Trying to plan girlfriend getaway with ppl w different budgets

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- the comment of "may not want to do as many spa appointments" is hilarious.

It's a trip to celebrate a friends b-day...not their honeymoons! I splurge when going out of town with my husband and will choose expensive dinners and such but don't see the point on a girls trip. Plus i wouldn't be cool with him going on ultra-luxe boys weekends so I wouldn't say yes to a major "splurge" girls weekend. I understand not wanting to eat at KFC when you're on vacation, but you guys can find awesome not super-pricey food in most locations.

Could you share where this trip is taking place?

I am not OP, but my wife takes a mom's weekend every year with 3 other moms that she is close with (actually, all four of the families are close). They get an air bnb, rent a house, or stay in a hotel; everyone has their own room. And they do exactly this--go to nice dinners, wine tastings, spa appointments, and shopping. Nothing wrong with splurging at all on these trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So when you say squeeze into a 3 star hotel do you mean sharing rooms?

To me that would be worse. I would rather have my own room, or share with one other in a $300 night hotel than cram 4 or more to a room in a $1K hotel,

How many people are we talking about and what city are you going to? Maybe we can help you think og a way to stay somewhere nice without breaking the bank.

They want to share rooms and beds. I did that when I was in college only. There will be 5-8 girls going. They are assuming 3-4 ppl per room. At bare minimum, I would want my own bed. I’m 40, not 20.

The more I type, the more I am leaning towards not going.

Why don't you just stay at a hotel they can afford, and pay for your own room? Or get a couple of suites.

[Anonymous]

OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

[Anonymous]

I think that you should downgrade a bit. $1000 room is not exactly the type of place where you share rooms with a bunch of girls.

[Anonymous]

Can you do a Westin or something similar? Honestly, the main difference in an $1000 night a hotel and a $300 a night hotel is the customer service and restaurants. I assume that people who want a $300 a night hotel aren't going to want to drop $200 a night on dinner or $500 a day at the spa either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

People were fixated on your original number because it very much sounded like people were talking about a $300/night room and that just wasn't good enough for you because you just had to have the $1000/night room. $50 room vs. $300 room is a lot different in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, the room is just the place where you sleep. I'd personally rather sleep on the $300/night bed than the $50/night bed, but I have yet to ever see a bed that would be worth the $700 markup you're talking about.

People were understanding about not wanting to share a room. People were also understanding about not wanting to stay in a a crappy motel. Because you would not give examples of where you were actually considering going, most people were left to wonder either what was so special about the $1000 room or what kind of snob you were or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

People were fixated on your original number because it very much sounded like people were talking about a $300/night room and that just wasn't good enough for you because you just had to have the $1000/night room. $50 room vs. $300 room is a lot different in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, the room is just the place where you sleep. I'd personally rather sleep on the $300/night bed than the $50/night bed, but I have yet to ever see a bed that would be worth the $700 markup you're talking about.

People were understanding about not wanting to share a room. People were also understanding about not wanting to stay in a a crappy motel. Because you would not give examples of where you were actually considering going, most people were left to wonder either what was so special about the $1000 room or what kind of snob you were or both.

Trying to stay anonymous. Let’s say we were going to Costa Rica. I want to stay at four seasons and others want to stay at a place with no service and no amenities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are in a position where the money would not matter to you, you could offer to pay for the hotel as a birthday gift to your friend. I can't imagine the others complaining about that- though obviously you would be out a large chunk of money.

I would 100% treat my friend. Yes, I’m in a position to spend a few grand for a gf getaway.

I don’t really want to pay for girls I don’t know at all.

But OP, you weren't going to upgrade everyone. You said you "don't really want to pay for girls I don't know at all."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are in a position where the money would not matter to you, you could offer to pay for the hotel as a birthday gift to your friend. I can't imagine the others complaining about that- though obviously you would be out a large chunk of money.

I would 100% treat my friend. Yes, I’m in a position to spend a few grand for a gf getaway.

I don’t really want to pay for girls I don’t know at all.

But OP, you weren't going to upgrade everyone. You said you "don't really want to pay for girls I don't know at all."

Felt differently at different times.

I was just catching up with an old childhood friend. They are having trouble paying bills and can’t seem to swing xmas gifts. I just needed a reality check. I feel fortunate that we can afford to do whatever we want. I can live without going to the spa. Pp was right. These girls probably won’t want to spend 500 at the spa or 200 at dinner and that is ok.

I still do want to stay at a nicer place. Have no problem paying for my friend in full. I still don’t like idea of treating strangers. Maybe when I meet them, it will feel different and I will pick up tab a few times.

As of now, we have no hotel and no flights so who knows what will happen. I think for some in group, the 300 is the splurge. They are pricing out flights to see how much they can afford on hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

People were fixated on your original number because it very much sounded like people were talking about a $300/night room and that just wasn't good enough for you because you just had to have the $1000/night room. $50 room vs. $300 room is a lot different in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, the room is just the place where you sleep. I'd personally rather sleep on the $300/night bed than the $50/night bed, but I have yet to ever see a bed that would be worth the $700 markup you're talking about.

