emotionally, why would he try to connect to you sexually unless that's all he's seeing you as?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

Well, when you invite a fwb over action is pretty much assumed and you're both in the mood otherwise you wouldn't be getting together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there is anything wrong with the direct approach.
Sometimes direct is best and all the dancing around is just silly.

Don't get me wrong romance, teasing and all the build up have their place, but sometimes it's nice just to get down to it.

I think that's one of the best things about a relationship.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are pretty direct. Of course there are times it just happens but to be honest, if it’s been a few days and we’ve both been really busy, we’ll make a plan to do it the next day, like a date. Otherwise I feel like it can be really easy to fall into the “I’m so tired, maybe tomorrow” grind of life. When he makes the plan with me, it lets me know he’s been thinking of me and isn’t avoiding it, and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have cute code words we can use so the kids don't understand. But sometimes we'll whisper truly smutty things to eachother...creating the expectation for evening antics.

Don't complicate things. Be direct. Have fun!

I like romance as well. Heck, I literally made my husband watch a clip from Outlander to show him how to properly wake a woman for sex. But as much as I like romance, I also like it when he grabs me and whispers something smutty (like what he plans to do to me that night).

What episode, please?

Season 1, episode 111: The Devil's Mark. It's near the end. He thinks it's their last night together. She's sleeping, and he gently awakens her...slowly...using his hands. Then he focuses on her.

If you haven't watched the series, you should. I actually showed my husband a few select episodes (the wedding episode in season 1 is great). It's a very passionate love story, and the male lead is very old school when it comes to romance and foreplay.

If you don't have Starz, you can buy the app for $8.99 and binge all 3 seasons.

Thanks! That's what I would do anyway. That is, if I have permission to wake her up.

I've watched some. DW watched a lot. One time she woke me up after watching! Great success!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

Well, when you invite a fwb over action is pretty much assumed and you're both in the mood otherwise you wouldn't be getting together.

+1

Give me a fjcking break

[Anonymous]

Every night I just ask DH “Do you want any?” before getting in to bed. More often than not he says yes. Very direct- married 15 years. We save the romance stuff for weekends!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every night I just ask DH “Do you want any?” before getting in to bed. More often than not he says yes. Very direct- married 15 years. We save the romance stuff for weekends!

Haha! I love this.

DH and I have been together for almost 6 years his move is coming out of the shower sans towel. I can't resist his tushie or his bare chest. I need to get laid, he needs to hurry up and get back from his trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every night I just ask DH “Do you want any?” before getting in to bed. More often than not he says yes. Very direct- married 15 years. We save the romance stuff for weekends!

Haha! I love this.

DH and I have been together for almost 6 years his move is coming out of the shower sans towel. I can't resist his tushie or his bare chest. I need to get laid, he needs to hurry up and get back from his trip.

Nice.

When I need. Sex.I just walk around naked and dh knows What to do.Dh is on a business trip also and I am picking him up from Reagan wearning a teddy and my winter coat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

Well, when you invite a fwb over action is pretty much assumed and you're both in the mood otherwise you wouldn't be getting together.

+1

Give me a fjcking break

Sex is not guaranteed. I'm not a prostitute. In any case, no FWB/boyfriend/husband in their right mind walks in the door and says "Are we f***ing?"

[Anonymous]

Usually the instigator, whether it’s him or me, slides their hand down the other’s pants as we are about to fall asleep. Sometimes I’ll “hint” earlier in the day/night, although it’s often not particularly subtle.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a snobby bytch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's very direct/unsexy.

Last night my FWB came over and we laughed, joked, talked, smiled, flirted, starting touching a little and then he kissed me. We progressed from there.

IMO you have to build the atmosphere before going in for the kill.

Well, when you invite a fwb over action is pretty much assumed and you're both in the mood otherwise you wouldn't be getting together.

+1

Give me a fjcking break

Sex is not guaranteed. I'm not a prostitute. In any case, no FWB/boyfriend/husband in their right mind walks in the door and says "Are we f***ing?"

She didn’t say he did tard