People were understanding about not wanting to share a room. People were also understanding about not wanting to stay in a a crappy motel. Because you would not give examples of where you were actually considering going, most people were left to wonder either what was so special about the $1000 room or what kind of snob you were or both.

Trying to stay anonymous. Let’s say we were going to Costa Rica. I want to stay at four seasons and others want to stay at a place with no service and no amenities.

This is ridiculous. It's a girls' weekend with people of all different incomes and budgets. You cannot expect to stay at the Four Seasons! That doesn't mean you have to stay at a crappy motel. It is not an all or nothing thing. So, for $300/night, you get no services and no amenities? In Costa Rica? Somehow I doubt that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

People were fixated on your original number because it very much sounded like people were talking about a $300/night room and that just wasn't good enough for you because you just had to have the $1000/night room. $50 room vs. $300 room is a lot different in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, the room is just the place where you sleep. I'd personally rather sleep on the $300/night bed than the $50/night bed, but I have yet to ever see a bed that would be worth the $700 markup you're talking about.

People were understanding about not wanting to share a room. People were also understanding about not wanting to stay in a a crappy motel. Because you would not give examples of where you were actually considering going, most people were left to wonder either what was so special about the $1000 room or what kind of snob you were or both.

Trying to stay anonymous. Let’s say we were going to Costa Rica. I want to stay at four seasons and others want to stay at a place with no service and no amenities.

This is ridiculous. It's a girls' weekend with people of all different incomes and budgets. You cannot expect to stay at the Four Seasons! That doesn't mean you have to stay at a crappy motel. It is not an all or nothing thing. So, for $300/night, you get no services and no amenities? In Costa Rica? Somehow I doubt that.

It isn’t Costa Rica. I said I was trying to be anonymous.

[Anonymous]

I suppose that we could afford a $1000/night hotel if we wanted to, but I don't see why you would do that. It's just a flat out waste of money. I'm not a miser and I like to enjoy my money, but I also like to use it wisely. If your friends or friend's friends have budgets, respect that. Maybe they too don't want to waste money when it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I travel very frequently, and I look down on people who don't travel very often and must have "the best" when they do. A $1,000 room is in no way, shape, or form worth it.

A fool and her money are soon parted.
There's a sucker born every minute.
She knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

These are all phrases that apply to you.

Nice try. We travel often, just with the kids.

I decided to go with the flow. I will do anything birthday girl chooses.

Everyone seems so hyper focused on the $1000 number. What if it were 300 vs a crummy 50 motel?

In my original post, I wanted to pay more and upgrade everyone, not just myself. The whole weekend is going to cost like 1-2k. I know not everyone can just throw money around. For us, 2k, 5k, it is all the same.

People were fixated on your original number because it very much sounded like people were talking about a $300/night room and that just wasn't good enough for you because you just had to have the $1000/night room. $50 room vs. $300 room is a lot different in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, the room is just the place where you sleep. I'd personally rather sleep on the $300/night bed than the $50/night bed, but I have yet to ever see a bed that would be worth the $700 markup you're talking about.

People were understanding about not wanting to share a room. People were also understanding about not wanting to stay in a a crappy motel. Because you would not give examples of where you were actually considering going, most people were left to wonder either what was so special about the $1000 room or what kind of snob you were or both.

Trying to stay anonymous. Let’s say we were going to Costa Rica. I want to stay at four seasons and others want to stay at a place with no service and no amenities.

This is ridiculous. It's a girls' weekend with people of all different incomes and budgets. You cannot expect to stay at the Four Seasons! That doesn't mean you have to stay at a crappy motel. It is not an all or nothing thing. So, for $300/night, you get no services and no amenities? In Costa Rica? Somehow I doubt that.

It isn’t Costa Rica. I said I was trying to be anonymous.

Whatever. Anywhere there's a Four Seasons, there's got to be another hotel nearby that is still very nice for less money. You still can't expect a group of 5-8 women to pony up for the Four Seasons. The hotel is only part of the expense anyway - flights, food, activities, drinks, etc. It all adds up.

[Anonymous]

Op, I don't think you should go. You're going to be looking down your noses at these people the entire time. All your posts just reek of a terrible attitude and you're a bad friend for not being able to get over yourself for the sake of your friend.

I am like you. I can easily afford an expensive vacation with all the amenities. 90% of my friends cannot. So whenever we go anywhere, we either stay somewhere they can afford and I'll spring for some extras for all of us, or I treat the entire trip. And sometimes I've treated people I don't know and that's fine with me!! You have a stick up your ass about your HHI and it's really sad. Your attitude is going to prevent you from enjoying your friends bday.